Hello. My name is Ally. I started Advicenators a descent time ago and have decided to become active again. I enjoy answering questions about anything and everything, so don't hesitate to ask if something's on your mind. I strive to be as open as I can with my readers and try to relate to situations in as many perspectives as I can.
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Gender: Female
Location: Upstate NY (currently residing in FL)
Occupation: Student
Age: 15
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Member Since: May 15, 2004
Answers: 7
Last Update: June 8, 2005
Visitors: 1028
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I had a great friendship with a girl, but I made the mistake of asking her to open up to me about my past and feelings. My logic was since she's so afraid that my opinion of her would be lowered if I knew about her past, then she would come to some relief in knowing that my opinion of her would never be changed by something she did years ago. She told me, then days later she was furious about me knowing about her past. So my problem is this: I am in love with her, and she's very distant. I never asked her out because she's against dating, but now she is around another guy a lot who also loves her. I don't think she's attracted to me, so there's little hope to begin with (We told each other everyone we had a crush on. She was on my list, I wasn't on her's). This guy is open about his love, and is very touchy-feely towards everyone, especially with her. I'm afraid she'll start dating him, and never really speak to me again. I give her rides from school, and recently she just walked off with the other guy without saying a word. I caught up with them, and she said she was walking home, and had plans to go mushroom hunting. But she walked in the opposite direction of her house and it was starting to rain. I'm not sure if I'm reading too much into this,or if she really doesn't want to see me anymore. So should I tell her how I feel and ask her who she'd rather be with, or should I spare myself the pain and depression that would follow and ignore this or ignore her. If this, then how do I possibly get over her, I don't really have many people I can talk to and I'm so very in love. (link)
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Hello.
Congradulations on almost getting me in tears. It doesn't happen too often. It looks like you have a lot of questions to ask her and no real inniciative to ask them. It looks like you have to start with telling her that you really don't think any less of her because of her past if thats what's bothering her, then start on this other guy. Don't come with too much too fast, or she may think you're starting an interrigation. Try sending her a note asking her talk, and see what happens. It looks like she may just be feeling a little dirty because she thinks you know too much, and trying to block you out with another guy. Be gentle with this, it may take a little time to get better. Remember that it always gets the darkest before dawn.
If luck can save you, I give you all the luck that I posess.
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Thans, but I already did what you said. She doesn't feel the same way, which I already knew, but she also doesn't want to date the other guy, thank God. I told her everything that's on my mind, and she actually apologized. Everything seems to be going in a decent direction, even though she turned me down. I guess the only bad thing is that, technically, every girl I asked out turned me down. It puts a little weight on my already low self-esteem. Thank you for the advice.
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