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My name is Dustin. I'm a pretty jazzy guy. I usually just help my friends with their troubles. But when I'm bored I come here and help countless people. If I helped you, thank me. I appreciate being valued.
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Member Since: June 20, 2005
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Last Update: August 14, 2007
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I was at my bestfriends house spending the night and her bother was there so we was chillin me and my best friend her brother had called his friend to come over so then lyk 10-20 min later someone was knocking on the door and my bestfriends brother answered it 2 people came in the first one walked in and i looked at the 2nd one lets call him style so then they went to my bestfriends brothers room so then the boys came out of the room and went to the balcony to smoke... After a while this boy (lets call him smiles) so smiles came in with a big smile on and laughing, my best friend lets call her lala and i was on the cpu looking for songs i guess to sing or something (I wasnt paying attention to Smiles that much) so then lala's brother and style came in from outside and was in the livingroom so then lala asks me if I want my hair done so like I said yeah so then...shes about to part my hair so then smiles is sitting down right next to her i guess hes looking at my hair and lala is like you want to touch her hair touch it, touch it, touch it, it ain't gonna bite ya so he touches my hair...after that he started askin me questions 1st question he said "you brazilian" me and lala laughed because i had a puerto rican bandanna on so then i was like no im puerto rican nd he asked me some more questions and then he was like what grade you in and style said she in da 6th grade nd i said no im not it was just alot of answers nd i said im a freshman( at the time) he was u go to drama high? i was like yeah (thats not the name of the school) he said, " i never seen you there" i said "i never seen you there either" so then we was talkin nd i was lookin at the tv nd he was like whos phone is this i looked back fast nd i saw it was my phone i was like give me my phone and i kept saying it because he wasnt giving it to me so then he finally gave it to me so then i kept lookin at the tv or style (one of them) and then smiles was tapping me so i look back and he smiles
... so then they was leaving Smiles was like bye to me first and then he was like bye to Lala but he had called her a different name so she got mad n told him to get out her house but the whole time he was looking straight at me and smileing when he was saying good-bye he closed the door.Lala started laughing she said he was trying to talk to me an style was lookin at me to

We wanted them to come back so bad.
they came back an hour later or somthing and they was knocking so I answered the door i went behind the door and smiles walked inside first looking around like he was looking for some one, he looked beside the door, he smiled at me lala's brother and style came in and they went to Lala's brother room.
they came out 5 min. later.

smiles and style was bout to leave.
smiles said goodnite n smiled n to me i said it back....

but what im wondering what do yall think about this situation i mean does he like me or was he just high?
SHOULD i move on?
or should i just keep it like it is?
should i listen to my friends when they say that we should go out that im in love with him and all these things??
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you should get to know him better.

Doesn't seem like you got to know him at all. Try to talk to him more, get him alone.

Then decide from there what you want to do about it.

You shouldn't be in any hurry to go out with a stranger.

Hope it works out and I hope I helped!


almost 16 and my penis is not that big so can i guy satisfy a girl if hes small my gf and i are thinking about sex and im worried that i wont please her are there any positions that are good? (link)
A "big" penis isn't necessary. So much as you have a few inches you should do just fine in pleasing your girlfriend.

The position you'll probably start with is the missionary position.

Which is pictured here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Missionary_position

Don't worry, it's not real people. :P

A woman's vagina is mostly sensitive near the opening and it only goes 8 inches deep, don't worry about your size, just worry about your endurence and performance.

Good luck!


Going into my juinor year,
For the past year or so every once in a while I would get a remark saying hey Jane "when are you going to give me that blowjob I've been asking for?" or like "Go f*ck yourself!" And I've had enough of this, I don't have any friends at this school (not to mention it's a private school) and everyone there is just really mean to me. I've joined organizations to make friends and stuff, and I have, but its hard when they don't go to your school. Overall, I am a nice person, and I've had the reputation of being that person to go out of their way to please someone else (non-sexual way.) I've never had the reputation of a slut or anything; but now it's getting ridiculous I get calls (they come up as private) at two in the morning saying to go f*ck myself. I am almost 100% sure these guys are from my grade because it sure does sound like them, but they never even had a class with me or have gotten to know me, and my other guy friends would never do this to me, I know them too well (and they don't go to my school) . And our whole grade is 30 kids. I asked last year to my parents if I could switch schools, but they said no they want me to go to a private school until I graduate. I would go to a private catholic school but the problem is that I am not catholic and the schools I checked into say that one of your parents has to regularly attend church. There is one other private non-denimental (sp) school, but it's too costly for my parents. I would be considering boarding school but that's also too costly and I'm sure it's too late to register, and, my school's guidence counselor told me I should switch, but my parents don't want me to go to public school because my brother didn't do so well and I don't want to go to public school either. But I don't know what to do at this point because for the past two years I've attended this school I've been picked on and sexually harrased. I never told anyone that I've been sexually harrased but I want to tell my mom, but I don't know how, and everyone there is just really mean, I've tried making friends in different grades, but it's harder and the friends I have made are leaving. I am slowly collapsing into a depression right now and my therapist said that she's suprised I haven't rebelled yet. But I want to tell my mom first that I've been sexually harrased and my therapist second.

So what should I do? How should I tell my mom that I've been sexually harrased? Thank You so much and I'm sorry for length (link)
You should really just plain tell your mom that the kids at your school are mean to you.

I could understand that it'd be embarassing to tell her what exactly they tell you so just tell her what you're comfortable telling.

You can also write her a letter and get it all out of your system without speaking to her at all. That seems to help sometimes.

But it seems like you've made an enemy somewhere along the road, maybe not purposely, but maybe you should try talking to the people that are mean to you.

I'm really sorry for what you have to go through and I hope it gets better!

Hope this helped!


15/f

For some reason I can never get myself to talk to this guy I really like...eventhough I know he likes me!!! Ok, well it all started in gr.7..when we were in the same class. He would flirt with me, but we never had an actual conversation! Can you believe that??? For an entire school year all we did was flirt..well one time he tried asking me out, but that didn't work out as he hoped...(long story)...lol..anyway, now I just finished gr.9..and I'm hoping that he'll be in at least one of my classes for gr.10! I know he still likes me because he still says hi to me whenever he sees me..lol..but I really wanna let him know that I like him too('cause I don't think he knows)so than maybe he'll get the hint and actually ask me out! I just don't know what to say and I'm sortof a shy person..if he was in at least one of my classes than it would probably be easier...

ps. In gr.8 & 9 he was never in my class...just in gr.7 he was. (link)
Well he still cares about you, I don't know about him liking you.

Just try to get to know him better, the feelings are still there, just make him realize them again!

If you don't get one of his classes, try to talk to him whenever you see him or give him your number.

I hope it works out!


if im a men's 7 shoe what am i in womens? (link)
An 8, I believe.

Womens are one size bigger than mens.


Just to let you know, your myspace link doesn't work. I wasn't sure if you wanted it that way, so I figured I'd tell you. (link)
www.myspace.com/dustiq

I'll fix it now. :x


okay soo i am going out with this guy named casey and we really like eachother but i mean it is going really slow, we have been together all summer. only kissed once, not madeout. and I had to kiss him (im a girl by the way =P). and this guy named tyler that i liked pretty much the whole 2nd semester last year told me has liked me for like 5 months. i don't really get to see him much since its the summer, but when school starts..ill want him SO BAD. we had a great connection, and we can talk about anything and be ourselves and he is soo cute and sweet. the guy im going out with now..i mean he is my best friend and has been for a year but he isn't that experienced in relationships. so i don't know. i just recently hurt him by making out with another guy but we weren't going out then, we were just friends with benefits. but that was a total mistake and that's history, we are over it now. but i'm just scared ill want tyler and i might hurt him. he is a sensitive guy..i'm scared to break up with him. like he has already cried over me a few times from what i did last time. i don't want to be known for hurting him but i KNOW i will want to go out with tyler when school starts.

what do i do?!

thanks in advance! (link)
If you know you're going to want Tyler, you shouldn't lead Casey on.

It will be a lot easier to hurt him now than to hurt him later when he he's more comfortable.

I'm sorry but you can't always get away with not hurting someone. Someone has to get hurt.

Hope this helped, good luck!


wat is a blow job? exacrtly....please no links! just tlel me! (link)
It's where a female sucks on a male's genitals.

She then bobs her head up and down, a motion that would ejaculate the male's penis.

Hope this helped!


so me and my best friend are gunna have a sleepover soon. and like i wanna make it the most absolute most funnest sleepover ever. because we usually just have a normal sleepover where we watch movies and talk about stuff and guys. any advice is appreciated!!

oh and 14/f if that helps. (link)
Inviting more people can always make a party/sleepover better!

Hope this helped!


Hey guys and by guys i actually mean GUYS(or some well informed girls):
What are some signs that a guy likes a girl?
I just needed to know cause i think this guy likes me but guys are really confusing w/ like there 'signals' (i guess you could call them) fo weither they like you or not.
So any ideas??? (link)
If I like a girl, I find it hard to talk to her directly in a crowd, I'll talk to everyone else but her.

I'll also try to get her alone any chance I could.

If they display disgust with you and still go out of their way to talk to you, they may like you.

Guys are pretty confusing, being a guy, I still don't understand why we do the things we do.

Hope this helped!


Ok There's thsi girl that's a size double zero. She's like a doll!

My friend is a size zero and i'm a size 1.

3 of us weigh 105 pounds.

How can that be? O_o (link)
Height makes a difference in weight if you're wondering how she could be a size zero and still weigh the same or similar to you.

Sorry if I misunderstood your question. :(

Hope I helped!


What does it mean when a guy is circumsized (sp.?)

What's the difference between a guy being circumsized and not being circumsized.


thanks ! (link)
There is foreskin on the penis that appears to be a "coat" over the head of the penis.

A circumcision is the removal of that foreskin, in which the head of the penis would now be "out of it's shell" per se.

Hope this helped!


im just curious how long should you wait before you get married. For some reason ive been thinking aout marriage alot lately with my boyfriend weve been going out for about six months and i already know hes the one. I cant explain it i guess you just know
20 f (link)
It's all based on personal preference.

He's gonna have to ask you though.

I would actually think about a year and a half would be about the minimum amount of time to decide to tie the knot.

Hope it works out!


On myspace it shows when people are on it says "online now" whenever i sign on myspace it never shows that im on. How do i change that? (link)
Go to Account Settings on your home page.

Then go to Privacy Settings, scroll down and you should see a check box labeled "Hide Online Now Icon" or something along those lines.

Hope I helped!


Is it more likely that you could get pregnant during or after you've had your period (even with protected sex; condom) meaning is it a good time to get pregnant? my bf is coming to visit and i have my period right now, so it should be gone when he arrives, is it really possible to get pregnant even with a condom? thanks guyss (link)
I dunno if he'll want to have sex while you're on your period.

But I believe you can't become pregnant while you're on your period.

But afterwards it's fairplay.

Condoms provide a 99.9% chance, or something like that.

Birth control should cover the small fraction :P

Hope this helped!


15/F


Is it heart, round, oblong, oval, square?????

And please from a guys perspective:

Do you think I'm too small and ugly? I've tried so hard to get my whole body bigger but it doesn't work. My matabilism is too fast.
I have people ask me if I eat...I'm like YES!!



And I hate being small chested too. Can I fix that?? If so...how?



sorry the pic is big ... i couldn't get it to go any smaller... just scroll over and down a bit.

Here is a pic. of me:::::

C:\Documents and Settings\Mom & Dad\My Documents\My Pictures\Kodak Pictures\2007-02-14\100_0901.JPG

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That's not an internet link to your picture. That's where the file is located on your computer!

Fix it and ask again.


This boy and i have been (well i guess i should say WERE) talking for about 2 months now. But here's the thing, he lives 2 hours away. Anyways, over the summer he came up to my house with my cousin and they slept over and we stayed up all night just tlaking and watching movies. All we did was make out. Later when he left back home, he called me and told me the reason he didn't do anything more with me is because he respects me. We usually talk every other night, and i have told him i don't think we should commit to anything because 2 hours is hard to work with and i think he would meet a girl at his school. i mean he's a boy, come on it's obvious. School started august 8 for him and i haven't talked to him since monday night. I might sound paranoid but i really like this guy. Do you guys think he met someone? (link)
If he really likes you, he'll hold back.

Try to make it work! Long distance relationships require a lot of endurence and patience but it can be worth it in the long run.

Make him understand that you need to trust him.

Hope this helped!


My brother has this friend who i really like.i told my brother that i liked him and he told his friend,sence then,it is just weird..he knows i like him and he didn't even say anything or do anything about it. does this means he doesn't like me back and just wants to ignore me and hope i go away? so should i just move on or keep waiting for something to happen?? i have no idea what to do and i am mad that nothing is happening. i mean i really like him and i just wish it could work out. by the way i am 15/F (link)
You should try talking to him, he doesn't know what to do when he finds out someone likes him.

He probably thought "oh, cool"

Make sure you like him and be his friend, don't let him stay "my brothers friend" he needs to be yours too!

Hope this helped!


After 15 years my family has decided to move three hours away from where we live now. Well my neighbor has been my best friend since day one, we've done everrrrything together. Anyways, i want to do something for her before we move. I was going to make a scrapbook but shes been dropping hints that shes doing that. Any ideas as to what i can do? Any suggestions help! (link)
I scrapbook sounds like a good idea. :]

Just make sure to leave enough for her to remember you.

She'll miss you a lot and I'm sure you'll miss her, keep in touch.

Good luck in a new town!


Yesterday afternoon I hit my wrist against my door, and afterward it really started to hurt. When i'd put pressure on it to stabilze myself to get up, i'd get this sharp pain through my wrist. A little bit afterward it bruised. I'm worried though because it's right by, or more 'in' all of my big veins on my wrist. Anyway, all day i've just been feeling pressure on my wrist, and I get odd, occaisional pains. I'm worried, because I didn't really hit my wrist that hard, yet it's bruised, and it hurts really badly. It's even swollen and I can't lift much weight.

What could be wrong? (link)
I don't know about carpal tunnel, but it seems like you're just sore, maybe a bruise (possibly internal)

If it keeps spreading or gets worse in anyway, you should see a doctor.

Hope this helped!




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