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hey im a 14/f and i wanna knoe if this guy is into me he always smiles , winks , holds doors , laughs , jokes , stares i think he likes me but im no expert i realli like him but not in an obsessive way should i tell him how i feel ? please help me i realli need some advie cuz im gunna see him this weekend and i need to knoe if i should tell him or not . but the thing is is taht i think if i dont let him knoe he wont knoe i like him alot and hell move on to another girl

He clearly likes you! If you like him too, go for it - ask him out.

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hello my freind had sex and well just call him Bob and bob has pressured all his g/f into sex ! and my best friend well call her Jackie has just started dateing him and i dont want her to do the dirty deed yet cuz shes soo sweet and shes kinda gullable so shell prolly go and do it like dont get me wrong i love both of them soo much as friends but i dont want Jakie to have sex with bob but jakie knoes about bobs pressuring his other gfs into sex but she wont dump him wut shud i do i dont want her to get taken advantag of so shud i talk to her ? i need help cuz im soo stuck on wut to do ( ps were only 15 i dont want her to have it this early except bob is like 16)

HI,
I can understand your concern for your friend but you have got to appreciate that she is responsible for her self and for making her own decisions. You say 'I don't what her to do the dirty deed get coz she's so sweet'. It is an extremely personal decision to make, if or not you are ready to loose your virginaty and frankly you should leave that decision down to your friend. Who do you think you are, presuming you know better than she does? What you should do is tell your friend you are their if she needs to talk or wants to discuss anything. Then leave these two people to have a relationship. You will just have to trust your friend to do the right thing for her, whatever that may be. Sorry to be harsh, but as a friend sometimes you've got to know when to back off.
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I have really big breasts and a really big behind and guys at school and even guys that are old enough to be my grandfather keep checking me out and saying stuff to me, that its kinda annoying. when a guy at school says it, i dont mind, cuz guys at my school are fine, but when a man says it, i feel like slapping him! does anybody know any good "comebacks" that i can say to those guys?

It it where me in your position, I can assure you I'd go through them like a dose of salts. I presume your underage, and theirs a word for old men that 'checkout' underage girls. I say to you - confront them, tell them what you think about them and that you wouldn't go near them in a month of Sundays. If this is really getting to you, you must talk with someone though, don't keep it bottled up inside. Try not to think of this in a bad way though: 'I am beautiful and very sexy, loads of people fancy me but I have self respect and I chose my men carefully, they have to respect me and earn my trust, prove they care' - this is the attitude you need to take, darling.
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I don't have alot of friends because everyone thinks that I'm gay. Please help me out

I have quite a few gay friends and they all have loads of friends, go to my column and choose 'give feed back' to tell me a little more about the situation before I answer fully. In the meantime stick with the friends you've got. If people don't like you for who you are - fuck 'em.
Derfel
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my friends boy friend wont stop saying hes gonna kill himself but i dunno wat to do ,my friend doesnt know he told me so i was wondering wat do i do???? i mean i dont wanna tell her cuz it will like kill her so if i tell neone else then they will like report him to a mental place so i dunno wat to do!!!!wat do i do?????
thx~~
~*RiSs*~

Ignore him! He's just trying to get attention, if he really was thinking of committing suicide he would just do it and certainly not go on and on about it.
Derfel

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heyy. ok well im going out with this guy hes really cool and everything he said he likes me a lot but i went away on vacation a few days came back and ive been home only a couple days but hes not talking as much and hes the kind of guy where if we dont see eachother often he loses interest. i want to see him really soon but we both have to find the time and ik im overreacting but i just want to make this a long term relationship. its summer he lives pretty close so i guess i just dont know if i should call him and everything. hes only called me twice.

I think the key point hear is something you said: 'I want to make this a long term relationship'. Trust me - no successful long term relationships happen because at the beginning one partner was determined it was going to be one. Relax a bit and stop panicking - just enjoy your self with him. Let the relationship take its course, if it goes further great, if not it just wasn't meant to happen, theirs nothing that could be done.
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okay my bf like to go out with his friends alot and like is hardly with me ...cuz my parents dont like him..and he knos..but when he goes out hes allways with his friends, and i kno there are girls tyhere..and he tells me that he mets girls but didnt hook up with any of them..and im like yea right u kno?...so what should i do or tell him? should i brake up with him or waht do i do????!

Bottom line: a successful relationship is based on trust. If you can't trust him or he can not be trusted the relationship is doomed! Sorry to be blunt but honest answer, I say break up with him now.
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i got a few q's
1) how do u giv head
2) do u close ur eyes wen u r
3) what if he doesnt cum
4) when he is cuming what do u do?

OK:
1: Put his dick in your mouth and suck while creating a masturbation style movement. you should curl your lips in slightly over your teeth, to avoid biting his cock (painful!)
2: That's entirely up to you!
3: Don't panic, you haven't done anything wrong, if this did happen and you felt worried / self conscious talk with him about it and explain how you feel.
4: Swallow it or keep it in your mouth and spit it out afterwards if you really don't want to.
Have Fun!
Derfel
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ok, im 14 and i have been with my boyfriend almost 5 months and already we are in love!!! i mean i love being in love with him, i mean dont get me wrong its heaven, but i want to know if its too fast to let him put his hand in my back pocket? please help me! im probably overreacting but i just want to know what people think!
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No darling at 14 and after going out for 5 months theirs no harm in him putting his hand in your back pocket, or anywhere else for that matter! As long as thats what you want
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Ok, my brother, he's 18, and he has Asperger's Syndrome. It doesn't mean he's mentally challenged or anything, but it caused social and behavioral problems, and basically, he is absolutely impossible to live w/. I can't go through one day w/o him making fun of me, beating me, stuff like that. I don't think I can live like this anymore. He's always stealing mine and my other brother's money and stuff like that. He's so annoying and it's so hard to explain what it's like living w/ someone like this. Maybe if you looked it up on the internet, you could understand better, but I just need help. Does anyone know what I can do? I need help bad. Thanx.
Erin (15 female)

Hi Erin,
I understand the situation your in is very difficult. Its not your brothers fault he sometimes behaves the way he dose, you know that but at the same time you absolutely cannot be expected to live like this. The first thing you should do is talk with your parents and explain how you feel. After that its up to the whole family to come up with the solution, that may be simply talking with your brother, getting him extra help or as extreme as you having to live in a different house. In the meantime try to avoid conflict with him as best you can and keep your money on you! - good luck, be strong and you can get through this as a family. God bless, buy buy just now

Derfel

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Well i have been going out with my best friend for 2 months and we have just recently broke up. Well during this time of me going out with him. This boy named Joseph was trying to go with me but see now me and him have been talkin a few times. And even kissed a few infront of his house. But see i have just found out that he used to like my friend named jasmine. She say she dont like him and he said he over her. But see i really want to go with him but i dont know if i really want to ask him i want him to ask me hoe can i do this. or some thing signed Confused

I'm not surprised your confused - so was I after reading your question. My advice to you is simple - get a life! Then you won't have to concern your self with this ridiculous nonsense. By the way, I think you've just broke the record for how many times you can write 'but see' in one paragraph.
Derfel

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