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Location: North Carolina
Age: 29
Yahoo: dtdement85@yahoo.com
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My friend.. is on the edge of not being my friend anymore. She's driving me insane. All she ever talks about is how sucky her life is. She hates her parents, car, job, school. She hates everything and is CONSTANTLY complaining about how sucky her life is. She thinks at 18 she's had the hardest life ever. HA! If her life really sucked that bad, she would change it right? No, she just likes to nag. How can I tell my "friend" (in a NICE way) that if she doesnt stop B!tChing than Im going to have to start ditching? (link)
I had a similiar situation and what i did was confronted my friend and told him exactly what i thought. Tell her if she cant quite bitching and get herself together that you dont wont nothing to do with her. I know its not exactly nice but the truth is really what matters.


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i like this guy that i have known 4 about a year and i didnt like him when i meet him but now i will see him a lot and he keeps smiling at me and looking at me...so 1 of my friends went up 2 him and aked him if he liked me and he said no and he was smiling when he said it so we know he likes me. and at first i thought it was a lil weird but now i really like him and i dont know what to do......hes 1 year older then me and REALLY nice. PLEASE HELP!!!! i am goin to see him tomorrow

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Take a chance, and go out with him. That is if he is serious bout liking you. Trust you instincts. If you really feel like something might happen and feel good bout it go out with him. And if you are hesistating then wait maybe its not meant for yall to go out. And if it is and you wait then yall will be that much closer and know that its meant to be.


Okay, so tonight I can either go out with this girl I could possibly be getting close to (which is saying a lot for me) or this girl I'm not that close to but would fool around a lot more with. I've already gone out with the first girl once this week (Wednesday...two days ago) and i sorta as a rule don't see a girl too often.

Who should i go see? (link)
If you got a gut feeling telling you to go out with one of them tonight then go with your gut feeling. If not and it was me i would go out with the one that i felt closeset to.


hi my name is jess ive been going out with my boyfriend for days so far. But today when i was at my friends house a kid in her neighborhood said he was going out with this other girl to. How can i find out with out hurting our relationship if hes cheatin on me.
Ps. he does have a history of cheating when he was going out with my friends.
luv jess (link)
If it was me i would confront him and say tell me the truth. If he says no. Play it out and if you catch him cheating on you them take action.


Alright, so like I like this girl, she knows it, she's not sure if she likes me. She showed me her webpage today, and one of the comments says that she had her first kiss. I don't know what to say about that. Like just a few weeks, a month and a half at most, ago. She said her current relationship is almost over, but... I don't know. Honestly. I kept reading the page, and it turns out she had had like 3 boyfriends in the last three or four months. But I don't think they really LOVED her. I absolutely positively love her and I know that she's the one for me. Judging by how she broke up with the others, it looks like they didn't really love her, they were just the guys who look for "is she hot" and all. Like one person said he didn't like it when she acted all weird. Yeah, she's spassy, but I don't give a damn, I love her just the same! I told her that, but hey. We're 13. I don't know if she believes it, or knows what true love is considering the others. But she may love me. I recently asked her to a carnival as *cough* friends, and she didn't say "ok" or "sure" or "yes". She said "I'd love to!" which made me feel that it was right. I don't know why. I just did.

I really don't want her to have others. I want to be the only one. She has no idea how much I love her, it's more than anyone could possibly love anyone else. But she's already had a first kiss... so I don't know... it was someone who she's known her whole life, whereas we only met a year ago, so she may choose him over me. I really don't want anyone else to have her... really....

And then I commented on one of the people who she talked about breaking up with on her web page. I said that he was annoying, but not in those words, if you catch my drift. About two minutes passed. She logged off of AIM. I thought to myself, "Jeez. At least say goodbye." But then I realized that it would have been the perfect time to ask her out, just after dissing her ex (she has exes =( judging by the other stories I've read, the exes will come back to her, I just know it!!!) and so I think she was waiting for me to ask her out, but then thought that I was to shallow for that or something since it took so long. Jeez, I wrote the girl a song, even though I suck at songwriting, I can't be shallow! So now I'm worrying about are our chances over, could she be with the person she kissed, what if her exes come back, maybe she doesn't like me in the first place, what if she's making a hard decision and is going to choose the person who's not me, what if one day we kiss and it's not her first but it is hers, and so now I'm spassing and worrying and I just really want to have her! Sorry it's so insanely long... I'm just going through a hard time. (link)
If it was me i would vonfront her and tell her exacty how you feel about her. Tell her you are serious and aint gonna do her wrong. let her know that you see more in her other than whats on the outside.


i go out with this kid names paul.. and he smokes weed and i dont like the fact that he dosee and hes 3 years older then me and its weird.. and i dont wanna breakup wiht him jus for that but i dont know what i wanna do right now..? what do you think i should do? pleasee help

i ratee welll! *♥hailey♥* (link)
I know this will be hard but if it was me i would ask him if he cares more bout you or more bout his weed. And tell him if he does really care for you then the weed has to go. And if he keeps on doing weed your best bet would be leave him cause all he is doing is asking for trouble.




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