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Q: there is this 1 girl who is friends with my best friend. she has been very rude to me and saying i have no friends and i know i have way more friends then her! shes bein a real biatch plz hlp!
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ok well what you should do is try to make common ground and see what you both like. IF that doesnt work(it worked for awhile for me) then annoy the crap out of her. it works sooo much. you can also tell your friend to tell her that she needs to stop being mean. it worked for me! ask me for advice anytime!
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Q: There's this guy that I've like for about a year or so now and he's told me that he's liked me too. We've hung out outside of school a lot and everything went great. I really love who I am when I'm with him. He's such an amazing person and I love spending time with him. The only problem is that lately he's been distancing himself from me because he's afraid to get hurt. When he told me that I seemed to distance myself from him so I didn't fall even harder just in case it didn't work out. I still have really strong feelings for him and we talk all the time, I'm just not sure on what I should do. I've told him how I feel. I think I really love him. Should I lay it all out on the table and tell him everything I think about him and the way he makes me feel or should I just give him his space until he figures out what he's feeling?
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Well it does not seem like you need advice. you have got it all figured out. i guess he is going through some kind of thing we go through. its like a cheesy reality show thingy. i think you should just give him that space until he has gotten things settled. if you have a major feeling that he is about to stop likeing you because of this then you should start to come back closer to him because he is most likely over his thingy. ask me for more advice anytime i hope i helped.
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Q: Ok..ive got this group of friends that is really popular with the older kids (mostly guys) at our highschool. They know them all i don't understand how they know them so well in a short amount of time they've been in highschool. But neways..these guys seem nice and they have cars so thats a plus..but how do i get to know them without being the annoying little freshman that IMs them everytime im on or says hey in the hall and they look at my like im a freak?
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Well if i were you i would just say hi if they said it first. you dont have to IM them everytime they come on wait a couple of minutes between every IM like you have other people to talk to, which i am sure you do. Just kind of be their side friend. I am also a freshman but see i know these juniors and i dont say hi to them ll the time i used to and they say hi to me sometimes too so it works out. i have plenty of advice ask me more questions and ill answer.
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Q: me and my friend have been splitting apart ever sence he went out with this one girl. i really want to be friends with him still, and i also kind of like him, could you please give me the best advise for this because he means alot to me! thanks!!
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Even though you are splitting apart you should not let your feelings get in the way right now you should focus on trying to start to get to be a better friend again and then show some of your feelings. you have to show him that you can be a friend with him before you become a gf.ask again if you need anything else.
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Q: ok well, it kinda feels like everything i do hurts someone else...in my family. like this relative will not let go of me. like last week i wanted to go to a party with my best friend but this person would not let me go and i felt so bad for even asking. and everything is like this. like if they want me to buy something that i don't even want, i do. and i cant say no...to anything. even bigger choices aren't mine to decide. and they already let someone else go so this person holds on to me tighter.
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I think that when the next time you dont want to do something you should just say i love you very much but no i dont like it/want it or something like that.you should not be forced to do anything. And the only thing is your relative loves you soo mch that he/she always wants to be around you.i would take it as a compliment. but what you should do it just say i need some space of my own i am sure he/she will undersatnd!
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Q: okay well i used to be really like a crazy flirting slut but then i found this one guy and we went through a lot together and im not really gunna go into detail but i like used up my heart on him and forgot to like care about all the other guys that have been like giving me attention and i just couldnt help it but now im in the process of getting over that one guy cause we are like through its really hard but i really wanna like find another guy to build something with or like get back my like social part of me with boys cause i like to talk and flirt with plenty of boys its just i kind of forget how to make a guy friend, i know it sounds gay but oh well and theres this kid in my science class and i really wanna talk to him but he doesnt talk that much in that class cause i dont know but hes really nice and hot and friendly and smart and i just wanna like be friends with him but ive only talked to him like once before and he doesnt sit near me or anything and im not good at science whatso ever. Could you please try your best to help me with my multiple issues
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Well what i would do is just ask him out you wil get to like somebody if you hang out with them a lot. And if it does not work out then just try to find someone else you like or would like to get to know. Go to the movies and afterwards start to talk about the movie and go off topic while you are walking to the car.
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Q: I'm 14 and a female. My ex-boyfriend is 16. He broke up with me a little over a month now. We dated for 6 months. He broke up with me because he said he wanted to concentrate on school and he didn't want a girlfriend. I think it was just an excuse. When we were dating he told me he loved me and I was the best thing that ever happened to him. I believed him and told him I loved him back because I truely meant it. After we broke up we still talked and he told me that he wanted to get back with me after he brought his grades up. He ignored me for a week and I was upset. We started to say hey and gave hugs whenever we saw each other and I told him to call but he never did. The next day at school I found out that he made out with another girl(this was 2 weeks after we were broken up). I try to get over him and move on but it's hard because I still have alot of feelings for him and I still love him. I wouldn't mind getting back to him even though what he did was totally wrong. I don't want to chase after him because if he wanted me he would come after me...right? I don't know what to do because I still love him and I don't know how he is feeling right now. His friend is supposed to see how he is feeling about me. I don't know what to do though. Can you help? Thanks!
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Well, talk to him about his "incident" and see if it was some misunderstanding or something. If it is a misunderstanding, ask him out at the very next possible time he could go out, and hopefully he still loves you the way he said he did.
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Q: well i broke up with my boyfriend in may and now i go to the same school with him and he still wants to be with me i dont even want to be friends with him and now he has a classes next to my locker and i see him every day i don't want to talk to him and i told him i like another guy and he insists that we should get back together but i told him i don't like him at all and now he doesn't stop bugging me what do i do. or what can i do
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Just tell him you don't like him bugging u all the time, and say that your final answer is no, i dont want to get back together with you. If he's not the one, definetly just dont get back together with him at all. he seems like he gonna stalk you now, and if that's the case, I would actually tell someone like a teacher or a guidance that he is bothering you.
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Q: ok heres my deal, i will be moving to fl from ca and i am shy and i want to know what is the best way to present myself in a friendly manner so that will able me to make friends...??
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Just be yourself!! Try to subtly talk to people you think are nice. Say things like I love your shirt, where did you get it? or Your hairdo is awesome! always compliement people. they love it. Also ask them about themsleves. most people like talking about themselves!!
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Q: I love my boyfriend dearly and everything and I mean everything is going great and I am as happy as ever. But somehow I just feel like something or someone is gonna break us up...Like somethings gonna keep us apart... It makes me feel depressed...Maybe I feel this way because whenever I was in a relationship a guy, he never took it seriously...could this be why? and if it isn't then why do i feel this way?
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If things are really going well, then you shouldn't be worried. The past people aren't this guy!! I'm sure that u 2 will be together a long time if you truly love him and make the relationship work.
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Q: okay, i dont like my friend that much any more and she is really sensitive... i dont want to be friends with her any more and she ALWAYS hangs around me. What do i do?
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Well, get your friend involved into group activities, and help her to make friends with other people. Eventually, she will stop hanging out with you. If she still sticks to you, slowly detach from her, and she will grow on to other people.
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Q: My guy friend..lets call him K..likes me and I like him back..atleast I think so. We got kind of deep and talked about our feelings and stuff..and he told me all the reasons he liked me..I really liked him at that point..he's so sweet. One weired problem..when I'm not talking to him...or just talking to him online..I feel like I can't decide if I really like him or not..but when I talk to him in person it's totally different. I dont know I can't stop thinking about it and it's tearing me apart. If anyone could help..that would be GREAT! THANKS!
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Well, talking to him in person is better and more real than online or some other way. If you like him when you talk, that's great!! You can't see the person when your talking online or on the phone. in person is... well... more personal. If you like him in person, then you will probably like him anytime.
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Q: ok. there's this 7th grader at my school (i'm in 8th) and i like him. my bff's boyfriend is friends with this guy(this guys name is zach). i had a dream about zach and bff(gina) tells her boyfriend(brandon). so after school today, this kid is like all like trying to get gina to bring me over to him. we flirted at the beginning of the year and i like him. what do i say to him and do you think it's wrong for an 8th grader to go out with a 7th grader? thx for the help! oh yeah, i really really like this kid
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Well, if you really, really like this guy, then please ask him out! It's not weird, and he'll probably be thrilled to go out with an 8th grader!
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Q: If your gf is away at college and has guys of one her friends sleeping in her room with her and her roommate and she cuddles with him would you look at it as cheating or something to be mad/hurt about? Or if they slept in the same bed? Guys and girls opinions are good
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I don't know if you can necessarily call that cheating but yeah I would definitely be mad about that. The ONLY cuddling that should be done is with your significant other no exceptions. And as for sleeping in the same bed that's not right either. When you're in a relationship with someone it's about being with that one person.
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Q: My friends talk about me behind my back, and they end up dissing me for this other girl. Ok, so here's the deal: Me and this girl(Lucy) used to be the BESTEST of friends back in elementary school. But, after I met 2 other girls,(Hannah and Mya) she has been trying to separate all of us. Now, Hannah and Mya diss me for Lucy! We ALL have all the same classes together. So, how do I get them to hang out with me again?
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Well, what's your definition of a friend? A friend is certainly not someone who is going to talk behind your back. Yes, you may have some fights here and there but a friend will never hurt you. Oprah has always said 'love never hurts' so if you have some hurting you they don't really care about your feelings. Don't you want to find friends who are good to you and treat you well? What I would do is confront them and ask them what's going on. If they keep 'dissing' you then I would stay away from them and find some new friends. Good luck and I hope it works out for you!
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Q: I physically feel an ache in my chest and a burning in the pit of my stomach, accompanied by nausea. I feel jittery (probably from lack of sleep.) I haven't been sleeping well, in fact from friday night to last night Ive only had 2 hours of sleep. I'm having a bit of a nervous breakdown do to, having to explain to a unknown person on the bus about what gender I am and in their words, "why I go to extreme lengths to make it difficult to read." That bothered me the most, then I was called out to be a liar and mentally ill, as well as homosexual. Which are in no way remotely tied to the reasons I dress androgynous. I accept the fact that God made me as the sex he intended to. Is it so wrong to want to view myself as either male or female? I just feel like I'm the child that was caught playing with the wrong gender enrolled toy, and yelled at to reinforce the roles I need to take up on as being born of that gender. Now I don't want to leave my home. I feel like all eyes are on me, and like they all for some reason are either 1 disgusted or 2 disapprove. Please, any "positive" advice welcomed. I feel pretty jaded from everything, and it seems like I just worked up the courage to feel comfortable in my own skin and finally be able to dress how I want, but now in a fracture of a second it just all seized to exist.
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Be YOU! I don't understand why society is trying to make us into 'normal' people. No one is normal everyone is different. And you shouldn't be shut down because you are different. For a long time, I was silenced and it's only recently that I've used my voice. People are afraid of what's different. People are afraid of what they don't know. And it may seem hard right now but the more and more you use your voice and dress the way you want to the more you'll feel more in your own skin. People are so quick to judge and especially when they don't even know you. Don't let them get you down and don't even pay attention to them. I also realized life is too short for the small stuff. Good luck!
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Q: I'm REALLY weird when you get to know me, but that takes a few weeks...Before you know me too well I'm really shy. I like this guy and I don't know if he thinks I'm super weird and it's a turn off or something. I make really loud noises at lunch with my friends, throw food at each other occasionally, and we LOVE making scenes in the hallway. But nothing too big. :) So how much weird is too weird for a guy? Thanks!!!
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I think everyone has a weird side there's no such thing as 'normal' people and there has never been! I was told I was weird because I use to make funny faces and would make people laugh. I guess it depends on the guy but my boyfriend thought I was cute and entertaining. He and I have the same kind of humor anyways. In the end, the guy should like you for you! Good luck!
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Q: boyfriend left me for another girl, one month before our one year. i can't eat, i can't sleep. i know in time i'll be better but i sincerely do love him with every ounce in my heart. so my head tells me to fucking never talk to his ass again, but my heart screams his name every time it beats in my chest. I know i'm only 17, before him i had another boyfriend for 3 years. Yes i'm young, but i know that i want a loving boyfriend, because my moms marriage is horrible hes abusive and not the man she married. How do i move on? How do i possibly breathe and not think about him..
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It hurts to get your heartbroken I understand but you're young and there are so many guys out there. It hurts when you can't have a guy that you want. I was in love with this kid I dated and he's awesome I love him but he's just not good for me. So I broke up with him...apart of me thinks I made a mistake the other part of me knows that it was the right decision and that I'm going to find a man who cares about me and is going to treat me right. I have never given my hope up on love NEVER. I grieved and some days for me are better than others. I sing I write, I dance, I walk, or I even play basketball. Motivate yourself get out there and hang out with your friends. Don't sit around and cry...you can cry its just don't sit at home all day long that doesn't help! Your guy is out there...you just have to keep looking!
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Q: Lately alot of people have been treating me like dirt, like after I leave some where they go and party it up I don't go because they only invite me if I overhear them talking about it, I also get thrown aside after I do something to help someone in need of it. I'm not the most handsome of guys in high school but when I meet a new cute girl I like I usually introduce her to some friends within days her and someone close are together already. I have lost self will to go on I've tried to stick up for myself grow a back bone but it's all the same, making new honest friends isn't easy in school so I hardly have anyone to talk to. How should I approach my problems?
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I know how you feel all to well. You feel like people ignore you and that they don't want to include you in anything. It hurts especially when you put yourself out there...I'm not a very open person I'm VERY shy in person. I finally found a group of people who I can relate to and who care about me as much as I do them! Why not join a club or something and make some new friends that share your common interests? It would be a great way to meet people because they like something you do so it would help in conversations. Maybe go talk to someone like a guidance counselor or maybe an adult you trust! My advice though is don't keep trying to talk to people who treat you like dirt they're not worth it and you can do better!
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Q: love music and i love to sing and want to create my own song. how can i make up lyrics? i never have never know what to write.and how to put it in words because i know you have to put your feelings into word and music but i want to know how.
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Well just write it as a poem it doesn't need to rhyme. Write it whatever you want...it helps me a lot when I'm going through hard times or even good. I actually tend to have a lot of lyrics in my head and when I release them on paper it helps me a lot. Try it sometime just take a piece of paper and pen and start writing about an experience you may have had and see what happens!
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bio
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The name is Jessica, I'm 30 years old. I'm married to the love of my life, and I am a mother to a beautiful little angel. I'm outgoing, fun to be around, love my fam and close friends. I'm a blogger, singer, bookworm, college grad, & stay at home mom.
*what I give advice on*
teen sexuality - health - college - school - fashion - relationships - friendships - depression - mental health (anything basically)
So feel free to ask anything related to what i've given above.
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Location: New Jersey Member Since: February 14, 2018 Answers: 117 Last Update: March 2, 2018 Visitors: 7721
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