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Ok i have a lil problem.Well I am 17 years old going to be 18 very shortly and i am almost 8 months pregnant which i am happy about.The problem is my mom.Shes happy and excitied about this baby but i feel like shes trying to tell me how to live my life and raise this baby and it is really starting to get to me and i told her this and she says that shes not trying to do that but i can see that she pretty much is doing that just dont realize it.And another thing is she keeps on argueing with me about my b/f(the father of my baby) which i have been with for almost 2 years now.Shes always on my back about him not having a job yet and trying to tell me what i should do when i dont want to do those things, which he is looking for one and going through this one thing to get a good job.And shes just always bitching at me and on my back for everything all the time and i dont need the stress right now and im getting sick of hearing about it and argueing with her.And we have talked about it before and she says shes just scared.But she needs to learn to stay somewhat out of my business which i always tell her because its my life and i am going to be 18 with a baby and i need to become responsible.And all of this is just making me really stressed out and dont know what to do at this point anymore.What do you think i should do??!! :*-( (link)
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hey...well i can see why your mom is on your back about it because all mothers have those motherly ways and instincts..she's only trying to help you but i see what you're saying..she's doing it the wrong way by trying to live and control your life for you...so you need to tell her that you're going to be a mom too and you have motherly instincts as well and she needs to let you do your own thing sometimes because you know what's best for your body since you feel it...and you need to learn to develop these motherly ways..and you never will if she constantly tries running your life...tell her that she can coach you and help you but she can't do it for you... another thing- about your boyfriend...tell her that if you've been with him for 2 years, then he's worthy and he will do everything he can for the baby [make sure he will and he knows he has to] and tell her that having these arguements and fights about things like that aren't necessary during your pregnancy because it causes a lot of stress and anger during the pregnancy which can lead to complications...the environment you're in should be calm- not hectic..especially now when you're at almost 8 months...it's getting down to the wire- you all need to sit down [all three of you] and calmly discuss the issues that are circulating around your family during this time...just make sure one person doesn't constantly dominate the conversation- well i hope i helped..good luck, let me know! :D
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Thats the best advice i have heard so far so thanx so much. :-)
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