I know how you feel I've been there and done that. Heck, I'm still working on trying to be more confident in myself. No matter what my friends or boyfriend says I sometimes don't believe in myself like they do its weird. When I was 16 I was in the same boat but never got a boyfriend because I was either scared or I had no interest. One thing I've learned is that you have to take risks. If you don't then you'll never experience anything and you're only limiting yourself. Risk sometimes, unfortunately, comes along with hurt and no one likes to hurt. It's better to have feelings and experience then feel nothing at all and isolating yourself from everyone. I've put my heart out on the line many times and I've been both rejected and hurt. It's not fun. After being hurt though, I eventually get back up again and move on. Just because things don't work out doesn't mean it's your fault it just means it wasn't meant to be. You need to be comfortable with you and how you feel about the situations. Be positive and confident in yourself. Take risks and take the opportunities that come before you. That doesn't just go for boys it goes for the things that might come your way in life. If you don't take a risk, instead you're going to be dealing with regret. Good luck and keep your head up!

My advice is to try and give yourself some me time. Whether it's taking a 15-20 minute break once in a while. When I was in college I use to listen to my iPod and draw for a bit or even go out for a walk. For me walking is the best because it clears my head. What I have been recently doing is meditating which has been really nice. Try to make some time for yourself because if you keep stressing about this it's going to make matters worse.

My advice is worry about the life you are living now and worrying about becoming the best you can be. People will be people. There are many times where people will get on your case but its best to not let them get to you. Think positively! I've been in some tough situations that have made me feel worthless but it's not worth beating myself up about it. Sure I've made mistakes but the only regret I've ever had is how I've never stood up for myself as much as I should have. Have you ever read the book 'Tuck Everlasting'? If not it's a great read! The character Tuck says "Don't fear Death but fear the unlived life". Don't listen to what other people say, people are always going to say what they want. Listen to you, and follow your heart and mind in what you want to do. Don't let people get you down. I also suggest you go speak to someone whether it be your guardians, guidance counselor, friends, or even a therapist. Keep your head up!

There's no reason to be upset. As, Bs, and C+ are fine. No one is perfect. Don't beat yourself up over it you did the best you could under the circumstances. If you are really upset then try better next time. Don't beat yourself up over it because that's going to help you. Keep your head up!

There is no real way to tell whether you're pregnant or not without taking the test. I mean I guess one way is when you get the baby bump other than that there is no way. Either go to a store pick up a test and go to a friend's house to see or go to a clinic. Those are your two options. You won't know whether you're pregnant or not by not getting a test. Maybe even go to your doctor and get a test where they can do it by taking blood or by a urine sample. Whatever you choose, you need to know so you can have options and make some choices.

Forgiveness is probably one of the hardest things to do. Letting go of something whether you were right or wrong is hard. It's better to let it go instead of containing that anger. I'm not saying you should forget it but don't hold the grudge. A family is a family. With your mother, she is your mother at the end of the day and she has chosen to be with this man. Maybe you don't like the way she is acting when she is with him but you need to accept that. If she's happy she's happy. Forget about him and worry about the relationship with your mother. As for your cousin and nephew, if they want to talk behind your back let them. It only makes them look bad. Maybe try not to be so close to them now since you know this. Be aware of them and maybe don't give out any information that you don't want them gossiping about.

Happiness comes within. Make-up and doing your hair is not going to make you happy. What do you like to do? What makes you come alive? For me, it's singing and music...it brings out the best in me and just puts me in an overall great mood. Ignore those girls at school that seems to have everything going for them chances are they have things going on them just won't tell anyone. Think of something that makes you happy. Do something that makes you happy! Keep your head!

I'm not really sure what is causing your family to react in the way they do. Not saying you have but have you done anything to make them believe that you might hurt yourself? Has there ever been an event in time where maybe you said something or did something that might suggest you would hurt yourself? I know it might be hard to see but your family cares about you and wants to protect you. I'm sure how old you are or if you go to school but maybe talking to a guidance counselor would be best or maybe another adult you trust. Have you talked to friends? Try and reach out to someone close to you I feel that, that would be best for you at the moment.

You should get new friends! Your "friends" sound like fair-weathered friends. They sound like they do anything to please themselves and they don't care if they hurt others while doing it. For people to act that way I'll never understand. I had a friend that I was really close to and she ended up hanging out with some girls that didn't care for me. I didn't have many friends either. It hurt me when she did this but I realized I didn't want to involve myself with her if she was going to hang out with people that didn't treat me right. You need to stand up for yourself and get away from these girls! Meet some new people who will actually be there for you!

No one has the perfect home or gets along with their family all the time. I'm the oldest and I have a younger sister and we bicker a lot. I always thought when she was younger she was disrespectful and ignorant. Now looking back I didn't help much with the situation. When my sister listened to her music she would blast it like her room was a bar or club it was so obnoxious. Maybe what you should do is get some earplugs and maybe a sleeping mask. And remember there might be some things that you do that might annoy sister. At the end of the day, she is your sister and you're going to have to learn how to live with her. And later on, when you move out you'll have to deal with whomever you are living with because there is always going to be something that bothers you with the person you are living with. Good luck!

You know the ACT test and the SAT tests prove nothing. It's a bunch of information that I feel isn't even worth being tested on. I have never tested well in my life ever since 3rd grade I just never did well on tests. I would study my butt off but I would never get really good grades. My SAT I bombed...and it's not because I didn't try it was just how it happened. I put myself down when it happened and my friend told me it doesn't make me a bad person and it doesn't make me dumb either. I have a reading language-based learning disability and I also have ADD. I thought for the longest amount of time that I would never amount to anything. I thought I was dumb and that for the rest of my life if I needed to understand something I would need help. I didn't think I would graduate high school or even go to college. And I did just that. Give yourself more credit and don't let this test tell you who you are or what your future is going to look like. I know this has nothing to do with school but look at Michael Jordan. When he went to college in North Carolina he didn't make the basketball team and he uses to practice like crazy. Now look at him, he's known as one of the greatest basketball players in history. I know you might feel like the black sheep of your family but guess what you're different and that's something you should embrace. Do what makes you happy and find hobbies that make you happy. That test doesn't define you, you can create your own destiny. Good luck and keep your head up!

I have had some roommates from hell let me tell you. A girl asked me to room with her and of course I had hung out with her for a bit and thought she was cool so I agreed. She became so selfish while living with her she got to pick out how the room looked and when to go to sleep and who was allowed in the room a lot. It made me feel isolated and I was very unhappy. The RA got involved it was a huge mess. I finally moved out because I couldn't even stand the sight of her anymore. I don't speak to her because of it either. It's a shame that things happen the way they do but maybe you could really sit down and have an honest conversation with her. You girls have a couple more months of living with each other so it's better to make the best of it. You don't have to be best friends but maybe find a common ground and common respect for each other and how you live. Once you leave that room though and get another roommate its not always for sure that you are going to find another roommate that you can get along with. Living with someone is hard and you have to make some adjustments and be respectful of the other person as well. Be the bigger person! Good luck and I hope everything works out!

It sounds like you suffer from depression. I'm not a doctor so I can't say for sure though. You should talk to someone, you NEED to talk to someone. If there is something going on in your life or something is bothering you than talking to someone is going to take a bit of weight off your shoulders. I don't take cutting or suicide lightly because I knew a girl who committed suicide and it's affected a whole community. You should speak to someone you are comfortable with maybe a friend, teacher, guidance counselor, a parent, or a family member. Please go to talk to someone there is help out there.

You know the makeup, short skirts, tight tops, and high heels aren't everything you know. I went to high school every day in sweatpants and a sweatshirt. I dressed up once in awhile but not every day. I always thought to myself who am I dressing up for? I was more comfortable in the sweatpants than in a skirt. I had a lot of problems with acne when I was younger I just had to start a routine with washing my face day and night. I even have some acne once in a while now and its something I have to deal with. I know you look at those girls thinking why can't I be them or dress like them? Be comfortable with who you are and what you're wearing and with how you look. Being younger doesn't have anything to do with it, its rather being comfortable with who you are. Maybe when you get older you might consider dressing up or wearing makeup. Don't go along with that just because the other girls are doing it. Do what you want because it's what you want to do and it's what makes you feel happy.

Your ex-boyfriend is being very childish and a bit selfish as well. I can understand a break up can be hard but he's making a little bit harder by acting like this. Your mutual friends shouldn't be acting this way either and it's not fair that you're missing out on things because of his behavior. My first boyfriend and I had a rough patch after our break-up. We didn't really speak but a whole bunch of drama went down. Of course, it was awkward for a few years because he would always make a big deal about being in the same place or hanging around the same people. It wasn't until a year or two ago that we came to an agreement. We don't have to love each other we should just be civil to one another. What's the point in fighting? And there's a lot of negative energy that's going on trying to ignore on another we should just be civil. And we are. He's not my best friend but we talk and it's much more of a positive situation than what it was before. Is there any way for you to call him and come to an agreement or something? Try talking to him and telling him whats going on. If he isn't responsive I would talk to your mutual friends and get their intake on it. If you can't get an answer from anyone I would just move on and maybe find a new group of friends to hang out with.

I took a babysitting course and I've been babysitting my little cousins for 11 years. The best thing to do is play some games or get a fun movie to watch. Maybe you can make a fun box with dress up things or maybe some games from home. Maybe you have some stuffed animals that you don't want anymore and put them in the box. An easy thing would be a movie before they go to bed. Kids like to play though and they like to be entertained so if I were you I would try to start a game. See how the kids are first and see if they warm up to you. The kids might just want to watch a movie or their favorite TV show. Maybe read them a book before bed. Have fun and good luck!

I looked at this question and it took me back to my years when my sister and I were so competitive. When I was younger I had a learning disability and I needed a lot of attention. I would have to go see doctors and I needed extra help in school. I got a bit more attention than my sister and I don't think she liked it very much. Sometimes when we have siblings they might need a bit more attention. It doesn't mean that your parents careless about you and it doesn't mean they don't love you. So what if your sister got a present? It doesn't make her better and it doesn't mean she is loved more. Don't think about what you don't have to think about what you have and be grateful!

Why are you jealous of your boyfriend? Is it because he gets a lot of attention? Does he hang around with other girls? And as far as trust goes you need that in your relationship. Without trust, there is no relationship. What I have always said, is that there are two main things in a relationship which are trust and communication. When something goes wrong in a relationship the best thing to do is to talk it out. Everyone is so quick to break up instead of fixing the problem and making sure that everyone is happy. For years and years when I was dating, I had boyfriends who I couldn't talk to. I wasn't allowed to talk to them and I always wanted to be with someone that could be my boyfriend but also be a friend as well. My boyfriend and I know have great communication and trust. It's unbelievable because whenever there is a problem we fix it. If something is bothering me I tell him. If I said something to upset him, he tells me. We work it out. Trust is something that you need to have with your boyfriend. Talk to him and tell him what's bothering you!

It's hard to really tell! I mean of course if you kissed your boyfriend than chances are you were more likely to get it from him. However, if there has been a bug going around than you might have caught it suddenly. The best thing to do is get some rest and take care of yourself. You want to make sure you drink lots of water and get lots of sleep. I hope you and your boyfriend feel better!

I'm sorry to hear that, it can be really tough! I've had that happen many times I make friends and they move away. As much as you hate to see her go, you have to let her go. You can always stay in touch and send emails back and forth or maybe go visit once in awhile. I know it won't be the same but you'll figure out a way. It doesn't mean you two won't be friends anymore.

The name is Jessica, I'm 30 years old. I'm married to the love of my life, and I am a mother to a beautiful little angel. I'm outgoing, fun to be around, love my fam and close friends. I'm a blogger, singer, bookworm, college grad, & stay at home mom.

*what I give advice on*
teen sexuality - health - college - school - fashion - relationships - friendships - depression - mental health (anything basically)

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