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16/f.
smoke: no
drink: no


lately, for like the past week or so, when i sleep on my stomach, when i wake up it hurts so bad. no like .. a "tummy ache" .. but like there are a thousand bricks laying on my chest/lung area. it first started when i slept on the floor [on my stomach] at my friends house about a week ago. does anyone know why this is? i understand it could be sore from sleeping on the floor, but shouldn't it be gone by now?

You should see a doctor immediately. Let me know what they say, and I hope you feel better:)

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What is a girl spose to get a guy for valentines day?

A good move is to ask the guy what he wants. Find out what he would like and get it for him. Aside from that, chocolates are classic. If you are really stuck, you could get him a gift certificate to his favourite store. However, I personally think it's nicer to put more thought into it than that. Just go with your gut feeling and make sure to get him a nice card!

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ok 15/f

i have like EVERY type of clothing. you name it,i have it

so what are some cute preppy outfits, i can't think of any!

im blonde, tall, blue eyes, kinda tan, thin.

If you are looking for something origional, I suggest making your own clothes or visiting a thrift store. Sewing beads onto some of your old shirts and turning your old jeans into purses are also things you could do if you want to make your outfits look funkier. I suggest you start watching Project Runway. It's a show featuring a competition to se who can design the best clothes. You could probably get some great ideas off of that! :) Good luck and send me some pictures once you have made your first outfit :)

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what is a girl that is 13 and b/f is 15 supost to get him for v-day?
i was thinking gift card to his fav. store and like some chocolates

good idea or no?
thanx

That sounds great to me! You could also make him a nice card. I am also celebrating Valentines Day with a boyfriend for the first time in my life, so I know picking gifts can be hard. Let me know if he likes what he gets! :)

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whats the different types of sex, oral sex, ..??

and how is it different?

There are several different types.

#1 Regual sex - in which the penis enters the vagina.

#2 Oral sex - in which the penis/vagina is sucked/licked by the
other person.
#3 Anal sex - in which the penis enters the other person's anus
(butthole)

Some people also consider hand jobs and fingering (touching and feeling the vagina/penis with your hands) to be types of sex since they also give you orgasams, but I do not since it is hand to private connection as opposed to private to private.

Any more questions? Feel free to let me know!

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So i recently asked a Q about what I should do with this guy I like hwo is 18 and I am almost 15 on whether or not we should date. And I have been getting anwsers of "its a bad idea" Well what about, Not officially dating, but hang out, hug, kiss, hold hands, and talk and stuff? Is that still wrong? I care about him a lot and I just want to share something with him... Eeeck I do not know what to do. Help!

The reason people think it is a bad idea is because he might jsut use you for sex. Being a friend with benefits is like letting him do all of the physical stuff without making him commit to you. Actually, there is nothing wrong with you dating him as long as you do not do any below the waist activity. It would be a far better decision to date him as opposed to being his plaything. However, if you do plan on dating him you have to understand that he will probably pressure you for sex and you will be forced to constantly struggle with turning him down. If you believe you would have the strength to say no, then ask him out. If not, cut him out of your life completely. Guys do not respect girls who let them have everything for free. You cannot have true love without respect.

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Hi, I have just started to go to church this past year (not real services on Sundays, but rather to youth events on Wednesdays). By the way, my parents don't know that I go and they would definitely not approve.

The thing is, I don't feel that connection although I really want to. When God and Heaven is being discussed, along with all else... I feel like I am acting false because I am not saved. I also don't understand so much.

I listen to testimonies, very emotional ones, yet I cannot bring myself to cry. I see that everyone else just connects with God, while I don't know how. This one girl went to church, listened to a testimony, and was instantly saved. And I wondered, why couln't I do that?

I am afraid of asking for help from the adults in the church, or any other Christians.

I also have no idea how to pray, so I am never able to lead a prayer.

Please help me. How do I become saved?

I am a Christian, so I can definately answer your question. There are a couple of things you need to realize.

#1 Much of the Christian faith is a metaphor. You may find it hard to believe some of the things you hear, but you actually don't have to. You just have to understand that God loves you and wants to help you live the best life you possibly can.

#2 God is many different things to different people. For me, God is the way the world works, the way we all get along. For someone else, it could be the spirit of other people. For others, it's the voice inside of you. You need to discover what you see God as. Religion is personal as well as interpersonal.

#3 God created us exactly as we are on pourpose. The things you hear at church about how you should live your life do not determine what kind of a person you are. God will still love you weather you listen to him or not. Religion is not some sort of test. You cannot fail. God will always love you, no matter what you do. The reason God gives us laws is so that we can live our lives to the fullest and avoid the hurt and confusion that comes with doing things you shouldn't.

#4 Prayer is just getting in touch with God and setting aside time to think about your life. I cannot tell you how to pray, because it's different for differnt people. I personally like to lie in bed at night and think about everything that happened during the day. I think about what I'm worried about, as God for help and then I relax and go to sleep. Prayer is just about realizing that everything will work out in the end.

I guess, what I am trying to say is that you are already saved and have been ever since you were born. Your newfound Christain faith with however save you from making bad decisions and help you to live the life you want for yourself.

Congrats, and let me know how things work out! You can find me at: http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=koolkid54&prev=1

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so yeah i really looove this guy. and he used 2 go to ma school but now he's in high school (I'm in 8th grade)
so i dunno if he remembers me - i hope he does. sometimes we talked and stuff
and i wanna send him a valtentines day card. so now i'm asking. what should i write that will melt his heart and makes him like me? i'm not saying LOVE ME. just liiike. well love would be good 2 though =D
so yeah ...help?

There are several things to consider here.

#1 Keep it light. You should avoid words like "love" as being too serious will scare him off.

#2 Be funny. Throw in something sassy or snappy. Think of something he would laugh at and throw it in. For example, I once sent the guy I liked a valentine with dancing monkeys.

#3 Pickup lines can be used, but only as a joke. The reason that pickup lines sometimes fall flat on their faces is if the person delivering them acts like they actually mean them. Find one that is obviously a joke without sounding slutty. For example: Do you carry another weapon with you besides your eyes?

#4 Sign your real name. Being direct is always better than playing games.

#5 Add a P.S. asking him for his MSN/AIM screenname so you can talk to him online more often.

Good luck, and let me know how it turns out:) You can reach me at: http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=koolkid54&prev=1

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