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Hi I'm Haley I'm 13.Well yesterday my 15 yearold brother's friend came over and my brother wasn't home.Since I knew him we were just chillin in my room and talking and stuff.Then we didn't have anything to talk about and he asked if I wanted to makeout I said yes and we started kissing on my bed and my dad justs comes in my room after like 5 mins.He was pretty mad at me and today after he picked me up from school he told me I'm grounded.Why is my dad so upset with me?! Any advice is welcome (link)
prbly not angry more worried.


How do I get a guy I like to respond to my texts? (link)
dont text him eva.hel come to you


Ok so im like 13 now and i think i got a promblem. i love sex..... like at night i take my hairbrush and shove it up my you know what. and now its all i think about! i want to stop but i don't know how.
Last week i went to a sleep over and i slept with a guy(naked) in a sleeping bag. and (this part is gross) i let him finger f***k me. He say he loved me and now any time i see him he wants to invite to his room. So (i was not thinging) i said yes! the next thing i knew we were doing it. he still likes me, but i fell sooooo bad. i mean i can't even stand next to him (or any guy) without feeling horny! I don't what to do!! so, am i a slutty freak? (link)
no your not its like any addiction youve gotten used to stimulating (gross i know)yourself and so u wantmre.just like anythng dnt listen to it listen to ur heart..dou feel unloved maybe talk to someone.dnt sleep around cause it might be fun but that sort of thing wrecks your soul.


I don't usually tell people I'm a christian because I don't go to church, I tend to swear a lot, I end up doing things I don't want to do like lie. I accepted God into my life when I was 4, I pray as much as I can or remember to, but I'm scared the He would see me as a hypocrite or something that He doesn't approve of and I wouldn't go to heaven and be with Him. Not just that I feel bad so much because I feel I've let my loved ones down and I don't know how to forgive myself, and I just feel like I messed up my life, and I don't know how to change. I'm scared to cry in front of others because I don't want to burden them. I'm just so scared. I don't know how to change and I pray things will get better. I always wanted to be the person people looked up to and loved but I'm the opposite and I can't help people I need God, I need help, I hurt so bad I don't know what to do (link)
gods always there like the sun blocked by a cloud it passes.u can pray NOW just get on your hands and knees and close your eyes you have to be on your hands and knees.say the serenity prayer in your head..take it easy on yourself change dosent happen over night. ACTIONS 2.call ur family do something nice..babysteps


What is a cute nickname for my boyfriend named Daniel?
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danny boy


Im 13 and so depressed. I think i might be suicidal. I almost did an overdose before i went to school today. I guess that does make me suicidal. But instead of an overdose i just cut my wrist, hip, and thigh until you could barely see through all the blood. My question is do I need help? And if I do, what kind of help? I have no friends, i cant pass science or metal shop. And my drawings are getting bad. What should I do. Please help me. (link)
do you have any hobbies you enjoy?u need to talk to someone you can trust.a councilor maybe or ring a helpline..


Ok well normally I dont bother with really saying stuff like this but well this is really bugging me. It all started maybe three weeks ago I suddenley really wanted to read ghost love stories,(I know thats normal)but anyway in my bathroom when I'm in the shower I get this strange feeling someone is watching me, then that went on for acouple of days then it started getting worse I would hear footsteps in my bathroom and btw I'm the only one in the house wheh i'm in the shower because my parents are at work, but I hear footsteps, and the bathroom door open then footsteps then it will creek close then footsteps. After that it will be maybe 3 seconds later and it will all start happening again over and over, and the feeling will get stronger that someone is in the room with me. I remember two days ago it was happening and I was in the shower, then I heard my mom home and she yelled to me she was starting dinner and I said ok well I started to get that feeling and it scared me so bad I started talking to "it" I just kept saying please stop please stop, and then it freaked me out so I yelled mom, and she came in and I said nevermind. Well those things keep happening to me and its starting to be more than just when I'm in my shower. Now for another thing, my dad decided to get a ghost detector on his phone for some reason cuz he was bored one day and he was messing around with it and I never told him about anything that was happenening and no lie he came out that night to show me that it said there was a ghost in the bathroom! Like the radar started beeping and going off. So that reallllly freaked me out. Now back to the ghost love story thing. I finaly got one on my Ipad, and I just chose one I never heard about it or anything I just like bought it. Well, After I started reading it, it got to the guys name which is james, and I sware my Ipad highlited the word James (the ghost boy around 15) in that book and when it highlighted it, it started shaking the page ! now just about everytime in that book it sayes james for some reason it will highlight his name and start shaking! So see this is really freaking me out what do you think it is I need your opinions! P.s. Also when I'm asleep I'll wake up everynight around 12 midnight out of the corner of my eye I'll see something and when I look its gone and then I freak out adn can't go back to sleep, thats starting to happen in the day too, like out of the corner of my eye I'll see like what looks like a boy and when I look it will be gone. Wel thanks for your time sorry if it was too long please help this is really scaring me, do you think this is a ghost, do you think you know what it wants? Thanks!!(:
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k stop reading ghost stories cause its not helping .maybe try to be friendly with it. give him a name and tell your parents?make it a family joke..


im 19 and my boyfriend is 20.

i've been dating the most amazing person for the last 4 months, even though it seems like much much longer to us. I lost my virginity to him, he has had a few sexual partners before myself however. The thing is, i heard from his friends girlfriend, that one of his old 'friends with benefits' is absolutely amazing in bed, and is that girl that 'every guy has to sleep with because she knows all the moves and is amazing in bed'

I was drunk when i heard this information, and a little bit taken aback.
I felt really insecure, and topped off with being drunk, emotionally unstable. I told my boyfriend that i didnt even know he slept with her, and that i was feeling insecure because of how amazing her sex is.
He pretty much confirmed my fear that i'm not as good in bed as she is, but im the only person he wants to have sex with.

Now all i can think about next time me and my man get intimate is that im not going to be as good as her. I love him so much and i want to blow his mind and make him feel loved and special. When i think about it... it's always been me that says 'that was amazing' and i always let him know hes beyond satisfied me, yet i havent heard that from him. I want him to say "that was amazing" etc etc. he only tells me i feel amazing cause im so tight, especially compared to the previous girls. But if i wasnt tight, i would be totally terrible at sex. I dont want to be, i ask him what i can do to give him the most pleasure, or what positions he wants to do, and he said he doesnt care. Just once i would like to be amazing in bed, and make him go "wow"

Is their any tips or suggestions anyone could give me to give him an amazing sexual experience? new positions to try or peticular things i can do to make myself better in bed? (link)
enjoy yourself sex gets better the more you do it and your new.guys dont want a girl thats been around and fantastic in bed that would make him insecure.those girls arent what they want and they love a girl thats tight.it gets better just have fun!




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