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ookay , im really scared to have sex cause it will hurt and i dont want it to hurt .. like i have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years . but i am sooo ready for it . we both want it . but i herd it hurts so much . i mean he cant even finger me without it hurting , =/ .. i get to the point where i cry it hurts so bad .. what do i do becuase we both want to . =/ but i mean im only 15 and yeah . i mean we both want to and understand the risks . but we love each other (link)
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Whether you have sex now or five years from now, it's still going to hurt. It depends on how many other sexual things you have done before and how quickly you have sex. This is my first sex question soo yeah this is weird for me to answer but anyway. It will hurt but if you're wet enough it won't hurt as bad and if you've been stretched out it won't hurt as bad. You most likely won't achieve orgasm either and the first few times you do have sex it's still going to hurt. If you both feel you're ready and feel like you definitely won't regret it then make the decision together. Fingering and sex are different because when you use a condom it has lubrication on it and fingers don't (unless you've been putting that on) and it'll slide in easier. Fingers feel totally different than sex and like I said it's going to hurt but there's nothing really to do to prevent it. Everyone's nervous their first time.
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I broke up with my bf because, I sorta didn't trust him..(things happened). and like i've been thinking a lot about him lately.. and he still likes me he told me and we talk like everyday...but lately we dont talk as much and things arent the same. today i told him i miss the things we used to do together wen were dateing. and he said "i dont know if i miss them." =[ and that reallyyyy hurt me.... (link)
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Maybe he has another girl in the picture. Try to move on and find another guy. If you're meant to be together he'll come back to you. He may mean that he doesn't miss dating because of the "things that happened." Just hold your head up and find another guy who won't hurt you.
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I'm a girl and theres this boy at my school and I think I like him but I don't know if he likes me. I think he does like me but then I don't. My friends think I like him.I don't know what to do should I ask him out or what? This kid is like one of my good friends and if i ask him out and he says no then I'll feel wired around him. I want a boyfriend bad but I have no idea what to do.Please give me advice on what to do! (link)
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Don't ask him out because you want a boyfriend. Make sure you like him a lot and that it would work and not end within two days. Friction can be caused if you ask him out and he says no. Find out how he feels first and let him know how you feel. Things will be awkward at first more than likely but you'll feel better about it because he knows and you know. If he doesn't like you then you can find someone else who does and not be hung up on him wondering about his feelings towards you.
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I'm 13 and I went out with a guy a year older than me for a month. We broke up because we don't see eachother. He talks to me all the time and tells me he loves me. He wants to go back out with me, but there's a problem. He's moving to Arizona this summer. (I live In Michigan) He told me to go to college out in Arizona, and I know thats another 5 years from now and he'll probably find someone else, but I honestly think he's the one for me. I can't live without him. What should I do? (link)
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He probably will date other people and so will you. People get caught up in feelings and tell each other they're in love when it's just infatuation. Since college is five years away for you, keep in contact with him and if he doesn't feel like you're the one anymore or you no longer feel that he's the one then don't move to Arizona just for him. Take things day by day and let whatever happens happen.
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Hi, i think i like this guy in school but i think he might like someone else wut should i do? And a other question, there is this kid who is in love with me and he wont leave me alone and i really dont want to brake his heart what should i tell him? (link)
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If you think the guy likes someone else, tell him you like him and see how he feels. You'll get your feelings out and you never know. He might like you and just not want to tell you.
The kid in love with you.. Just sit down and talk to him and tell him that you don't mean to hurt his feelings but you need him to try to move on now before he ends up getting hurt really bad in the end because you don't like him and you probably never will. Try to compliment him when you tell him this and tell him like how many other girls would probably consider going out with him and that stuff.
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Ive been with my boyfriend for over a year now ( im 14 ) we are really close and we talk to eachother about anything .. we always " do stuff " but its getting pretty serious , we talk about having sex and the effects of it , we know we have to use a condom and be safe - but do you think im too young? I mean i feel ready, and im constintly craving it .. xoox * nicole (link)
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You have to make this decision on your own. As long as you feel that you're ready and you understand the consequences such as sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy then do what you think is right. Condoms can break and birth control doesn't 100% prevent pregnancy nor does it prevent STD's.
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well.. last week i went to a party and this wicked hot was comming onto me. and practically the whole party we talked, and by the end of the night we ended up making out. and he thought i was kool and got my number. i got his sn and he said for me to i/m him. so hes usually online with an away message up. and when he does come bak and i i/m him he puts up an away and then never responds bak! im gettin so confused, cause i thought we had sumthing and i wanted to hang out with him again. idk if i should just wait ? help me! thanx babe (link)
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Just wait until he's actually on. He's probably not avoiding you cuz a majority of the time that most guys are online they're away. At least on my buddy list.. lol. So don't sweat it. Wait for him to call you and if he doesn't call you in like two weeks, then just forget him. Guys are dumb. lol
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Hey everyone, Ima 16 year old girl from Mass...I honestly dont know what to do... Im having a really tough year ...because i have had several[6] friends all between the ages of 14-19 pass away since march of "03" and i seem to be sinkin into depression badly..ive seeked help but its not working..now my grades are severly slipping and i cant seem to find the motivation to get up every morning and go to school.Im really thinking about dropping out but i dont want to become a loser and all that junk...someone please help me..i dont know what to do..??
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First off, you definitely shouldn't drop out of school. Think of your future and where you'd be if you didn't get a high school diploma. There aren't many jobs that are good paying that you could get so you would probably sink into a deeper depression when you're older if you do drop out.
There's no way to bring someone who died back for you so the best thing you can do is just move on. If they were your friends they would want you to move on and be happy and live a normal life. I've had a lot of people I know die or get terminally ill but the best thing to do is still keep them in your heart and in your prayers but don't bring yourself down about it. They'd want you to be happy and I'm sure they appreciate that you care but there's nothing more you can do but move on and try to be happy. I'm sure if they were here they'd tell you so.
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ok..I'm 13 years old and I have a best friend..hes a guy and we've been like best friends for 3 years we tell each other everything. I think I'm starting to like him...we had a school dance and I asked him to dance with me just as friends but after that i started to like him...should i tell him...or keep it on the low..? I dunno what to do..? (link)
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I say tell him. Honesty is the best policy. He might be a little distant after awhile but if you don't start acting weird around him he'll get over it. I've done it before and they always get over it. lol.
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hey im 13 and my best friend and i are in a fight and i dont know what to do. she asked if me and a couple of our friends wanted to go to the skate park and we said we could, but then i found out my two other friends couldnt so i didnt wanna leave them behind so i told my friend thats mad at me i couldnt go.. and she got to pissed at me.. and now she keeps calling me and cursin at me and stuff and wont even talk to me// idk y she doesnt understand...what can i do to help her not being mad at me anymore? :-(
thnx for helpin!:)
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Ask the two girls who couldn't go to let your friend know that's why you didn't go.
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Ok there is this girl who I have known almost my whoel life and my really good friend. Everyone loves her cause she is really popular and pretty. We're not the best of friends any more. One day me, her bf, and some people were playing truth or dare. When my friend found out what happened she totally blamed her bf...but then she got mad at me and my other two friends. Her bf made up this lie that we forced him to do stuff ( but we never did) and so far she believes HIM! I was mad but i understand cause she doesn't kno what to do. I really don't want to lose her as friend. Our friendship is about to fall apart...unless you give me some advice!! PLEASE HELP ME!!!
-- Krista -- p.s. Friendship is more important than a bf...but how can I make her realize that?? (link)
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Give her examples of past boyfriends she's had and how they haven't stuck around but you've been here basically her entire life. If she still believes her boyfriend over you, then let her. It's her loss if you can't have a friend who can take your side rather than a guy's.
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Okay, well there is this girl and she flirts with my boyfriend all the time, because they are in all the same classes. I hear she leans on him and when he moves she leans opn his desk. I dont know what to do !
xox carissa (link)
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Ask your boyfriend to tell her that she needs to stop flirting with him because it's not cool when he has a girlfriend. If he isn't willing to tell her then he probably likes the attention which usually means you don't give him enough or that he's starting to like other girls. If he does ask her to back off a little and she's still on him, then you should talk to her. Not in a rude way but just let her know that you don't appreciate her actions after she's been asked to stop.
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Ok...i am new here and i saw this advice column so i decided to try it out to see if it would help. Me and mi boyfriend are really close, we kiss all the time, and we do EVERYTHING together...but sometimes he worries me cuz it feels like he doesnt like me anymore!! :( am i paranoid or is he giving me signs that its over?!
-Need Help
(fourteen) (link)
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Since you didn't really tell me what signs he gives you that he doesn't like you, I can't really help you.
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I really like this boy named David and hes a year older than me but, hes my hieght. We talk alot and stuff... my friends say he likes me but i dont think its true because hes older than me. Hes friends with all my friends but, i dont want to tell him I like him because i hate it when people dont like me. How do i get him to like me?
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You can't make a person feel the way you want them to feel. He has to start liking you on his own. Just tell him how you feel because he might be shy and not wanna tell you but if you say it first, he might feel more comfortable. Tell him in private and not with your friends around to take the pressure/embarrassment off.
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Lately I have been really depressed and I havent like said much or laughed much in a while. I started cutting and even planned ways out to kill myself but it never happened. I really am under alot of stress and no one is here to talk to me about it. (link)
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Go to a guidance counselor at school or talk to your parents and have them take you to a psychologist or something.
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Im 13 years old in the 8th grade, and this girl and I have been best friends since 4th grade...Or at least i think shes still my friend. I've done nothing wrong...So she says, and nothing i can recall of. Although when im around her I can never discuss my issues with her, It feels like she doesnt listen. And now that we're back in school she ignores me when we're outside. I used to think she was my best friend, but ever since this year, Its like she can't stands to be around me, and it hurts so bad because i dont want to lose our friendship, But she won't tell me the truth. I dont know what to do. She's the closest person i have to talk to really, and It seems as if she doesnt care, or doesnt listen, And I've heard how people say "Then stop being her friend". I've tried, but ive been best friends with her, and i dont want to stop being best friends, but its like shes keeping something from me, (using something against me). Idk what to do, what should i do? (link)
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Maybe she's going through something that she doesn't want anyone to know about and is just pushing you away for awhile. Give her some space and then try talking to her about it because you might be annoying her if you're constantly asking whether or not she's mad at you and if you've done something to her.
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Hey.Im 15 and I'm datin this guys thats in a lower grade than me..and my best friend told me that she feels left out and doesnt want to hang out with me while Im with him or any of his friends cause she wants to start hanging out with older people and I need to decide what I want to do.And Im so confused!I really like him alot!we have been dating for about 6 months.But I do not want to have to choose between them. My boyfriend understands and he is there for me. my friend on the other hand I dont know..we have been best friends for about 7 years.This is all to much for me.Please help me. (link)
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Sounds like your friend just wants to look cool. Give her a reality check. She's being selfish if she can't let you hang out with your boyfriend just because he's younger. Make a day where you hang out with her and then a day when you hang out with him and then try to talk to them both about if your boy's cool with her and if she's cool with him and then get them to hang out together. Then the next weekend or whatever go hang out with older people that your friend likes so you both get what you want. Compromise! lol
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all of my friends do weed, they get high and juss do a lot.. and its not only once a day, its like everytime they are wit different people. since they qot all into weed, they havent rly been invitin me places and everythinq, and they braq about it wen they talk to me, about the quys they were wit and everything and wut they did while they were hiqh. now i dunno if they are real friends like they always say they are or what.. i mean we`ve been friends for almost 5 years and there is no one else that i rly have.. are those the true friends? i mean they have a lot of qood qualities to them.. but lately its juss all they do is weed, cos they say they are bored.. and i dunno wut to do. are they the kind of friends that are true? (link)
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Everyone goes through a phase at some point in their life where they think they're super cool for some reason. I'm not really sure why but I don't really think I know one person who hasn't been all like "Wow I'm cooler than you" at least once in their life. Tell them how you feel. You guys have been friends for awhile and just at least try to show them how stupid they're being. Drugs aren't cool anyway and I could never understand what makes people believe that. You've made it five years so don't try to ruin it. Some people can't even make it five months with good friends. If they love you, they'll listen.
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Ok im 15 years old and this past summer i met this really cute kidd at a carnival. Well we exchnaged numebrs and we hung out EVERYDAY for like 2months. my whole family loved him.. then 0ne day he finally asked me out.. i was thrilled.. alls i wanted to do was be with him. But slowly n slowly.. we started to not see each other as much and we called only like 2 times a day instead of like 50 it was hard.. we lived so eventually we ended our realtionship. But its been much harder for me to get over him then it is for him to get over me. but he still calls me and he still tells me things liek he loves me.. should i stop talking to him so its easier to get over him or keep talking to him and pray he comes back to me. Im jus really confused but it realli seems like i cant live life w/ o him!! THANKS (link)
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Well apparently he isn't over you if he still says he loves you. Wait for him if you don't feel like anyone else is worth being with right now. If he loves you he's gonna come back. If he doesn't come back then there's nothing you can do except force yourself to get over him. A tiny bit if you will probably always love him. You just have to learn to live without him if he doesn't come back.
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k this is a long sad story but anyways im only 14 but i really think i found "the one" and the thing is we used to be so so close and then i fell for him and now he ignores me and all this stuff and i cry over him all the time and no one gets me there all like ur 2 young 2 be in love and its like no im not! cuz i know hes the one for me and i dont know what to do cuz he doesnt love me bak! PLEASE HELP (link)
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Yeah I can understand where you're coming from. My "one" didn't talk to me for like nine months then out of nowhere he was like "I miss you" and stuff so guys are just weird. lol Don't cry though. It may get your feelings out but sometimes it just makes things worse because then you just start thinking and thinking isn't good sometimes lol. Just give him some time. If he's really the one he's gonna come back. so don't fret =)
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