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When I was 12 years old, I was raped, and became pregnant. I never told my daughter how she was conceived. She is 13 years old, and I just found out that she's pregnant. Her boyfriend's father kicked him out of his house as a result. Abortion is out of the question. We have to decide whether my daughter and her boyfriend will raise the baby themselves or allow me to adopt the child. So I have three questions.
1. How do I tell my daughter the truth about how she was conceived?
2. Should I allow her boyfriend to move in with us, and if so, is it okay to make them sleep in seperate rooms? (His only other option is to move out of the country with his mother.)
3. Do you think it would be better for my daughter to raise her child or should I adopt the baby? (I was unable to have any other children.)
Sorry so long, but any advice would be appreciated.
Hey...I have a few Ideas.
For one, Maybe you should start off by telling her the story. "13 years ago..I was raped..and you were the result. I loved you so much that I couldn't let you go." Something along that line to make sure that she knows that you love her and everything and make sure you tell her that she was NOT a mistake and that you never would have even thought of giving her up.
For two..I don't think that things could get any worse if he did move in. I think you should let him move in if your daughter really loves this boy and is willing to follow your rules. You can make them sleep in seperate rooms if you want to...it's your house and what you say goes. I'm sure he will be grateful to live there.
For three...I think that you should let your daughter keep her child, while you may helping out, this is her responsibility. So maybe all three of you can take care of the kid equally.
I hope I helped, and good luck to all three of you..if you'd like...get ahold of me and tell me how things worked out. :)
Becca*
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Wish I could have given you a (10)...Thanks!!!
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