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I'm a single, Modern Orthodox, Jewish man.
I live in Ellington CT and I'm currently the Co-President of my synagogue, Congregation Knesseth Israel.
I work as a paramedic for the Ambulance Service of Manchester, a commercial ambulance service that does both emergencies and routine transports throughout the region.
In addition to my Paramedic License, I have a degree in Mechanical Engineering.
I enjoy Bicycling, Reading (Sci-Fi/Fantasy, Biographies, History), Blogging, Watching Movies on DVD (Yeah Netflix!), and meeting people.
I'm looking for that proverbial nice Jewish girl who isn't intimidated by someone who's observant. I want to settle down and raise a nice, observant family.
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sounds silly, but if a guy doesnt come in your mouth during oral sex where does his come go?
At first glance, I thought your question might be related to something that's called "retrograde ejaculation". That's a situation where a guy has an orgasm, but no semen comes out the tip of his penis. This happens because a valve inside his body is malfunctioning and the semen winds up in his urinary bladder. If this is happening, he should be seen by a doctor.
But on second glance, it occurred to me that your question might be rather more straightforward than that.
I'm assuming that you've never performed fellatio on a boy and have never seen an ejaculation. That you're wondering where the "right" place is for his semen to go if you don't want it in your mouth.
When a guy ejaculates, it comes out in spurts somewhere between a water squirt gun and a squeeze bottle of glue- depending on the intensity of the orgasm. The semen will go wherever you aim the penis. Most guys don't really care where it goes once it's out- so long as it doesn't stain his bed sheets or clothes. It's likely a good idea to have a towel or tissues handy to clean up...
Some guys like to spray their semen on a girl's face or breasts or other parts of her body. Some girls like it too, but its more of a dominance/submission thing than a sexual thing, per se.
Having said everything above, however, I would advise you to WAIT and hold off on doing this. If you think you're going to hold onto your guy by giving him this pleasure, he's just going to want to get more out of you soon enough. Oral sex leads to regular sex soon enough.
Are you sure that your relationship has reached the level where this is appropriate? Is it likely that he's using you for his own pleasure and has no interest in a real relationship with you?
Take my word for it, guys may enjoy playing with the girls who give them BJs and other things, but the ones they want to have relationships with and to marry are the "good girls".
Good luck, and I hope that this helps you somewhat.
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i dont work out very reguarly but every once in a while i get into this exercise freak mode and work out for about a month, mainly on my stomach.
my stomach muscle is very firm, but i have a not so thick layer of fat right over my stomach [i am aware that everyone has to have that layer of fat there] but it's concealing my muscle. my question is-- if i started to do crunches and sit ups on a regular basis would i eventually thin out the layer of fat or do i have to create a specific diet for myself to do that?
I've had the same problem as you. Very strong abdominal muscles covered by a layer of belly fat. The problem is that doing crunches and sit-ups like you're proposing will only make your muscles bigger without affecting the fat too much. The bigger muscles will push the fat out more making you look fatter!
The only way to lose the fat is to burn more calories than you eat every day- don't let anyone try to tell you anything different. You can do this in three ways, by eating less, by exercising more, or by doing both.
By exercise I mean an aerobic exercise that gets your heart thumping and your breath puffing. That's what burns calories.
Regular aerobic exercise has a lot of other benefits besides making you look more attractive. It reduces the chances of Heart Disease (the #1 killer in the US), Cancer, Diabetes, back and joint problems, etc...
Now, I'm not a person who likes exercising for exercise's sake. A few years ago I was taking classes in Hartford CT and the parking situation was abysmal. I decided to circumvent the problem by bicycling the 15 miles to class. It wasn't nearly as hard as I thought it would be! I've lost lots of fat and I feel much better, not to mention all the money I'm saving on gasoline, oil changes, doctor's bills...
I'm still cycling the ten miles to work nearly every day, even during the New England winters.
I realize that bicycle commuting may not be the answer for you, but you should find some way to incorporate aerobic exercise into your daily routine by doing things yourself instead of letting machines do the work for you.
Good Luck and I hope everything works out for you!
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I'm a 15 yr. old guy and I've recently realized I like one of my best girl friends (Let's call her Rachel). She's a really nice girl-and at one of my friends parties last week, I told my other best friend that I liked Rachel, but I thought she liked someone else at the party (Let's call him Jamie). My friend wasn't sure, and she told me that she wouldn't tell Rachel or anyone else. I've been talking to her a lot on AIM, and I like her even more- but I'm not sure if I should make a move and ask her out, I'm afraid that my heart will be broken once again (already broken thrice by my friend I talked to at the party). Please help!
You should ask her out. The very worst thing that could happen is for her to say no. And that doesn't mean she'll say no six months from now if you asked her again!
Don't profess your true love for her or anything over the top like that. You'll probably scare her.
You don't have to ask her for a full blown "date" the first time out the gate... ask her if she'd like to go get ice cream, go to the mall, or the park or something sometime or something else where you two can sit together in a public place and talk. Girls love to talk, if you haven't noticed :-) AIM just isn't the same thing as face to face...
Keep it casual and without too much pressure or you might just scare her off. Just follow her lead and she'll let you know how to proceed.
Again, the worst she can do is say no. That doesn't mean you two can't still be friends, girls are used to guys asking them out. It also doesn't mean she doesn't like you, maybe she just wants to get to know you better. Stay cool and casual, don't pester her like a stalker, and maybe she'll say yes later.
Also, getting no for an answer when asking out a girl shouldn't constitute a broken heart- if it is for you, you're going to need coronary bypass surgery by the time you're 17! A truly broken heart is from having been in a relationship and having that relationship fall apart for some reason or another. You'll know it when you have it.
Anyway, good luck. Hope it all works out for you.
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This is not a hard computer question so don't get scared away - on my laptop, when I leave or go somewhere I wanna leave AIM up and stuff. To do this I have to leave my laptop open but my dad wants me to close the lid because it's healthier for the computer or something. When I do that, it logs me off (which I don't care about) but it also shuts off AIM. Is there anyway to adjust anything on the computer so that AIM will stay on when I shut the lid? Thanks.
This answer if for a PC, not a Mac.
Right click on an empty part of your desktop (NOT on an icon). This will bring up a short menu.
Select the "Properties" option. This will bring up a small window called "Display Properties".
Near the top of the window you'll find several "tabs", select the one labeled "Screen Saver"
The window will change to your screen saver control. In the lower right hand corner you'll see a button labeled "Power...", click it to bring up a new window called "Power Options Properties"
The top of this window also has several "tabs", click on the one labeled "Advanced".
In the bottom half of the changed window, in the section labeled "Power Buttons" you'll find a drop down menu labeled "When I close the lid of my portable computer:"
Use that menu to select "Do nothing"
Click the "OK" buttons on both the windows.
You should now be all set!
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