Gender: Female
Location: Virginia
Age: 16
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When I was 12 years old, I was raped, and became pregnant. I never told my daughter how she was conceived. She is 13 years old, and I just found out that she's pregnant. Her boyfriend's father kicked him out of his house as a result. Abortion is out of the question. We have to decide whether my daughter and her boyfriend will raise the baby themselves or allow me to adopt the child. So I have three questions.
1. How do I tell my daughter the truth about how she was conceived?
2. Should I allow her boyfriend to move in with us, and if so, is it okay to make them sleep in seperate rooms? (His only other option is to move out of the country with his mother.)
3. Do you think it would be better for my daughter to raise her child or should I adopt the baby? (I was unable to have any other children.)
Sorry so long, but any advice would be appreciated. (link)
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wow i'm really sorry.. yeah, i definitely think you should tell her someday soon! and just let her know that your there for her if she ever needs anything.. as for her boyfriend to move in with you guys.. i wouldnt be so sure about that... because their not going to be together forever, eventually they will break up n then what? to add on to that, their only 12 years old... they don't understand much you know? and i think they'd be wayy too young to even sleep in the same room! if i was letting my daughters boyfriend move in theres no way i'd let them sleep together! personally, if you do let them they'll probably end up doing something they'll regret--it seems like your daughter is already regretting this.. it might make things worse if you know what i mean!! people at school also might say things about them if you let him move in.. so im not really sure.. it may be best if he just moves with his mom and even though your daughter may not want that.. it just seems like the right thing to do. but then again, thats just my opinion. better yet, ask him what he wants to do!! after all, it is his life so he should have some say right? if he does end up moving, she'll find someone new there are going to be plenty of guys in and out of her life until she finds the right one.. so right now she should just enjoy her time bein young n spend tons of time with her boyfriend incase he does decide to move! n as for you adopting the baby or letting her take care of it--i say you adopt it. like i said, shes only 12 and probably wants to enjoy herself. shes going to want to hang out with friends, be busy with school, and other activies and stuff.. especially when she gets older like in her teen years.. shes goin to want to party and stuff- theres no way she can do that with a baby. its a big responsibility i just don't think a 12 year old would have no matter how mature they were. i know your scared and just wanna do the right thing for your daughter.. but you should probably just go ahead and adopt the baby. i'm really sorry to hear about all of this and i hope i helped in giving you my opinion! good luck, and write back you can IM me or leave a message on here for me.. let me know what happens! =)--if you need any other help just let me know!
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