okay, hmm.. there are 2 guys that i reallly like.. hmm John and Jon.. lol :) well john i see him sometimes at parties,and he flirts with me sooo much. and i donno, and jon.. me and him have history.. we went out from sept. to dec. and then i had 2 move because my dad passed away.. and i dont know what to do.. lol..hmm .. i donno.. i am just so confused. :-\

If you think you love 2 people at once then you don't love either enough. - Micaela Logan

I strongly believe in this quote. Only one guy deserves to be loved (or in your case, liked) by you.

You can't like someone and like someone else at the same time. So decide now. Liking two guys at the same time shows that you don't care about either as much as you thought. So choose now. Chances are, if you aren't sure who you like more you probably don't like either enough.

Seriously, no one can EVER help you pick who YOU like more, let alone people you don't even know. You haven't even told us much about these guys. So I guarantee you NO ONE will be able to help you in choosing.

If you finally pick only one guy, you need to spend more time with him. Get to know him even better and get that other guy COMPLETLY out of your head. That's the least you can do for him. And even then, if you decide you still don't totally LIKE your boyfriend, it's time to break up with him. Dating is about experiencing new things, trying things out, bonding with someone, and finding what you need and want. You don't have to be confined to one person forever, you are free to date people to find someone that's for you.

And like I said, the minute you find out he's not the one you truely have strong feelings for, you need to break up with him and save him more heart ache. But if you do decide he is the one that gets ALL of your love, get the other guy out of your head and spend more time with your sweetie.

You could try drinking hot water with honey and lime or lemons in it (Yes, include the shells too >_

They're not hard to find, trust me. I know a lot of guys that would not have sex until marriage. You just have to look in the right place. My boyfriend for example. I didn't even need to tell him about waiting until marriage, he already knew about it and wanted it before.

I'm not trying to stereotype, but let's take popular people for example. They care a lot about their reputation right? So sex is pretty important to them. I'm not saying shun all popular guys, but if you want a relationship with them, don't be so surprised because you asked for it and now you're in for it.

The point is, you need to look in the right places. You want someone smart and someone that has self respect and respect for others. Someone that doesn't care about looking "cool".

Kudos to you on waiting for marriage! *high fives*

Yes.

- Condoms don't go all the way do they? And all it takes for an STD is skin to skin contact.
- Ever heard of crabs? You don't even need sexual contact. They can live in pubic hair and jump to the next person.
- If the condom is defected, like the expiration date passed, or there's a small hole in it, etc, you can get an STD (or pregnant).

So really there's no 100% way to make sure you won't get an STD if you decide to have sex.

You said yourself your boyfriend's had "experiences" in the past. Did you know that doing sexual activity with this guy could mean you're doing sexual activities with all the other girls he's been with in the past as well? "WHAT?!" You're probably thinking. Whatever STDs the girls have, your boyfriend may have. Whatever your boyfriend may have, you may have. You see what I'm saying?

There are STDs that are curable (if you go to the doctor though) and there are some that never go away and they have no cure. It will ruin your life, I am not exaggerating. It will ruin your future sex life (You can't have sex when you have painful herpes on your genitals can you?) and it will damage you emotionally.

So I suggest you use a condom. Get a flavored one! Better safe than sorry. I know, not the advice you wanted to hear, but I'm only telling you this because I do CARE about people's health. If I didn't care I'd just say go for it and hope you get an STD(s).

I think you're at the point where you spend so much time together, you start to get tired of your partner.

I suggest you two have a "break". It usually does some good because although you're spending time away from each other, you're not officially over yet. The time away from each other should either let you know how much you miss him when you're not with him, or it will let you know you are better off breaking up. I suggest you give it lots of time though before breaking up. I'd hate for you to break up and regret it.

Just think about WHY you love him. If you can't think of why you love him or you don't feel the same about those reasons anymore, it's probably time to break up with him. It always helps to think of the long run. Would this guy be HUSBAND material? If not, don't bother wasting your time and break up with him gently.

If you decide to stay with him, don't be frustrated if you don't feel the same about him when you first fell in love. It's like a cycle...eventually you get tired or have conflict with your partner, but if you resolve it your relationship ends up even stronger. The cycle may never end, but it's worth it if you're with someone you really, really love.

Dating is all about experiencing new things, bonding with someone, and finding out what you need and want. If things don't work out, you move on and live life.

Acne? Ha! I know some people that have some acne, but I love them nevertheless. When I look at them, I don't even SEE the acne. I see a handsome/beautiful person. I'm not exaggerating; that's how I really see them. I'm pretty sure not everyone will be the same as me, but there will be people that won't care about your looks and when you find them don't even let them go!

Gosh. There so many people saying "I can't really explain" and stuff. That's so untrue. I've already answered many questions on kissing, check out these links:

- http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=308815

- http://advicenators.com/column.php?u=HyperactiveMiss&mode=qview&q=329286

Personally I love romance because....it's so romantic! lol. I think it just makes the story even more interesting. Like gossip. Everyone (Okay, not everyone) has some romantic fantasies. Maybe some people picture themselves to be in the story. Maybe it helps people escape their own lives, whether the story is sad or happy. Also it gives you something to be happy about. You know how if your bestfriend got married or something you'd be happy right? Well in books you can be happy or sad for them. It's weird, but yeah. Or maybe they're just suckers for sweet things (like me). I don't think the question is about people liking romance in stories. I think the question is why people like romance period. I can't really explain why, but I'm definitely a sucker for love. Haha. Even if it's corny, if there's love in it I won't totally hate the stories.

Try a salad? Put yummy stuff on it. Dressing, almonds, shrimp, croutons, raisins, beans, whatever. And drink lots of water to fill your belly. That'll make you full. You might still have the urge for junk food, but don't do it!!! lol.

I've never actually tried exercises, but I looked on google and found this:

- Do pelvic tilt exercises to help relieve menstrual pain. To do a pelvic tilt exercise:
Stand with your feet about a foot apart and your knees bent. Place your hands on your hips near the hip bone.
Rock your pelvis forward and back 10 to 15 times. This can also be done while lying on your back with your knees bent. Tilt the abdomen upward keeping the buttocks on the floor and then press the small of your back to the floor.

If you'd like more or this doesn't help, just google it yourself and lots of results will pop up!

Everyone's always "in love" when they have sex. But look at how many pregnant teen girls there are now with no fathers.

Waiting until marriage is a very responsible thing of your boyfriend. Why? Because he has self respect and he is being 100% safe from STDs and unwated pregnancy by abstaining from sex (It's the only way for a 100% guarantee).

So what if you guys really did have sex? What if you broke up? It's going to hurt. What if you got pregnant? Adoption/raising the kid/abortion is not fun at all. Whatever choice you pick will still be very hard. What if either of you got STD(s)? There are STDs that are curable (if you go to the doctor though) and there are some that never go away and they have no cure. It will ruin your life, I am not exaggerating. It will ruin your future sex life (You can't have sex when you have painful herpes on your genitals can you?) and it will damage you emotionally. What if your relationship is only based on sex and not on love for each other anymore? There are a lot of problems I'm sure you've never even thought about.

So by waiting until marriage it shows your boyfriend is a TRUE man.

You say you're in love with him so much. If that's true you will wait for him and respect his decision. If you are not willing to wait you cannot say you love him.

Personally I am not religious and I'm agnostic. Maybe you don't agree with me, but at least you can see a different point of view. Life is what you make it. No matter how hard it is, you have to hang in there and keep reaching for the stars. If you give up you'll never die happy. Whether there is a god or not god obviously hasn't been helping a lot of people. Just look at how many people are suffering all around the world. We can't rely on someone that we've never proved to be there and someone that hasn't helped us.

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It's a good thing you know you have a problem and you tried telling your parents. Obviously they cannot help you, so I suggest you get professional help. You can join a support group. You can talk to your friends. The more you lay around the more you'll feel depressed. You have to get out there and do something. It could be going to the movies. It could be doing community service. Do something! Get active! Realize that being depressed and not getting help is selfish. There are people that have died before ever living life and there are people that can't even possibly get help. Just remember suicide is a permanant solution to a temporary problem and that hurting yourself is only temporary relief.

I hope all becomes well.

Honestly, I think your question screamed for people's opinions. It can't be helped. If you don't want our opinions, there's not much we can tell you except just be there for your bestfriend.

I already answered questions about abortion...click here:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=343420

Like people have already mentioned...why not have the child adopted? It's understandable if she cannot keep the child, but that doesn't mean she should go for an abortion. She will be able to pick a nice family for the baby before it is born so it will already have a home ready. The child will have a chance to live with a couple that can't have kids (for whatever reason) or a couple that just wants to help out a child and give them love.

If she is planning to get an abortion no matter WHAT and you CANNOT possibly change her mind just let her know that it is pretty scary. She might not be able to ever have children again. She will always live knowing she killed her baby. The pain! PHYSICAL and emotionally! Ugh. I know this lady that got an abortion and it was called a half abortion or something because it wasn't done correctly. There was still some bone in her and it jabbed into her, making her bleed, which was fatal. So then she had to have a SECOND abortion. Not fun, and totally painful.

Makenzie gives awesome advice doesn't she? I just want to correct something she said though. You CAN get sick from swallowing his "finishings". They're called STDs. In fact, you don't even need to swallow it; just your mouth touching him can put you at risk.

There are STDs that are curable (if you go to the doctor though) and there are some that never go away and they have no cure. It will ruin your life, I am not exaggerating. It will ruin your future sex life (You can't have sex when you have painful herpes on your genitals can you?) and it will damage you emotionally.

So I suggest you use a condom. Get a flavored one! Better safe than sorry. I know, not the advice you wanted to hear, but I'm only telling you this because I do care about people's health. If I didn't care I'd just say go for it and hope you get an STD(s).

Please read this for information about abortion:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=343420

You could google it and do a search on it. I did and here's a link for you:

http://pcchu.peterborough.on.ca/DP_piercing.html

Perfectly normal! I used to dream about my "perfect boyfriend" until I finally found him ;) So don't feel embarrassed at all. At least you know what you will want in a guy/girl, right?

It's true a lot of people take the word "love" for granted and I really did think relationships before college were stupid, ESPECIALLY middle school love and below. I'm not sure about middle school, but I do believe you can find love at a young age. Although people take it for granted, it doesn't mean true love isn't possible.

This is my opinion on love:
No one can ever describe love "correctly" or "incorrectly". This is because every person has a different definition of "love". "Love" has many different degrees. It depends on how strong you believe in the word.

Loving someone can mean ANYTHING. You can love someone romantically, or you can love someone as a friend, or as a role model, or as a family member, etc. When you're "in love" it does depend on how you're using it. If you say you love your mom, or family members, of course you're "in love". But most commonly, "in love" is only used for a "lover" or someone you're having a "relationship" with.

Love is when you love that person no matter what. You can't suddenly "fall out of love" with that person. You shouldn't just like this person just because of their looks or something superficial.

This person does NOT make you insecure or self-conscious, they should make you LESS insecure and self-conscious. They should make you feel GOOD about yourself. Not only this, but you should do the SAME for them as well. It's a you-get- and you-give- relationship.

Think about WHY you love this person. Are they good reasons? It helps to look into the future. Is this guy HUSBAND material? If the answer is no, don't bother wasting your time on someone you can't see yourself with.

First of all are you SURE he's gay? And by that, have you actually heard it from HIM? If the answer is no, please TALK to him and find out the FACTS before you jump to conclusions.

If you are sure, then read on. Don't be hurt. I know...that's probably impossible to do!

In the past I had this whole soap opera about this guy who liked me (and was GOING to ask me out) that was confused and in the end he turned gay. Ugh. It left me confused and hurt. But guess what? It's been two years and I have no feelings for him and I have the best boyfriend now!

Just tell him you're not willing to date him anymore if he's gay (obviously because he only likes guys right? lol). Just tell him how you feel. If I were you I'd tell him how disappointed you are since he didn't tell you anything and you had to find out on your own (Well, at least that's what I'm assuming; unless he did tell you).

Dating is all about gaining new experiences, bonding with someone, and finding out what you need and want. I'm pretty sure you've done just that. If things don't work out you move on and live life. Just hang in there and the perfect guy will come (that's not gay! lol)!

Check out this site:

http://www.inspot.org/std-info/qa-hiv9.php

If you do have something, most likely it won't show symptoms until a lot later and by then it's pretty serious. So you may want to get tested or go to the doctor.