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Hello! I'm Charleigh.
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im 16/f. im a little bit underweight. my ex bf moved 3 years ago and we were in love. but weve been drifting. he would never ask me to do something i wouldnt want to do. but as im trying to find someone else, i find that guys are using me for sex. im a pastors daughter, and im not willing to drop my dignity at someones feet. if i lose it to anyone at this moment, it will be to my ex of 3 years. but that cant happen.

seems like my ex is the only guy who respected me. is it because i keep comparing what he and i had to the guys now? how can i find a REAL guy who wont use me for sex?

Your ex boyfriend sounds like a very nice guy, and I'm sure that there are other nice guys out there who WONT pressure you for sex. You just have to find them. If a guy is pressuring you like that, it means that they dont respect women as a whole, not just you. They're not the kind of guys that you would want to date any way. If a guy really cares about you, then he will wait until your ready. Keep searching for that right guy!

-Charleigh

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14/f

okay there's this guy (17/m) ive liked for a while now, and all the time he's been giving me signs that he likes me more than a friend and i got scared off and he keeps giving me signals but i dont reply because i always felt shy so i tried to keep myself from liking him..and now i heard a lot of girls asked him to prom (he didnt go with any of them and decided not to go to it) and a lot of girls are flirting with him and its NOW that i realized i do like him a lot (it's like infatuation fueled by jealousy trust me, i know how bad that sounds) and now im panicking BECAUSE WHAT IF HE DOESNT LIKE ME ANYMORE? and it's the end of the school year and i want to ask him out and that will look so ..bad, i know. omgg.

i need advice. support. SOMETHING.
and do you think he'll think bad of me for asking him out on the last day of school?

Well, he didnt go with those girls to prom, so there is a chance that he still likes you! I'd say go for it. Summer relationships can be fun (no restrictions like school, homework, etc). I dont think he'll think bad of you for asking him out on the last day of school. A lot of people start relationships at the end of the school year, it is perfectly normal. Good luck with him!
-Charleigh

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