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Alright, I'm kind of torn on this issue. My mom and I are really close and we always have been.
There's just a little background info.
My boyfriend and I are planning on getting an apartment together when we graduate. I kind of want to tell my mom because he's away, earning money to put towards our apartment. She always says "If he loves you, then he shouldn't have gone." and I always want to say "Hey, he's doing this for us," and tell her about the whole apartment thing.
Thing is, she's never been crazy about the idea of two people not married living together. I hate to keep secrets from her, though. She's like a friend sometimes more than a mom.
Another issue is...
Yeah, I'm not a virgin. I haven't been since...april? and my mom keeps asking in this accusatory tone of voice "You haven't been having sex, have you?" (this is where she turns into my mom) and I've been saying "What? No. I told you, we're waiting..." or whatever
But I've seriously been considering telling her. She told me when she took me to get the pill that I could tell her if/when I had sex if I wanted to. She left the option open. I've been tempted to tell her recently.
Thing about THIS is, she hates liars. Like, a lot. If I were to tell her now, I'd have to admit that I've been lying since, like, april.
So what do you guys think? Should I tell her about both? One? The other? None?

I'm just looking for an opinion here, mostly out of curiosity. The final decision will obviously be mine. Thanks!

Alright, if you plan on moving in with your boyfriend after you graduate [[ which I assume will be in the next year or so? ]], and you're positive that's what you want to do, you're going to have to tell her eventually, and the sooner is probably the better, because you'll have more time to convince her that it's the right thing for you guys to do.

Aaand, about the whole sex thing .. she's going to find out eventually, I mean, how long are you going to want to put up with her asking all the time, right? So if you decide to tell her, and she gets angry, chances are she's only going to be mad for a little while + I'm sure she'll get over it. Um, I guess if you really wanted to, you could tell her you started more recently?

As you said, the final decision is yours, so do what you think is right :o) Good luck!

xo .

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(Rating: 5) Thanks for the advice! Makes sense. =)
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