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so i'm looking for like the sexy black and white pictures of a guy n a girl kind of like a hollister ad almost but not. can someone please help me find some!

Try lookin on phtotbucket.com. they have pictures of like everything. i get all my myspace graphics and everything from there.

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so i got a small tattoo and now its raised up and scabbing in one place. what do i do? i mean i know not to pick it but once the scab falls off will the color come off too? help me out!
thankyou!

Its normal for tattoos to scab. when you get a tattoo the skin is broken and is scabs naturally just like a scrape or cut would. because thats basically what a tattoo is. Your right. Dont pick at it. Leave it alone. The color wont come of if you do that. It can however if you pick at it. Try putting some neosporin or vitamin e ointment on it. The tattoo parlor should have given you something like that. If they didnt just go to your local drug store and buy some ointment. As long as you dont pick at it it will be fine.

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im 16/f
he is 19

when we went out i was 14. he was my first boyfriend and it lasted 4 months and i started to lose the spark in the relationship. i loved him but i didnt like him anymore if that made sense. i think the stress of everyone thinking he was too old for me and being so judgemental about it just made me not want to have to deal with it anymore so i told him "i have to talk to you" and he said "i have to talk to you first" and i told him to go first and he told me that there was another girl who told him she liked him and he had always liked her and he said he would absolutely stay with me and tell her to back off if i wanted to stay together but with all the stress i broke it off. within an hour he was going out with this other girl. realizing i truly did still love him i flipped out on him because i felt like he didnt care. i think i had an understandable reason to be upset....it was only an hour! we ended up getting into this big screaming fight and we didnt talk for a year and a half. then one day he texted me. i had no idea he still had my number becasue when we were going out he didnt have a cell phone so its not like he had it saved in there. so that was around christmas time and we've just been talking ever since. by the way he's still going out with the girl "he left me for" (i dont know what else to call it). so we gradually started talking more and more and now we talk about twice a day. still texting because he's shy and would probably have a heart attack if he called me.

so on to the real situation. in the 4 or 5 months that we've been talking to each other its just like all my other friendships except that i havent seen him in two years and we dont talk about our relationship and our girlfriends/boyfriends. even though i've been single ever since. so today he says "i have a question" and he asked if i thought it was weird that we can have such a good relationship after having a serious dating relationship and then a heated break up and i said it was fine and i enjoy having someone to talk to. the conversation kept going and now he's going to visit me at work while im on break which im excited about but nervous all at the same time. and he said he was excited too. then we started talking about our relationship and how we were so shy that we barely talked to each other in the begining and how i was the first and only girl (to this day) that he ever had butterflies for. and then we started talking about the break up and he told me that for a week he didnt care that we broke up but then after that week he totally broke down and realized what had happened and what he lost. even while he had this new girlfriend who he had always liked. and he thought i didn't care that we broke up and i "didnt give a F***" so i told him that i had loved him a lot and i really did care when we broke up and it took me a year to get over it.

im just wondering why someone would say this. and take two years to say it. and why would they say this, to their ex girlfriend after being with a girl for two years???

i'm not sure what to make of the situation. i wasn't expecting this at all!!

Ok so I think that maybe you's both did the same thing when you broke up. You thought you didnt want to be with him anymore and he told you that there was another girl but if you wanted to stay together he would. I think that maybe you's both didnt realize what you had until you lost it. And since he thought you didnt care either thats probably why he didnt contact you until now. Its possible that what he's saying is what he means and maybe you should just take it as that. That he was afraid of lookin stupid or getting rejected by you again. So he just stayed with the other girl because it was "safe". Like to avoid getting hurt. Obviously he has thought about you sicne he texted you out of no where like 2 years later. I think you should just take it day by day with him. Wait and see what happens. If you enjoy talking to him then continue doing it. And if it turns into something more then great. But if it doesnt at least you are getting a friendship with him and maybe some closure.

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okay so i'm 15/f and i live in pennsylvania.. where can i get a summer job? i was thinking places like giant/weis, kmart, walmart, mcdonalds etc. but i'm not sure if they hire 15 year olds? any other suggestions would be great, thanks in advance! :)

I live in pennsylvania and pretty much the only places that hire at 15 are some fast food places. Like Mcdonalds, maybe burger king, taco bell. Places like that. Most supermarkets and stores in pa dont hire till at least 16.

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