I'm 16 and a bruised member of the Sun Valley guard. I like rock climbing, camping, white water rafting, pretty much anything to do with the outside. Most of the time I'm at school, the rest I'm at guard or with the friends. I have a little brother that's 13, we pretend like we don't like each other, but really we're pretty tight. I tend to be my friends soundboard, so if you want someone to listen or if you want advice, talk to me! Signing out, Em'lee
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Location: Matthews, North Carolina
Occupation: Bertucci's
Age: 16
Member Since: July 14, 2004
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This is not so much a request for advice as an asking for feedback on a random gripe...
I've only recently noticed, after years of what seems now to have been denial, that most everyone loves being unhappy, simply because it is the easiest and most familiar way to exist. After several attempts at being a good friend to many people, it is apparent that my helpful thoughts are shunned, and my existence ignored should they find any reason to be angry at the world. After speaking with a close friend of mine on this subject, their reply to my disgust was 'No Shit, people hate the truth and happiness, because they know that these things are better than what they have always had, and will most probably ever have.’
This upsets me greatly, because it has always been my policy of sorts to tell the truth and be as helpful as possible...Though I noticed as a child that even my mother gave me strange looks for this.
My question is: has anyone else recieved hatred in return for honest attempts at being helpful, or something similar?
I feel as though I've been blindsided by this concept, it is extremely confusing.
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Ever heard the term "brutally honest" or "hurting to help". Most of the time when you give a completely honest answer the reciever is going to get mad. Not because your being honest but because your telling them what they need to hear, not what they want to hear. Half the time when someone complains about something or is having a problem they tell it to people not for help but for attention. They don't want someone to help, they want someone to be a good audience, to sigh and laugh at the cue times.
To answer qestion, your not alone. About everyone has faced a friend that has snapped at them for being to honest. Or had some random person give you a weird look for saying what you really want to say.
Don't worry about it and no matter what someone does or says, continue to be honest. It's better for them to hear the truth then to be lied at, and it will help them later even if they don't realize it then. luv yah, Em'lee
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Rating: 5
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I was aware that people wanted someone to pay attention to them when they stated a problem, I just didn't care. I ignore attention games because, to me, they negate any worth or respect the people playing them may have. So, as is obvious, I shunned them in order to be able to respect or even care about most friends I've had. That was a very good reply, however, thank you, and here's a five =)
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