I am a mommy, a wife and a woman with a lot to say. People are fascinating and I love to study and understand what motivates, inspires and intimidates us into making the choices we make. I want to share my insight and continue to learn even more about the human psyche. Ask away!!
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That was very good advice and all of what you've said I've thought about more than once. Yes, I am a distraction for him and it's up to me to take myself out of the equation as I've been trying to do. We were friends long before his marriage and yes, I do believe he didn't want the marriage to begin with. The marriage is a form of ecomonics more than love and commitment. They both understood that when they entered into this venture but I think she's hoping he'll learn to love her as I suspect she already does him. He and I have talked about this in length. She knew of a relationship that he was exploring but was determined to not let him find out the possibilities out of fear of loosing him. Nothing beyond our talking and caring for one another has happened or will happen, for that matter! I've made up my mind about that and he's well aware of my decision. He's not pressuring me in the least. And, he's not new to marriage (his 3rd) so there does not lie the fear. His fear is loosing our friendship. The kind of friendship it's become. He'll always be a friend no matter what happens! But, that's all it can ever be as long as he is married. So, being used as a distraction? I'll admit to that but being used otherwise, I can't and won't allow that! He knows his way out of the marriage, it's just a question of how much he's willing to sacrafice for leaving it? Your advice is sound and very well taken. Thank you!
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