Hello, I'm Samantha. I'm 18 and have been through some pretty bad situations before myself so i can really relate to alot of the questions you may ask me. I went through more then the average girl has probably been through before i was 14. And thats what really got me into giving advice. I'm really out going, i giving adivice and seeing that it really does help. I'm funny, nice and caring and i hope i can really help you all. If you need any adivece from me just send me and e-mail.
Yours truely
-Samantha
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Age: 18
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look i am Really Depressed and i dont know how to handle it i cry almost every night and ive already tried opne way it Didnt work! I need HELP
Signed,
Depressed (link)
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Dear Depresssed
I know how it feels to be depressed and it hurts alot. Have you told anyone yet? Have you tryed to take some medican for it? If your not really into medications then talk to a profesion shrink. They may be able to help you feel better, but you really do need to get some kind of help about this before it gets out of hand.
Hope I helped!
Yours truely
-Samantha
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Me and my one guy friend have been best friends for a good three or four years now, and it's been great. We never fight, we're always there for eachother, and we always have alot of fun and a really good time together.
This is basically one of those "both on-and-off like eachother" scenarios. He'd like me, ask me out, I'd ask to be just friends. Time'd pass, I'd start crushing on him a bit, and never say anything and he'd get a girlfriend, I'd move on. While having a girlfriend, he liked me again, I didn't, etc. etc. This has been going on basically for the whole time we've known eachother, and nothing's really happened, so it's kind of been in my mindset that if something were to happen, it most likely would've happened already.
It's always just been a worry of mine with that question: "Well what if we break up or something? I couldn't bear to lose him as a best friend." Cause out of all ex's, I've only been able to barely continue a random friendship with ONE. And this best friend has told me I'm one of the only girls to ever turn him down as a girlfriend, I'm worried this is going to be just a "thrill of the chase" thing. Finally snag the girl he never got. I've just been sort of used to liking him a bit and getting over it, I don't know if I could actually date him and get REAL deep feeling for him, and not just thinking of him as my friend.
I couldn't picture kissing him or anything, in my mind..it just seems strange. I keep thinking maybe I only have crushy feelings for him, because he's such a genuine nice guy, it's hard not to have SOME feelings for him, he's such a sweetheart. But I've also kind of been thinking about it, and with the certain mindset I've been in all summer, I don't even think I really want a boyfriend at the moment, I kind of just like being off on my own, and single.
But he's being persistant lately with this whole issue, and he never has been this advancing before. Usually he just explains his feelings, and we move on cause I never feel the same at the same moment he does. But now, he's speaking of wanting to kiss me and everything, and I'm just not sure how to respond. And I'm getting constant calls and texts now, and it's driving me crazy cause I'm trying to be very careful with my words now to not giving any "meanings" behind anything that might make him think one way or another.
I guess I'm just asking how should I tell him that I don't think it's gonna work out [ once more ]? That I kind of would rather just not see anybody right now? I just want to be very careful with how I word things so not to really hurt his feelings [ I mean I know his feelings are going to be hurt no matter what, but I still want to put it as nicely as I can ], and just try to keep our friendship intact as much as possible with the least awkwardness there can be. (link)
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Ouch! Thats a tough thing to go throuhgh. Well you really just have to explain as nicely as you can that your friendship means way more to you and you dont want to lose him as a friend. Tell him that you love him but not in the way he thinks. More like a brother.
Hope i helped!
Yours truely
-Samantha
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My boyfriend is always super sweet and romantic, now I want to do something special for him. He absolutely loves spanish and spicy foods. I, admittedly, do not cook or know very much about these types of foods.
Can you tell me a classic meal (that fits into "spanish" or "spicy") or just a great meal that I could fix him for dinner? (link)
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Well if yuor not to much of a cook them i suggest ordering spanish food from a resteraunt. Just make a really pretty sceanary with cadles and maybe even roses as a center piece. Play some of his favorite music in the background. Just make sure you put the food in dishes and plates get rid of the boxs before he gets there. I'm sure he would really love that.
Hope I helped!
Your truely
-Samantha
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In a few days I want to try salvia divinorum. Preferrably outside at night time and laying on the ground staring at the sky. However, my best friend is going to be my "sitter." She has made it clear to me that she is going to treat me like a stupid drunk person, which she treats like crap--cussing and pushing them around. She also said I couldn't go outside and that she'd lock me in a room. I have a feeling that would negatively affect my trip, which kind of messes up the purpose. I've told my friend that she's not even really supposed to talk to me while I'm on it, she doesn't care. She is very selfish and overbearing. I don't want her to be my sitter, but I think she's the one buying the stuff. I think I'll buy my own, though. What do I tell her in order to find a different sitter? Also, I don't have a pipe to use because she doesn't want to get the residue in hers...is there anything else I can do to smoke it (i.e., roll it)? Any extra tips ab salvia would be appreciated. (link)
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well you really shouldn't be smoking in the first place, its horrible for you.
I remember when i was about 10 i had a really close friend who was also 10 and her sister smoked. Well one day her sister got her to do it to and i caught her smoking one day. So obviously i got mad at her and told her i was never speaking to her ever again. Well a few days later she wasn't in school. That one day turned into 2 weeks. I was so mad at her though that i never really even noticed or cared. Another week went by and she still hadn't showed up. I began to think she had moved until one day i was walking down the hall and i saw her mom cleaning out her locker crying. So i went over and asked her why she was crying. [[me and her mom were good friends]] She told me that my best friend had died the night before from cancer. After that all i could do was cry and feel horrible because i had hated her so much and never got the chance to say goodbye.
Do you really want that to happen to the people you care about? If you don't then stop smoking.
Hope i helped!
Yours truely
-Samantha
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Well my boyfriend of a year & 3 months broke up with me June 1st. Im 15 & he was/is my first love. He was alot of my first & I was very happy with him , thing's got out of hand with all of the arguing and other things. I was so heart broken , cried everyday & it was tha worst time iv went through in my life! I still care so deeply about him , he doesn't seem to be taken it as hard as I am. Im doing alot better than I was , I don't cry alot .. im happy [ most of tha time ] & it doesn't bother me THAT BAD to not talk to him. but we go to tha same school , so I don't wanna go back ''/ Because i'll have to see him hanging around other girls & I don't want to have a bad school year because of it. Here are tha questions
-- Do you think he'll want me back or it will make him think seeing me everyday at school?
-- Wat are way's to get him to talk to me , instead of me talking to him?
-- How do you play " hard to get " .
May be silly but your answer's are GREATLY apprciated . Thanks (link)
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Well I've been there and trust me it does hurt. Well the best thing you could honestly do at this point would be to move on. It looks like this guy has moved on to. I know its not as easy as it sounds but the more you try to get him to notice you the more its going to hurt. So move on and try to find that guy that will really care about you and would never hurt you. I know it hurts but you have to try.
Hope my adive helped!
Yours truely
-Samantha
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I'm 13 [almost 14] female
Emelia = bestfriend 14/ f
Jordan = guy who likes me 15/ m
Nick = guy who likes me and who Emelia likes.12/m
Twaddlez = ex-boyfriend , I still love. 15/m
Okay , so Emelia liked this guy Nick and he liked her , after only meeting once.So then I was talking to him on MSN and we decided to hang out that day , this was 2 days ago.So , we hung out , had a good time ext...Then the next day when we talked , he told me he liked me and I said the same because he's an awesome guy BUT he'slike a foot and a half shorter than me and that BOTHERS me...So he calls me Pebblez , it's just a nickname or whatever and he put on his MSN name " luv ya Pebblez" and Emelia came on and FLIPPED at me because she asked me if I liked him a few days ago and I said no,then it changed.So she got pissed at me , but every other week she's mad about something , she always gets over it in a few days.
THEN to make it all the more complicated , Nick asked me out.I told him I'd sleep on it last night.But Emelia told him she loves him so much and he doesn't like her. AND okay , the thing I don't get is after Emelia dumped Nick , all she did was complain about how annoying he is...now that he's into me , she's all I LOVE YOU.
NOW for Jordan...I've known him for about a year and a half now , we're goin to the same school next year , he's always been super nice to me and all , but I just don't like him like that but he's so sweet , he could give me cavidies.
ANNNNNNNNNNNNNND , there's my [uhg] ex-boyfriend Twaddlez [yes Twaddlez lmao , don't ask], and he just dumped me like 2 Sundays ago and I loved him...I miss him and I really want him back...but he has a new girlfriend.BUT I know he still likes me a bit.And we share something special because he was a greener [make-out virgin] and we had a really romantic make-out session under the sun-set / stars ext and we just share a lot of special memories together.So , I have an advantage , but he's been out of town for a week , he's getting back soon though...
WHat should I do ? Who should I go for ? I know they'd all treat me right and all but honestly , the only person I want a relationship with is Twaddlez... (link)
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Well lets start with your best friend Emelia. It sounds like the only reason she said that Nick was annoying and all that, was because she still liked him and she was trying to recover from it but didn't want to show it to you or anyone else. So she complanied about him to make it seem more like she was over him and didn't care anymore. So now that your flirting with him and like him shes well jelous and its hurting her. Shes trying to show you this by flirting with him and saying she loves him so maybe he'll choose her and not you. It sounds like its really hurting her, so the best thing for you to do would be to say no to going out with him.
Well it sounds like this Jordan guy really likes you, but if you don't like him back the way he likes you then you have to be honest with him and tell him that you don't feel the same way. Tell him it would be best if you two were just friends.
But if you think that might hurt him then introduce him to another girl that you know he would like.
Now for the ex-boyfriend. If you really like him then i say wait for him. He and his girlfriend might one day break up and if they do then you'll be there waiting for him, but you have to give it some time. He's going to be in some pain if they do break up. Just be there for him for a while and if he does like you then he'll ask you out.
I hope my adive helps you.
Yours truely
-Samantha
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