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//Name:Cale
//Age:15
//Bday:March 25
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tHis iS fOr tHe gUyS oUt tHeRe....iS iT oK fOr a GirL tO aSk a gUy oUt?

Hey... I am a 13 year old male and all guys think different but I don't think any guy minds for a girl to ask him out. Some guys are shy... some guys are scared of rejection... and some guys never ask a girl out, they feel "cooler" when they get asked out. I myself... i am not any of those. I will ask a girl out and I like when she asks me out to. I think its actually very atractive, because it shows that ur strong and independant. U don't depend on someone else. But this is all ruined if u have ur friend ask him out... do it to his face. If he rejects u then just say "Thats ok" and walk away gracefully. Don't make a scene! Its a big turn off... because if u give him time he might change his mind.

Cale

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ok here's the deal, my bestfriend and i have known each other for about a year and a half, we dated for a long time before he told me that he wasn't in love with me, the thing is, we are "friends with benefits" and i'm ok with that, it's just it's hard because i am totally 100% crazy in love with him and i want to be with him and date him again and i'm not sure if he wants the same thing. he said that he was going to think about us getting back together but i'm not really sure that he wants to. what should i do?? please help

Hi now I'm only 13 and I don't know how old u and ur friend, but please don't just dismiss my advice because I am 13. I am very advance and I know my way around the world. U gave him a chance for love and it didn't work out for him... he told u he didn't love u... and I mean u cant just expect that to change by tryin it again. I don't think it'll change any. He doesn't feel the same connection u do... and as hard as thats gonna be to let him go... sometimes u just have to realize u have to. And the thing of "friends with bennefites" just complecates EVERYTHING! Because if u got back together I would be very weery about it... because he knows u love him... n then if he knows u think their is a relationship and trust... he might use u for those "bennefits" any time he likes. So my advice is to let go... cause in the end ur just gonna get ur feelings hurt and ur gonna get played.

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Thanx!

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i have a boyfriend of about 6 months and i feel like i need to have sexy underwear to please him...like thongs and everything, but i only have 2 and hes telling me to get more, but i dont know if i can get more. i mean i could just go to the mall and get some but it would be embarrassing for me to go by myself, so if i want to get more, should i go with a friend, or should i just tell my mom that i want to get some. i dont think she and my dad would be too happy if i have some so should i tell them about it or just get them w/o them knowing????
SIGNED-
LoSt aNd CoNfUsEd

Well first of all... u shouldn't be embarrased to go and by them. If u want sexy underwear... then buy it! I mean if u don't want to go to the mall by urself thats understandable... go with a friend. And I can COMPLETELY understand not wanting to buy thongs with ur parents... i would reccomend goin with a friend. PLEASE UR MAN! And I am a guy and i know u think we like u naked... but I think the sexiest thing about a woman is her underwear... it leaves to the imagination. So go get some THONGS BABY! Thanx for the great question!

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hey i am a 13 year old female and i have been going out with this guy for about 6 months and we have made out and basically had dry sex, but ive always asked him if i could see his penis and he would always be too shy to show it. i was over at his house yesturday and i asked him if i could see it and he un-zippered his pants and almost brought it out. i wasnt sure that he would do that and now im worried that he might catch me by surprise again. im thinking that he would try to make me have sex with him, but i dont know what to expect, b/c he talks about it all the time, but im not sure what to do if he tried it. i mean i havent done and i think its too young...what should i do about it?

Well I have too say that this isn't a light situation. I can't tell u if ur 2 young... u make ur own decisions and no one else can tell u if ur too young or not. At 13 we think 6 months in a big deal... and at out age it is. And adults are having sex probally like after 2 weeks of dating. But think about it... were 13. Do u think its gonna be worth it to give the most sacred thing u have to him when u don't know if hes gonna be there for a while... and having sex could also make things very awkward for the both of u. But both of u obviously seem very interested in playing with the idea of it... u are interested in seeing his penis and he isnt completely against it... just a little shy. And u have basically got to 3rd base and ur stealing home. So all i can say is its up 2 u... if u think ur ready to deal with the emotional strain and the responciblitly of having a sexual realtionship... then do what u want. But remember... if he pressures u... tell him to back off and maybe even dump him. As hard as that might be. HE needs to realize its ur decision. But if u do go through with it.. please make sure ur well prepared... ur both 13 and he ejacualtes and i imagine u get ur period... so be SAFE! PLEASE WEAR A CONDOM! 2 pretect urself from gettin pregnant and sexually transmitted deseases. And i know he doesn't have HIV but someone who just didn't wash all the germs off their penis can still give u a yeast infection, climidea, or gonarea. So make a smart chose... and take time to think about it. And don't just rush into it... discuss it with him first... sit down and talk about it for an hour. Discuss what is allowed and what u dont feel comfortable with. Thanx for the great question.

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ok well ima tell you a looooong story. ok w lil while ago i met hits kid at a party...and i got his number and we talked on the phone a few times... but then like on thur. he didnt talk to me or call me back or anything.. and i was like WTF... i hope he is not like other guys that your jus goin to wait around for and then they will jus like drop you.. and i jus asked him about it i was like... i do like you for as much as i know you... but i would like to get to know you more.. and not wait around and have nothing happen... and hewa slike yea we can hang out..ok that a really short verson of it. I wanna know how i should ask him if anyhting was goin to happen with "us" or if he was jus gonna waist my time.

See now thats a really tough one because u need to really get him to know u care... but if u seem to care to much then he's gonna think ur desperate. And if u get all up in his face and demand an answer u gonna seem like a real BITCH!Hmm... well I mean, first of all U gotta b upfront about the way u feel. I don't know how he is but I really respect it when a women respects herself and her morals and doesn't just want to b played. But please Don't play games with him... cause just like Monopply... it will last forever and he'll get pissed when u drop a hotel on Park Avenue. So tell him that u think he is everything u've asked for, but ur not the type to be played and just move on... so u want him to tell u if he's gonna be a man and do the right thing or just run. I hope that helps. Tell me how things work out!

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