about

hey, i'm mandie but umm..this is my advice column (obviously) and don't feel stupid to ask ANYTHING b/c i'll never know who you are unless you sign your name *cough* jack *cough* haha..!

A little MORE about me: ((ehh..don't get TOO excited!))
name: mandie michelle funk
age: 15
sex: female
location: texas
birthday: april 11
relationships: confused beyond reasoning
hair: dirty blonde?
eyes: blue or green
height: 5'4"
occupation: student @ jersey village hs
hobbies: tan, jet ski, sing, dance, listen to music.
things that rock my socks: emo music, jordan, guys, TRISTAN

advice

ok there is this guy at my skool rite. and i met him about a week after my b/f and i broke up. my b/f n i had been together for a LONG. n this kid started liking me n i kinda started liking him but it was to soon after i had just got out of a serious relationship n i new i was kinda on the rebound. but now its been over a month and this guy has asked me out n i said no. but i still kinda like him n i dont no if i really do or if i just feel like i need someone there to fill that space that my first love left. i just kinda scared to get into a relationship cuz i dont no how i feel. well i no wut i feel but i dont no wut it means. but ya plz help me....

okay. well are you still like love bound over this guy you were in a relationship with? if not..then most likely you really do like this kid who come into your life. if not, then its possible. hope i helped. :)

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Hey ok.... there's this person at my skool that ok well shes my friend but i dont really think she likes me and like shes friends with all my other friends that im really good friends with but whenever were like all together(me my friends and her) i can sense she dosnt like me like ok ill start talking to her and yall shell talk back but the way she does is like "ok go away i dont you get away" you know thats how i think she feels about me so wut do i do ???

try confronting her about it...talk to her one on one and then just be like "yea, i kinda like you, sorry if you feel uncomfotable..." yada yada yada..you know? hope i helped :)

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if your boyfriend was on steroids would you think anything of it?..would you even give a f***?

um. i'd ask him if they are like perscription b/c he needs them...or if he thinks hes weak..and if he thinks hes weak, tell him you like him how he is...i would care b/c they can be dangerous. but i don't really know your relationshp so yea...hope i helped :)

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hey mandie...its me again *confused n heartbroken*...ok well i was talkin to my Ex again n he like started freaking out...he like stopped breathin n shaking n stuff. well it ended up he was having a panick attack. i no cuz i have them all the time. well he wouldnt tell me wut was wrong or like y he had it. then he flipped out on me. he said that he realized he still had feelings for me. he told me he still loved me. now trying to b smart i didnt believe him. i didnt wanna get my hopes up for nothing. but then the next day was exactly like all the rest. that was like 3 weeks ago n i asked him about it a few days ago n he said he just "THOUGHT" he still loved me or he was just remembering the feelings he felt. but now he is putting all this stuff n his profile but i dont no if its about me or this other chick he likes. suposivley. but there is another guy for me to. im just afraid to b with him or ne one for that matter. i dont no if i really like him or just want someone.....plz help
*confused n heartbroken*

wow. thats ummm..wait..did he have thge panic attack before you told him or after you told him?

okay, he told you he still loved you but then he only thought he did. maybe its a cover-up because if he got hurt last time maybe he doesn't feel like getting hurt again.

other than that i would say sit down and think about it really hard. what would happen if you forgot him? what would happen if you kept striving over him? can you honestly say you still love him? just sit and think. turn your radio, tv, cell phone and computer..any distractions off and think about it.

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so i like this guy.. and he likes me back and i guess were sort of "together" but.. he likes other girls, besides me and i hate that. i mean, i guess i like other guys too, but i would never act on it. But i know im not holding him back, and he is to me. But I really like him. Alot. he means so much to me and im scared to let go. help me!

it is hard to let him go, and when you do attempt to let him go then he finds some way to bewitch you with words or actions and your back to where you started from. try and get over him because if he likes other girls..its not worth it. but if you did something to him to make him like other girls like treat him bad...then apologize or something. hope i helped a little :)

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mandie I'm having some huge problems battling my sexuality I mean I'm not quite sure how to put this. I'm not sure if I'm gay or straight and it's seriously scaring me, I've always had this ongoing battle in my head but barely lately has it become a big problem. I'm so scared because I know it's wrong and I don't think I'd ever be able to go through with it and tell my family and friends, but on the other hand. I'm not even sure if I am gay or if I'm just being paranoid, either way I know I can't continue on like this for much longer, and that's what scares me the most. There are plenty of times where I find myself looking at the same sex thinking they look good, then looking at the opposite sex and thinking they look just as good. All of these questions are slowly and painfully killing me plus I'm scared that God will punish me for being gay, I've tried evrything, enticing myself with the opposite sex, praying to God, doing just about everything to convince myself that I'm not gay, infact in my future I do picture myself being with the opposite sex. Please Mandie help me you are my last hope I'm just so scared of myself and my peers that I'm not sure what to do anymore.

okay. it sounds to me that you are just going through that questionable phase. almost everyone i know has actually thought about themself with the same sex.

your visualizing yourself with the opposite sex when you get older. thats good. don't scare yourself into thinking your gay. its normal to look at other people the same sex as you and kinda size them up and compare them to other people and stuff. i know i look at girls and compare mself to them and compare them to other girls..but i don't think i'm a lesbian.

be secure in your sexuality. if your gay, there are plenty of people who will support you. but there are also people who will shun you. but most people don't really care. if your straight, get girlfriends..but just know that its not gay to look at guys. now if you start to imagine sexual stuff with guys then you need to really sit down and decide if your straight or not.

hope i helped... :)

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ok my boyfriend n i just broke up. he said he just wanted "space" but that has turned n2 total break up. ok we were going out for a LONG time n it hurts so bad. but he is being kinda a butt about it all....i mean he jokes around with calling me a whore n stuff but i no hes just joking but i feel like its way to soon to b just talking like that to one another. he said his "love" went away over nite which i no dosent happen but im still sitting here in love with him. he told me to wait then told me to move on....im so confused i dont no wut to do....plz help!!
*heartbroken n confused*

thats a bummer. but the thing you have to realize it that its NEVER to early to become friends again. maybe he is just tired of being with the same person. and when you think about it, whats going to happen in college? all this work for..braking up? well, my advice is exactly what he said. move on. get over him no matter how much it hurts. its way easier to think when you don't have a guy on your mind 24/7. trust me i know. right now it probably feels like your whole world is crumbling at his feet. but be strong and act like you did before you started being his girlfriend. falling out of love really can't happen over night unless you have no heart. or unless he never was in love in the first place. he is lying there. but you need to just respect him and his wants. nothing you do or say can really bring him back. if he is also confused, let him have time to think. sorry. hope i helped. :)

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i guess idk..but me and this guy flirt alot and he has never seriously asked me out and i really like him but its always an "on-and-off" like because sometimes he can be sort of mean and i really do like him and my friends raelly dont like him but i guess if he asked me out i would say no because my friends would be like uhhh wtf so is that right? WHAT SHOULD I DO!?
signed~ C.O.N.F.U.S.E.D.

okay..C.O.N.F.U.S.E.D. this all depends on if your relationship with the guy you are "pn and off" with is stronger than the one you have with your friends. if the "on and off" guy is like your best friend then follow your heart with what you want. if he is just a guy who is there and ya'll flirt but your best friend isn't him. then follow your heart but know friendships are better than gf's or bf's. hope i helped some. :)

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I was cleaning my feet one day and I noticed a green fungus growing between my toes...I didn't think much of it because i eat a lot of brocolli. Then i was putting in my contact lenses and i saw dark brown things growing from under my eye lids...then i started getting suspisious...but why im writing u this is because my boyfriend won't kiss me anymore and i wuz wondering if that might be the reason.

thats just retarded.

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lately me and this guy have been kinda checking out each other and we've gotten to know each ohter alot lately...he told me he loved me and i felt like i could say it back so i did...the next day he comes up to me and tells me not to hang around him before school...i was kinda confused but then i wrote him a note saying stuff like "i can't wait to spend time with you and i love you too" and then he wrote me one back telling me that he didn't mean the he LOVED me like that. i was heartbroken....i cried and my friends thought and still think hes really bad for me...but i can't get over him...why???? i really want to because he said he loved me like too quickly and i knew it was too good to be true.....but i guess i really do love him...help me please!!!!!!!!!

i'm sorry "heartbrake" i can't help you out here. me and my friend were close too but nothing like that happend. i guess we were just meant to be better as aquantences. but i guess the advice i would give to you would to get over him! he said he loved you and then told you not to talk to him before school? not cool. if you really love him than i guess hold in there. i hope yours works out. :) hope i helped

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okay..me and my girlfriend had sex, it wasnt her first time, but it was mine..and when we did it, the whole time i was thinking..damn am i doing this right?..and after we were done she acted like i was the best in the world and then some...can you help me out to know if shes for real?..

well maybe shes not lying. maybe she hasn't had better. then again if you honest to god think shes lying like be straight up with her. now a way to tell if shes lying (maybe) is if you had to ask her. if she told you..then she ain't lying. hope i helped a little. don't have much time so ehh. :)

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my penis is....umm .0 in long....would that be because i'm a girl? or what?

...okay you killed it...

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my...stuff... is only five inches long. it looks small to me, but is 5 inches really that small?

5 inches isn't that short..the avg. is like 5 1/2 or 6 or something..not really sure but your probably not done "growing" until you get like 17..if you are..then..yea?

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my penus is at a 90 degree angle is that bad?

..sorry to break it to you so bluntly..
but yes, something is wrong if your dick is in a 90 degree angle.

:) hope i helped..hahaha!

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There is this girl who I've been diggin' for a while, but she never looked my way. I've watched her for years go on and off with other people, and i was never in the picture. This has been going on for about 3 years now and I'm feeling worse everyday. All i want is a chance. So how do I get her to be more than friends.

does she even know about this? because if not..then theres no hope.
have you two ever talked? again..if not..no hope! but just talk to her and then drop the question of the whole "like-age" situation on her and get her reaction..if she doesn't run away then you might have a chance :) hope this works

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ok so the other day i was brushing my teeth and then i was flossing and i noticed that i have these sores all in my mouth and i am not exactly sure where they came from. they are like kind of on my gums and around the cheek parts of my mouth and my tongue is really sore. do you know what they could be from? i need help fast because i am scared to tell my mom or a doctor so please help me!

you need to go have that checked out..like are the sores that are holes? b/c if they are those are ((i'm sounding this word out so do the same)) UhL-Sars thats how it sounds..and you can't do much but gargle salt water and wait for them to heal..if thats not the case go to the dentist b/c you could have like gen-jo-vi-tus or something serious! sorry..:/ hope i helped

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are you spossed to shave..'down there'? i dont know what to do, because i dont want to feel stupid when i do stuff with a guy(i havent yet) and im shaved or unshaved..when im not spossed to be or whatever, do most girls shave all of it? or just the bikini area?((thats all i do, but im not sure))..help! lol

and i shave a little..of corse but where i shave it, i get little bumps and they dont itch or anything but how do i get rid of them!!!

wow..okay this was like BAM! but yea..

hm..just from people i talk to and myself we shave it all..but i mean guys don't like a mouthfull of hair if your doing that stuff..but its all up to you.

the little bumps thing..okay..thats bacteria..i know its weird but you need to try like anti-bacterial soap and wash before and after shaving anything!! even on legs!! it works! :) hope i helped!

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heyy ok there's this guy and we met in the summer and we hit it off and all this but once school started everything crashed and i still like him, alot but he dosen't feel the same anymore but he invites me over all the time and i was always busy so i still haven't gotten to go over but just the fact that he wants me to come over and hang out just sometimes sends me signals..which are apparently wrong signals. but we're still good friends which is good but i dont get what he's thinking..he has a million other girls he could invite over but maybe im just a good friend and thats what he's thinking? idk tho so if u could help me i'd appreciate it. :-)

ask him about it..just seriously if its getting to you that much just talk to him and randomly say "so..about this summer.." and just bring up good times and then be like "what happend?" and just read his expressions and maybe make judgements from that.

when he asks you to come over are his intentions pure? if not, then he MYTE be using you..most likely not, but its a possiblity. i mean when i get invited to do sometihng with the guy who i like i'm excited and i lead myself to think maybe he likes me..blah blah..but most of communication is the best way to find out..b/c you can ignore all the negative things and look at all the positive and then fool yourself into lies..
:) hope i helped somewhat..

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ok..so i like my best friend and he told me he had feelings for me too.. but he had a girlfriend. he made it seem like his girlfriend didnt even exist or anything and he would ALWAYS tell me he loved me and stuff.. but then after him and his girlfriend broke up he seemed like he had no feelings for me anymore or anything, and he told me that he would love to have me as a girlfriend but if we went out and something happened then he would be crushed because things would never be the same.. well i was heartbroken but i know its the truth.. so do i deal with it or keep working for him?

well..if hes your best friend..KEEP HIM THAT WAY! but i mean try to forget him and just act like he doesn't mean anything to you and it could possibly get to him but also you need to respect his feelings b/c hes probably not wanting a girlfriend right now, maybe something happend you don't know about..but most of all try and forget him but keep yourself avalible for chances..:)

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ok so i like this girl and im sure she knows it i talk to her online and i think i bother her like annoy her online do i still talk to her when she is on or just give her space?

first off, does this girl talk back? like respond to every question? or does it take her like..5 min. to respond?

if she responds immediatly or within a good response time..then shes not annoyed by you

if she takes a little while to respond then she might be like UGH!

thats speaking from experience! but i'd try giving her a little bit of space and if she gets down b/c ya'll don't talk or if shes the one who starts IM-ing you..she MIGHT like you.

hope i helped :)

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