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Hey. I need some advice and you seem like you like helping people out so here i go:
I'm a sophomore and ever since last year, I have liked this guy in my high school and he has liked me back. However, this guy is a player. He goes out with many girls at the same time. He gets over all of them, yet he's never been able to get over me. He always asks me out and I always refuse him. Who would want to go out with a player and get hurt? He promises me that he'll change. Sadly, I caught him making out with another girl the day after. I was devastated. I sent him a letter that told him how I felt. In it I told him how stupid I felt for liking and caring so much about him for such a long time. I also told him I was sick of lies and false promises. I ended it by saying "don't write back or talk to me anymore...leave me alone, you've hurt me enough." I should feel better now that it's over, but I don't. The thought that he'll never talk to me again makes me sad. Even though he's broken my heart and played me from the very start, I can't help but keep liking him. Should I talk to him again? Should I keep trying to make "us" work out? Please let me know your honest answer. (link)
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Oh my goodness. I've been in that sort of situation before. Actually, I'm sort of in it now. lol. A lot of people are players, including girls, but when the right person comes, they can change their ways for them. Ask him if he's willing to change for you. He may just be all over other girls because he doesn't have you. He probably cares about you but since he doesn't have you, he thinks it can't hurt you and he's awaiting for you to actual accept his offers.
You should think about talking to him again to let him know how you feel about him. Ask him if he can try to change for you and if he can't, then it should definitely be over and you should try to move on. If he's willing to at least try to change his ways, he's trying to show you that he cares. Sometimes it's hard to change the way you've always been because it becomes a habit and he might need some time to fully not be a player anymore.. Kind of like when people are addicted to cigarettes if you know what I'm trying to say lol. Playing people is probably like an addiction to him as well as a habit and he has to work on breaking that habit.
If you two do get back together, let him know he has to earn your trust before he has all of it. Trusting a player too soon can lead to some very unhappy endings but don't always accuse him of things because that'll end the relationship too. That's what I did and it sucks really bad lol. Also if you get together, don't stalk him and not let him hang out with friends. He's gonna think you just wanna be around so he doesn't cheat on you ((i know you'll probably wanna do that. i would lol)) and he's gonna think you don't trust him and get upset.
Best of luck
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Thank you so much for your great advice. Words cannot express how much better it made me feel about this whole situation. I will try to talk to him and give him another chance if he's willing to change. If he doesn't...I will have to move on. Best of luck in your similar situation as well. I hope you come out on top.
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