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Q: where can i find a site thatll let ya search for people who are under the age of 18?

hmm i know like one its www.espinthebottle.com
its totally kool.so you should try it hope it helps .

Q: I got so upset at my english teacher for giving me a bad grade on my project that i worked so hard on, so i sent him an email about it. it didnt seem rude at first, but when i went back and read it after i had cooled off, i realized that it does sound a bit rude. what do i do now? i dont want to appologize because i still dislike my teacher (i'm really not sorry) but i do feel bad. i dont want him to hate me now. what do i do?

just relaxe even though you think its wrong now
think about how you felt when you sent it to him.its perfectly fine to feel this way.i understand how you feel though .i think you should talk to your teacher about the grade he gave you and get him to understand why you were so upset about it.hope it helps

Q: this is going to sound really bad. but i started playing with myself when i was 12. i had started my period when i was 11. i had my period 5 times. till i tured 12. then one day it just stoped. im 15 now. and i havnt had my period since then. i dont want to go to a docter because im scared. i dont know what to do. and i mean obviously im not pregnet because its been 4 years. help..please..

my advice would to be go to your parent and they will most likely take you to a doctor.
i would also suggest going to a doctor because if your not havin your period then something is wrong.you shouldn't be afraid to go its a perfectly normal thing . i hope this helps.

Q: I'm a 15/m and I like this guy...

how do I tell him that I like him?

ok let me get this straight your gay .
well anyways .just explain to him that you like him . but don't be to hard on him if he's shocked or anything ok just explain to him how you feel. hope this helps .

Q: What is a convection zone...there wasnt any category for thst so i just picked plants and garden....so what is a convection zone in a sun?

The convection zone is the outermost layer of the sun's interior. Energy is transferred there in convection currents. (A good example of convection current is a lava lamp.)

thats all i could find on a convection zone .
hope it helps.

Q: 15/f/freshman

this may be a silly question but you know on zoey 101 how they're at that boarding school, is that a real place? like are they're boarding schools that are really like that? it seems like they go to class and then basically can do whatever they want on campus you know?

i was just thinking about it one day, i think it's be sorta cool to go to a boarding school, but hey who knows.

im not 100% positive that there are schools exsactly like the one from Zoey 101 , but there are schools sorta like that school.also im pretty sure the boardin school on zoey 101 isn't a real boarding school.

Q: okay so i had unprotected sex about a week before i was supposed to get my period but it came a week late probably cause i was stressing about it so much.. and i asked people on this site if it was possible to still be pregnant and most of them said no.. but now im not sure cause i feel movement in my vagina.. i dont know but its weird ..and ive never had this before.. does anyone know what this is?

it could possible be nothing . also i would get a pregnancy test if your not sure .so hope it helps srry i couldn't think of anything else for your question.

Q: how will you know if you lose the baby? by the feeling or what?

ok to know if you lost the baby i would suggest you go to a doctor because theres not a 100%
change by feeling that you'll know you've lost it.so thats what i suggest hope it helps .

Q: if i popped my cherry or hymen or whatever

im pretty sure it wasnt broke before

but when i had sex it didnt bleed or hurt

to be honest i didnt really feel much at all

i thought maybe if i was too tight it didnt go in all the way

and also

i was wondering if you could be a virgin

even if you did that and it didnt go in all way

and you didnt really want to and your really innocent at mind and heart?

im sorry if this doesnt make sence ,but help would be appriciated.

ok if it didn't hurt during sex its most likely you've broke your hymen already.
also no your not a virgin even if it didn't go in all the way because no matter how far it goes in the vagina your not a virgin anymore srry.

hope this helps i didn't really understand the question but i tried my best srry.

Q: ive slept with my boyfriend many many times before this. but last night we slept together and the entire time i had tears running down my face. i wasnt it pain and i wasnt sad. afterwards i started crying. i dont know what this means and i dont know why i was crying.

lately ive come to the realization that im not happy with him, but i want to be with him.

maybe it's because you were just havin sex with him to make him happy.you should totally have a talk with him about whats making you unhappy with him. you can't be in a relationship were on one of you is happy so i would suggest talking with him .hope this helps .

Q: i like this guy we have hung out a few times he's in one of my classes i have givin him head before and almost had sex with him i like him a lot he talks to a lot of girls but doesnt mess around with them hes actually still a virgin.. im not. he told me that he liked me but then i heard that he said the same exact thing to my friend a month back. before the first time we hung out he told me that he didnt want a relationship because he wanted to not be tied down to one girl.. i was upset and we stopped talking for a while cuz this girl got on him aim and acted like him and pissed me off. i started talking to him again after he appoligied to me.. i really like him and he told me that he likes me hes just afraid of commitment but then my friend told me that he told her that same stuff when he hungout with her a month or two ago .. he tells me that he doesnt like her at all they are over for sure because her dad doesnt like him but they were never dating.. what should i do? how should i act?

well you should probably not keep pushin to be with this guy.to me he sounds like he's playin you befor you are even goin out.so i would watch him and talk to some of the girls he's been with . that way you'll find out if he's tellin the truth or not .because if he said he really like you but he's just afraid of commitment
to more than you you are most likely dealing with a player .hope this helps .

Q: what are some really good flirting tips that would make a guy want you really bad....theres this boy i really like and i wanna kinda catch his eye you know....please help!
thanks
jess

ok the best way is to just act liuke yourself.
as usual.i think you should probably start talking to him and hangin out with him and stuff that will totally get him interested in you.
hope this helps.

Q: i have a really long forehead and my hair starts pretty far back. i have a cow lick too. if i don't have bangs my face looks horrible because my forehead is so big.. what kinds of bangs would look good? i have a heart shaped face. i tried to get bangs straight across but the would NEVER stay and i've already had side-sweep that didn't work too well. if not bangs, any hairstyles that would be flattering... thanks!

i would suggest the emo look me love its long bangs off to the side of your face and its totally
kool. hope it helps .

Q: how can i make my butt grow bigger? and boobs bigger?

ok the best way is to gain a little weight but gettin pregnant isn't the best option. i would suggest just waitin awhile because your body will grow in time . hope it helps .

Q: in the morning when i do my makeup and get ready for school etc. my face looks completly fine, but when i get home from school my face is always so red! most red parts are my nose (i dont have a cold) and my cheeks, the wierd thing is that my cheeks and rest of my face are red but then the circles under my eyes stay like normal colour so it looks kinda gimped...im not blushing or anything, and im pretty sure im not sick...so any suggestions on how to cover this? ive already tried coverup it doesnt cover it..
thanks:)

hmm it sounds like you could be allergic to your makeup you could try bare minerals makeup.
that could cover it up . i
hope it helpz

Q: are maggie and jake gyllenhaal brother and sister?

yes they are brother and sister lolz

Q: I found out my mom was snooping into my life about two weeks ago. She had an Xanga of mine bookmarked and in it I wrote as if it were a private diary .. which I thought was on a private setting in fact.

There was a lot of very bad stuff in there and when I realized she was snooping I deleted it and made a new one. Well, she managed to find the new one too! Once again, its bookmarked as well as my Facebook. My diary has since gone missing as well. She has not told me about reading any of this but I know its her because its on her personal laptop.

What should I do?
My privacy is gone and I feel violated by my
own mother. She gets very offended if I don't tell
her everything in my life anymore, which I hate to do because she makes everything too much of a big deal.

... btw, I actually get punished if I don't tell her everything going on such as who the guy I like is. Its ridiculous.

i feel your pain my mom does the same thing but
here are some things you can do yoou can talk to her about it . you can always make a journal and hide it somewhere she could never get it .
I think you should tell her you need your space .
also you shouldn't altogether shut her out give her a little info but tell her when shes invaiding your privacy .i know that your parents want to be in your life but you should definately have a talk with her about it . hope it helps .

Q: on the show kaya on mtv, kaya preforms a duet with lil b..is there anywhere i can download that song? i looove it!

you could probably get it from youtube timewire
or myspace music and theres also window midea play .so idk i hope it helps your find what your looking for .

Q: Alright so cat has stopped cutting (Yay) but now I'm using runner bands to keep myself in order. I haven't cut for about two weeks but now I have a new problem the marks made by the rubber bands...How long does it usually take them to dissapear and is there anyway I can hide them? I don't want people to come here and tell me how bad it is because without the bands I know what I would do. Right now I just need to know how to cover the welts that the bands make. Any help?
I'm not now nor am I planning on seeing a shrink...I don't think I need that.

i would try wearing long sleeves or hoodies to cover it up it should only last a few days dependin on how hard you made the mark .
or you coould cover it up with make up i know it sounds weid but it works .
but i do suggest you see a counsiler or something.
your choice .i hope it helps .

Q: uhm..so i was supposed to read the scarlet letter..&& i read part of it && didn't understand ANY of it..&& i have a test the first day of school most likely.so i definitely need to find something that can summarize the book pretty well.i've heard that the teacher makes it sparknotes proof.&& yeah.PLEASE HELP!!

well all i can say is to search around the internet for some info ask a friend or someone who has read a book what its about . the best way is to search the internet . and then look at the author notes if there are any .i hope that helps .good luck .

bio

ok my name is cassy im 16 years old.
i started this column because i want to help
answer some questions people have .
so don't be afraid to ask me because whatever
u need help with im here .
anyways my main focuse is on teens but pretty
much if anyone needs help i'll be here to try and help so plz feel free to ask me some questions .