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Q: i just had sex with my dad and i'm afraid that he got me pregnent..what the hell do i do! i'm so scared. is it possible for my dad to get me pregnent

Yes, unfortunatly it is possible. Maybe you should go to the doctors and see if you are. If you are pregnant than you should probably get an abortion, or give the baby up for adoption. And you should seriously tell someone about you and your dad. Someone you can truly trust and make sure that it never happens again.

Q: my folks keep arguing and i get upset coz i think they are gonna split up. i dont no wot i would do if they split up plz help me

Have you tries talking to your parents and telling them how you feel and that you are sad about them fighting? Something you could bring into light is they could go to marriage counseling.

Q: ok look me and my boyfriend have been goin out 4 6 months and we are in a deep relationship and we are both in love wit each other(by the way im 14 es 16) but he said he wants 2 spend the rest of his life wit me and so do i and i believe him cuz he tells his siter everything and she tells e wat he said and he wats 2 have sex but he said if i dont want 2 he will wait but i kindof do want 2 should i or not?

I think you should wait until both of you are older. 14 is too young to become sexually active and if something happens, like you get pregnant or something, what would you do then? So I vote wait.

Q: well im going to this cheerleading class tonite hopefully all goes well but there all girls from the school im going to next year and i dont knwo anyone what should i do to make them except me or actually talk or be nice lol im really shy

Just be nice to them and smile at them, and maybe open a converstion or say hi to some of them. If they think you are a nice person it would be hard to be mean to you.

Q: Ok im like alaways masturbatingwith my self! yes im a girl! no bf either what do I do?

*Unknown sender*

It is perfectly fine to masterbate, it's not a matter of having a boyfriend and if you're young i think it's better to "do it" with yourself than with a boy you know? I mean if you don't want to do it so often than find a way to occupy your time doing something else like writing a book lol.
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Q: well i met this guy after soccer practice and we hugn out after and we spend spring break together. he was really sweet and we ended up hooking up. on our first month. of knowing each other (i'm 14 hes 16 freshman sophmore) neways.. well after a while we ende up going out. but he was homeschooled then so we didnt see much of each other but we still did.. i broke up wtih him after a week.. but stillhad feelings'.. we both did.. and the bad thingg is that we always ende u seeying each other. and it was awkward. we hooked up a few times after we broke up. and hes' spend the night at my house afew times and we hang out a lot now. and talk on the phone. i'm so confused idk wat i should do. i've known him for like 6 motnhs now. and i think i should find someone new. but when i do.. all i can think of is him.. we both havent hooked up with anyone else except each other..sunce we've known each other.. idk .. waht todo..

Well, if you both like eachother try to be a couple again and be more persistent to do things together like on the weekends and if it dosen't work it's not meant to be. The worst thing you two can be is friends.

Q: well every day after school an on fridayz i go to my friends house... an there are a bunch of guyz who are always grabin on me an stuff... well they really really like me an they always wana make out with me but i never made out b4 so im not sure what to do... we always play like spin the cell phone or bottle they always got tap kiss wit me cuz i refuse to makeout cuz im scared to an i really have no clue wut to do! an then when we play man hunt they always want like head or want to fuk me an im just really confused cuz yeah some of them are hott but i dont wana ruin my rep. at school or my parents to find out they never new i had a b/f or kissd yet.. im just REALLY REALLY confused... can someone plz help me?? :-/

-shellz

Well, if you don't want to do what they want you to do tell them straight and if they don't stop then maybe you shouldn't go to your friends house or make sure they won't be there. And just because they are hot doesn't mean you should do anything with them. And also ask your parents about this, you don't have to give them all the facts, but just enough so they can help you, and parents like it when you tell them stuff and they can help you, they are full of knowledge. Or if you can't tell your parents ask someone you can trust for help.
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Q: if you make out with someone, does that mean you sleep with them or you just snog them?

MAking out meaning kissing for a long time, it is not sex.

Q: my bro is so annoyin he trys to act gd in front of his mates by calling me names. he read my diary in front of his mates. wot can i do

Tell him how you feel and take action about him embarrassing you. About him reading your diary, put it in a place he can't find it or something. And when his mates are over try to steer clear of them so he can't be mean or call you names or anything.

Q: what do i do when i feel like everytime i get down or upset or depressed sometimes for no reason that i wanna kill myself.. or hurt myself... what can i do for help? my friends help by keeping me from actually doing it but im tired of feeling like i should do it.. i use to cut but my friends stoped me from doing that... what should i do?

You should tell someone you trust about how you're feeling so they can help you. You may need to go to a doctor for help, and believe me even though it's hard to go you'll feel better in the end.

Q: I'M 14 GOING ON15 AND ME AND MY BOYFRIEND HAD SEX BUT HE IS TELL PEOPLE WHAT TO DO

In my oppinion you two shouldn't be having sex in the first place. But, since you don't want him to tell anyone about you two doing it, just tell him how you feel. If he says he loves you he'll respect your feelings about not wanting anyone to know and he'll stop.

Q: There's this guy that I really like and I don't know what to do because I'm shy and don't even really talk to him but I like him soo much..Any suggestions on how to become closer to him?

Talk about things you have in common and that interest you both so you can get to know the guy better and start to develop a friendship that might grow into something more.