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So my boyfriend's little brother and I go to school together. Everytime I go to his house or I see him at school he takes special interest in me and what I'm doing. He likes to play with my hair or if I'm wearing boots he plays with them and any type of jewlery I wear he takes it of and puts it back on me. I've seen him do it to several other girls but not the way he does it to me, oh yeah and he likes to touch my face a lot. The scary part is that I have more in common with him than I do with my boyfriend so I ask this...Do his feelings for me go far more then friendship and if they do, What should I do? (link)
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Put things clear
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I'm 28, female
Ok, so this is a partially love/partially friendship topic so sorry for the long back-story thank you for your time!
My ex-boyfriend (my first love/sex/kiss) and I dated for 5 formative years until we finally fizzled out and decided we needed to date around since at 22 and 23 we felt like an old couple. We honestly stopped being in love but neither of us hurt the other one or cheated or anything-it just died and we're still very close.
We get along extremely well, we can tell each other anything and I often confide in him and seek out his advice-even on relationships! I've always expected that we would remain friends for our entire lives and my current boyfriend of 4 years accepts him and enjoys his company.
Everything was great until he met his now fiance. It's not that she sucks or anything- in fact, since he's been with her, I've only managed to see her once even though my ex and I keep some of the same circle of friends in our hometown, so I haven't had the chance to form an opinion of her. Since they started dating, he has distanced himself greatly and I rarely get to see him in person anymore.
I've received a "save the date" thing for their wedding and I really want to go-it looks fun and I wouldn't dream of missing one of my best friend's weddings! It would break my heart to miss it!
Unfortunately though, I've heard through a mutual friend of ours that the fiance hates me and they've fought a great deal over inviting me-she didn't want me to be there, but apparently he won.
This has been very hurtful for me. Ive never said anything bad about her and I don't really think meeting her one time calls for it. Actually, I think she must be a very cool, smart, and kind person if he would choose to share his life with her. I still very much want to remain friends with my ex and I desperately want his wife-to-be to accept me and the weird (it must be difficult to understand) platonic relationship I have with her fiance, and also, I really want to become her friend too!
I know that if she just spent more time with the two of us she would sense the true nature of our relationship and her mind would be put at ease. I know I can win her over if I just get the chance! However, obviously the reason I barely see him is because she's not cool with it so we don't really have a chance.
It sucks. I seriously care about him SO much-not romantically or sexually but definitely on a deep level.
He is my oldest close friend (10 years) and he means more to me than I could possibly express.
So, the real question:
Should I go to their wedding when I now know that she doesn't want me to be there?
Is it wrong for me to pretend as though I don't know this and press for the chance to spend time with her beforehand in order to win her over?
What can I do to reduce the awkwardness if I go to the event?
Bring my boyfriend?
Sit at the back?
Try to look crappy at the wedding?
Thank you guys!
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