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One of my favorite things to do is to listen to people and help them with their problems. =) It just feels so great when you know that you've helped someone that day. I've been through a lot within the past few years....so I can offer pretty good advice on most things. A lot of the time, i'm on here or kiwibox...lol I'm addicted to them both, so I will probably answer any questions almost immediatly. =)

This column is meant for basically any problem you may have on Love, Relationships, problems with family members, school, work, etc. If you ask any questions on rape, suicide, or any other serious situatioins, all i'm going to do is advise that you seek professional help from counsler or doctor, and give you my personal viewpoint. Hope any advice I have given helps ya'll. =) Hope you like my advice column!!!!! *XoXo*

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so theres this person who i met online. and hes the sweetest thing ever. and i know hes not some crazy stalker whos 76 yet he always says he loves me and he wants to go out and everything. im freaked out that like..he says that. i mean i told him i wanted to get to know him and everything. but sometimes like..i forget about him. blah im just wondering what to say to him..

Okay, Don't be fooled by people on the internet who want to get to know you like that hunny. You may think he's not crazy but there is always that "what if..." that he is crazy. If he is saying things like "I Love you" then that is a sign that maybe you should stop talking to him. He dosn't know you and hasn't met you in person, and he's already saying stuff like that? Your number one priority in the situation is to make sure you're safe....and stop talking to him. If you must tell him something, tell him you don't feel that way about him...and just slowly end it. Hope this helps! =)

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me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 4 months and i was at his house the other day and we were getting kind of sexual... we didn't have sex or anything but we were like "dry humping" and my underwear shifted and his penis went in... it wasn't for like that long because as soon as we both felt it we like jumped apart from eachother. he said that he didn't cum but there is still the whole issue of pre cum and he might have a little bit... he didn't go in deep though it was like hardly an inch. is there a chance that he could have cummed a little bit and i could get pregnant? or does he have to go in deeper?

It's a very small small chance that you are, but there is always a small percentage that you could be because of the pre cum. Maybe next time you should wear a layer more of clothing, because the less you have on the higher the risk of you becoming pregnant if you guys aren't careful. Hope this helps! =)

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..okay i know this is really long but i really need advice!! well this girl is one of my best friends..she tells me everything..well about a month ago she told me she was going anerexic, because she thinks shes fat! She is really skinny..!! I told her not to because she is really skinny and that is sooo unhealthy..and its stupid! She doesnt believe me whenever i say shes skinny..she just thinks im being nice whenever im really not! Everyday at lunchtime she would get a bottle of water..and if one of the teachers made her eat she would go to the bathroom and throw up! One day i followed her without her knowing. Well I didnt know what to do so I went to the guidence counsler..and told him what was going on..well he called her mom..but didnt say i said anything. i am not sure what her mom said.. so my friend found out it was me because i was the only one who she told. and i didnt know that! so she got mad at me and i appologized and we made up..and today in school she said she was doing it again?!??!?! i have talked to her a million times but its not working! i dont know what to do! i already told the consler the last time she did it..what should i do?! please help!!

Have you tried telling her your feelings? Something along the lines of, "I'm worried about you. You're my bestfriend and I don't want you to hurt yourself"? If talking to her isn't working, you could talk to her mother in person, or you could ask her to go the guidence counsler, and offer to go with her, so she dosn't have to go through this alone. Even if she does get mad at you for doing this, you'll probably feel a lot better with her being mad at you and knowing you helped her, than to live with the fact you didn't help her, and she almost kills herself because of anorexia. Just keep telling the counsler, or like I mentioned before, talk to her mother IN PERSON. That has a much better effect than her recieving a call from the school.

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Ok, im 7ft tall, and of course a guy. It seems like every time i approach a girl shes always so afraid of me. She never wants to talk to me and hold a convo. w/ me. When people do talk to me, they always ask how tall i am, then sit and stare. Why are girls so afraid of me? and how do you suggest i cure this problem, and maybe advise on how to keep the convo going w/o it dropping off at how big my feet are.

Aw....well maybe girls are a little intimidated by your height. I mean, i'm only 5'2 and I think i'd be a little bit scared of a guy who was towering over me at 7 feet tall...(even thought I like tall guys lol) They stare at you because you stand out and they probably are fascinated by your height. I know I find it hard not to notice someone as tall as you. Maybe you could laugh about it. It's a cool thing. Be proud of it. Don't let it bother you, and maybe it won't bother other people. =) Hope I helped any at all. If you need anything else, just ask me!

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Okay Where do i start theres this guy(Johnta) who i have been goin off and on with for the past two years.. and recently i broke up with him because i started liking this guy(Steve) i met at the beginning of school, i mean yea me and Johnta went to the same school but he never walked me to class and whenever i did see him all he did was give me a handshake like he was ashamed of me or something, and people came up to me and was like "Johnta said yall dont go out" and we did.. so i decided that maybe i should get to know steve better and i did and he treats me with respect, he walks me to class, carries my bookbag, and just makes me smile whenever i am around him, But now Johnta and Steve dont like each other because of me the other day they were about to fight in school and they didnt but they were in each others face and the only thing that came out of johntas mouth was " Fuck You! You Fucked With My Heart!" and i felt really bad.. but steve really likes me and i can tell he acts like it but when me and johnta were goin out johnta acted like we didnt.. i just dont understand why ALL OF A SUDDEN johnta acts likes he cares.. I Cant break up with steve i've gotten to know him and I REALLY like him ALOT.. all my friends tell me to break up with steve but they just dont understand how i feel.. what should i do?

Lordy lol. Well it sounds like, he could be ashamed. He could be afraid of commitment or scared that if he softens up for you or a girlfriend in general, that his friends might call him "whipped" and he could feel less Macho. (My boyfriends friends do that but he could care less)

Johnta also sounds like he wants you to be there no matter what, so he'll have someone to fall back on. But now that you have placed an interest in another guy, he's jealous. He wants you to himself and if he can't have you, then nobody else can. If you and Steve start going steady, don't be surprised if Johnta tries to cause problems or involve himself in your love life.

This guy Steve sounds like a really decent guy. I mean, since you are in the situation where you have to choose, would you rather be with Johnta and he treat you the way he has been, or with Steve who carries your books and treats you with respect? Personally Steve sounds like the better choice. Definatley boyfriend material and he sounds like he is more of a longterm guy. It may be hard to do that to Johnta, but it could be the best thing....for the both of you. Hope I helped. If you need any more advice on anything, just go to my advice column!

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