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When I was 12 years old, I was raped, and became pregnant. I never told my daughter how she was conceived. She is 13 years old, and I just found out that she's pregnant. Her boyfriend's father kicked him out of his house as a result. Abortion is out of the question. We have to decide whether my daughter and her boyfriend will raise the baby themselves or allow me to adopt the child. So I have three questions.
1. How do I tell my daughter the truth about how she was conceived?
2. Should I allow her boyfriend to move in with us, and if so, is it okay to make them sleep in seperate rooms? (His only other option is to move out of the country with his mother.)
3. Do you think it would be better for my daughter to raise her child or should I adopt the baby? (I was unable to have any other children.)
Sorry so long, but any advice would be appreciated. (link)
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that's a really hard problem babe.. first of all.. sit down with ur daughter and tell her that it's ok she did what she did even tho it necesarily isn't.. tell her that everyone makes mistakes and this is just a pretty big one that she's gonna have to live with and hopfully have a normal life.. when u tell her about the rape.. tell her that it wouldn't change how much you love her if you had been in love with her father.. next sit down with her and her boyfriend.. tell them both that raising a baby is a really big responsibility and ask them if they believe they are up to it and if they can spend the rest of their lives as a family.. i think if he's a good kid you can let him move in but if he's trouble then you don't want him around ur daughter or her baby.. and about the adoption.. ask ur daughter what she wants..ask her if she want's to keep her baby or if she wants u to adopt it.. maybe it can even be worked out so the baby thinks ur it's mother and ur daughters it's sister and that could work the best.. it's really tough hun i know but i really hope i helped.. i think the best thing you can do is be there for ur daughter.. her life is over as she sees it and just let her know there is still hope and if you don't pray.. pray now.. for ur daughter her boyfriend ur grandbaby on the way.. and most of all for urself.. hope i helped hun and if you have neother questions just ask!
xoxox-kenzi
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He's a good kid (15), and he really wants to be involved in his baby's life...Thanks!
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