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Ok at my camp there is a dance. Is in 2 weeks. I really wanna go with this guy that i was dating last summer. I think he likes me but I am not sure. My friend asked him and i think he said yes but she really does not want to go with him. She wants to go with this guy named Jacob (Chico). Should I ask the guy first or should I wait and see if he asks me? PlEaSe HeLp..DANCE IN 2 WEEKS AND NEED A DATE! If you have any other ideas..PLEASE TELL ME! thxx

Wait a few more days... if he doesn't gain the courage to ask you by then, Ask him! :)
Just bring it up casually! Ask him if he has a date yet ( like you two are best buds and you just want to see if he scored yet!) If he says no, and then asks if you have one, tell him no... i was wondering if you might wanna go with me? He will most likely be impressed by the way you put yourself out there! hope it helps!

Q: im 16/f and there is a guy that is 2 years younger than me. i know age difference sucks but who cares. well you see we always use to flirt nonstop when we saw each other but we never kissed or anything! i dont think he sees me as that way?! i just dont know but now he has a girlfriend and i still see him alot but he always starts flirting with me. i love it and do it back and he always grabs me and holds me from behind and is like you cant get out! or just like pushes me..anything he can do to flirt with me. one time i wore white shorts and they were see-through and i guesss he told his friend that he didnt mind or whatever lol and that he was looking at my ass and also when i wore a skirt i guess my butt was accidently showing and he was looking at it and was like why cant more girls be like her (me)? trust me im not a slut though i have never had a boyfriend and only madeout with one guy so far! but now im thinking does he like me? or does he just like flirting with me. because what about his girlfriend i know he likes her! we always have such great talks though! and he is so adorable and sweet its unbelievaeble. he looks so much older also. but the whole girlfriend thing throws me off..everytime i see him he just gets me though. i'll probably see him tomorrow or sometime soon this week so do you think i should like just keep doin what im doin..if he flirts then flirt back? im not gonna try and steal him away or anything but i just love flirting with him and im kinda crushin on him =p and im not gonna stop talking or seeing him either..just not gonna happen

well thanks for taking your time!

Don't worry about the age difference, you two are attracted to eachother! Lots of guys have that problem, they have a gf, but they like some one else! You arent doing anything wrong by flirting with him, after all you are crushin' on him! He IS crushin' back, but he is problably confused at the moment. Keep flirting and when the time is right, you can bring up the fact that you two are into eachother, but he needs to do something about that girl! lol. So just dont worry and everything will fall into place!!

Q: Alright, so i have extremely dry skin,and i also have acne prone skin. I have been trying different moisterizers out forever. And honestly, i am sick of it cuz i have not been able to find one that works. They ALL seem so greasy and shiney afterwards, and if they arent, then i have dry skin after i put them on. I already know what to look for Oil free. and all that. My skin is retarded

I need help!!

thank you

Well, this may seem silly, but when i had that problem I used a dove night lotion(even when it was in the morning, it doesnt matter). It is for making your skin more radiat, but it also works to nursish it! hope this helps!

Q: God, I have a real problem. When I first came to Jr. High last year I was myself 100%. I didn't give a care what people thought about me, or who my friends were. Then in the middle I started changing my looks and the way I talked, and I found myself ditching my old friends (who were kind of geeky) to be friends with newer and more popular ones. And it worked! Some of the popular people hang out with me now. But I feel really bad now. Now that im friends w/ the popular kids, I feel like I dont even need my old friends. I even LIKE my new friends more than my old ones. So tell me... am I a total selfesh jerk for ditching my friends? And am I weird for changing myself?

The same thing happened to me before, and now I am just how I used to be! My advice to you is to talk to your old friends, preferably your old best friend.
You are not a total selfish jerk, you are just going through changes. But, talking different and acting different isn't the way to go, because that means your new friends probably don't like you for who you are, but for who your pretending to be! As far as changing your looks, that isn't bad, if you like your new look then keep it!
Once you talk to your old friends, you might decide you would rather just go back to the way things used to be. Or you might decide to keep things the way they are now. I think your easiest way is to keep hanging out with your new friends if you feel you are doing the right thing, while still spending time with your old ones. Remember, your old friends can stay new!