I am 23 and a psychology student trying to make a name for myself. I want to be a well known Columnist and writer once i get my PHD. Im doing this for more of a hands on training instead of all book training. I want real questions about real problems. I think I can help. Ask Amanda is always available!
E-mail: AskAmandaLyn@aol.com
Gender: Female
Location: Ocala, Florida
Occupation: Own a Print shop and am a Psychology student in my 2nd year
Age: 23
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Member Since: April 2, 2008
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ok, i "used" to be a cutter, please dont go on telling me how wrong it is.. i know and have heard it all before.. i have been cutting myself since i was 11-12 years old.. im 19 now.. and i have been really good lately with the whole cutting thing.. not doing it and having the will power to get over the feeling to do it.. but lately.. i feel so AAAHHHHH and just feel like i need to do it, i really dont want to.. i have been doing so well, and dont want to be that person anymore, but i just cant get it out of my head. i am fighting the urge to do it, and i just feel like i cant fight it anymore.. i dont know what to do.. most poeple dont know i do it, and those that know about it.. think im better.. so i really have no one i can go to.. without putting dissapointment on their faces.. i have no where to go, no one to turn to.. and i really want help, because i dont want to do it anymore.. but i dont know what to do.. everything is becoming a mess again in my life.. and i feel like i need it, and im afraid i cant fight the urge anymore..
and thoughts or ideas of how i can deal with this.. anything.. just any little thing you can think of? would be most gratey appreciated!!
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The best advice I could give you is when you get the urge to cut dont do it to yourself but to a dresser our bring in a piece of wood from outside and cut a chunk into it. Then at the end of the week look at the stick or whatever it is that you decide to cut and be proud of yourself. This is a little tip I picked up when I was volunteering as as a counsler for troubled teens. you woud not believe how much this technique works. Give it a try you have nothing to lose.
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hi there,
I am currently doing a survey for my college and would like to ask this question on advicenators
Would you as a girl,confess to guy about your feelings first? or would you prefer for the guy to do it?
and why would you prefer the guy or yourself to say it first?
this is in context of assuming that you both are great friends,mutual friends or strangers,,you can reply based on any situation.thanks again! (link)
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Either as great friends, mutal or strangers, I would be the one to confess my feelings first. In this day and age women are getting stronger, more intellegent, and more independant. I would believe that most WOMEN such as myself see what they want and have no problems going after it. Life is to short to be afraid to hold anything back or be hesitant, the chance just might pass you by. Hopefully this helped a little bit.
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i bought this prom dress but i have 30 days to return it. i am not sure if i like it or not.
http://img404.imageshack.us/img404/7526/img4458yo3.jpg
that is a picture of me wearing it. do you think it is formal enough? does it even look good? please be honest. (link)
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I personaly, with your body type think you would look completley awesome in this dress heres a link check it out. I like the one you have its just the pattern is all wrong and the color make you look washed out and blan heres a link to the dress im refferring to
http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.magicmomentsprom.com/store/m_images/Flirt%2520P11012986-1.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.magicmomentsprom.com/store/product.php%3Fproductid%3D2986%26cat%3D75%26page%3D1&h=350&w=263&sz=46&hl=en&start=90&tbnid=LCj7NawPbewX_M:&tbnh=120&tbnw=90&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dcorset%2Bprom%2Bdress%26start%3D72%26gbv%3D2%26ndsp%3D18%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DN%26ie%3DUTF-8
That dress would be beautiful on you. You would look sexy and sophisticated but not trashy or trampy. hope I helped a little.
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I think I might be Schizophrenic.And Im not lying when I say this either. I feel really weird saying this I've only told three people. Well,Sometimes I hallucinate demon and demonic and scary weird stuff. Like when I blink... and it happens so fast that by the time my eyes are opened its already gone. But ill remember it. They're really super graphic and realistic and sometimes I will see like... almost shadows with no face or shape. not normal shadows and they like move either fast or slow and theyre scary.
I see those in my room at night all the time. and I see those with my eyes open.This has happened to me my whole life and it seems to get worse as i get older.I will also seem to feel something brush by my shoulder or tug at my clothes and pull at my hair and when I turn around, nothing is thier. I looked schizophrenia up and it says depression and anxiety are common to have along with it. and I have Severe depression and anxiety so that really got me thinking..So yeah can you tell me whats wrong with me and if I should see a doctor. I dont really wanna tell my mom is their a way I can get around telling her and still get help? I told her once when I was little and she didnt belive me.and she always thinks I lie for attention
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So youve been "seeing" these things your whole life? Im really interested in what else you might have seen and a little bit more of a detailed account of whats been hapening to you i really think I could help becuase if it is what I think it is my lil sister went through the same thing. I think I could help you but I need more information. If you could please email me at AskAmandaLyn@aol.com and we can discuss this further. I would really like to help because if whats hapening to you is what happened to my Sister than your going to need it.
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okay im 14/f and my bf spent the night at my house, we made out big time. i sat on his lap facing him, and he went hard, i think he might have spermed but he doesn't know, i was wearing sweat pants and so was he so is their a posibility that im pregnat? (link)
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I am a Certified Medical Assistant and have been for 4 years and I can tell you there is absolutley no way in hell you are pregnant.
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15/f
Okay so I haven't really had a "real" boyfriend before, and this guy and i have sort of had a thing for each other. i'm really scared though because i want to stay a virgin until i'm married and i won't really go farther than making out. Will he get bored of this? Do relationships end because they are bored of making out with you? i'm terrified that we'll be in the middle of a makeout session and he'll stop kissing me and be like "i'm sick of this..." or will he always think making out is fun? do you know any guys who have ever been sick of their girlfriend/making out with them? (link)
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I have a short sweet and simple answer for you. If he truly cares about you he'll respect your decision and wait. If not honey he wasnt worth your time and was in it for only one thing. Better to find out sooner than later when you might get really hurt by it.
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Me and my boyfriend have been broken up since january. we had a hard 10 months. the last two months have/had been weird between us too. recently though, we talked everything out about what's going on between us. it's all sorted out and we're happy as friends right now.
there are several lists of things from our relationship i can name and a big story like most relationships have...but just altogether, my life is quite smooth right now despite all that--except, i can't get my ex out of my head. it's not a bad thing because he knows that and everything, but he shouldn't be the center of my thoughts. you know? he is my friend now after all. and i have school to focus on and the other important things in life.
any ideas how i can set him aside in my head? (link)
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You just got out of a long and what sounds like difficult relationship. For the first few months it is only natural that you are going to just think of him and even somewhat miss him. After being together for that long you kind of get used to the other person being there so naturally when there not you think of them. The best advice I can give you is to keep your mind on school, hobbies, and other projects. I would honestly say I think its a little soon to be dating or starting anything new because then the next guy will inevitably end up the "Rebound Guy".
Hopefully that helps A little.
GOOD LUCK
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