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My name is Alyssa. People usually end up calling me Ali. Whatever works for you, works for me. I'm a pretty ordinary 15 year old. I havent really found my "hidden talent" yet, but most people tell me that i give good-working advice. I just moved from Wisconsin to Chicago around four months ago. I've had to adjust to alot of things in my life. I hate getting pity. I love to take hikes! My goal is to basically help young African children! I'm a very nice person, and I usually look @ the bright side with things. I live by the band incubus. I've went to 17 of their concerts (: Ask me anything, anytime. Just dont bother me or waste my time. Have a great day.

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Okay so on Tuesday I'm going to be in the studio audience for my favourite TV show. I'm very excited!!

I know what I'm going to wear and everything but two small but very major issues: How should I have my hair and make-up!

Well here's a picture of me without make-up (I think I might have been wearing the smallest amount of eyeliner though) if it helps:

http://a46.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/109/l_373e5d6a64ed499309afeba26b44378d.jpg

I'm not going very 'glamarous' I'm only wearing ripped jeans and a band shirt. I just want to look alright though not because you'll see me (The camera doesn't go on the audience very much and when it does you don't see the details of the people) but afterwards the guys come out and meet fans so I'll be taking some photos with them, plus me and my friends are doing some group photos so I want to look okay.

For makeup, try wearing a little more eyeliner and mascara. Make your eyelashes huge. Blush would look pretty too.
Clear lipgloss would finish it off good.

For hair, I'd curl it. It'll make you a little dressier and thats exactly what you need.

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Well im 17 and female, I split up with my ex 6 months ago, tried dating other guys but I dont have the feelings for them like a do for my ex!
Everytime I see him my feelings become stronger. I tried tellin him how i felt but he wasnt interested! We still see each other and speak as friends! Recently he has started taking driving lessons and he told me I would be the first person he would take out in his car, does he means as friends? or is he flirting??
I get the feeling his is regreting us spliting up, should I tell him again how I feel? Or just leave things as they are?

This situation is so common and can be easily answered.

For one, when he said that driving in his car comment - I think it was definately in a flirty way. If not, then he was trying to get you to hangout w/ him!

For two, never leave things as they are. If you want this bad enough, you'll do whatever it takes and put as much effort into getting him back as you can. People that just watch life pass them aren't helping themselves.

For three, just talk to him. Thats the simplest way where you can tell him exactly how you feel. Since its face to face, it'll sound way more sincere and honest. Make sure to include the times you had to together that really made you fall in love with him. That way, he'll really know where you are coming from.

Hope this helped.

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Im going to a new highschool this year, and ive met people and stuff, but i havent met many guys. Theres a couple guys who are really nice and I know barely, and I'd like to get to know them better. I'd also like to meet more guys.Can anyone help me?

go to parties, football games, & social events
of any kinds. there are guys everywhere around you. you just have to go to the right places (:

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I found out my wife is cheating on me and she is pregnant with this other guys baby whats the most worst way to get back at her? And trust me she deserves it.

Set her up, but dont do any harm to her. People make huge mistakes. But you can set her up, and make her look like a complete idiot by maybe you catching her with the other guy. Make a huge scene about it and embarrass her pretty bad.

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any advice on making out? lame i know but i've only done it like once and i don't want to like embarrass myself or anything..does it all come natural?

Yeah, it definately comes naturally. You cant really practice, no matter what people say. You just cant. I personally think that the only way you could be a bad kisser, is if you arent confident enough. Just be confident the whole time =] You'll be fine.

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Hes a jerk, hes a player, and i can't get him out of my head.

we knew eachother in school kind of, like he had a gf and he'd still smile and once asked me for my # but they were on the outs anyway. so during regents week we hung out a couple times & he asked me out like two days before i left for vacation and like the 3rd day i got there my friend saw that he put on his myspace i love "so & so". so i ignored him for like two days and we broke it off because it seemed like he was cheating cause he changed his status back to single and all that. i promised him i'd go back out with him when school started if he remained single through out the summer to show that he wanted to be with me. he didn't, and he still apparently REALLY wants to go out with me.

its just all of my friends hate him, my family and i'm almost sure he cheated because when i came back he was going out with the girl, and he still lies to me about it.

the thing is, hes gorgeous.
and when i was with him, he'd make me feel amazing, and special with cute txt messages.

honestly, i know he'll hurt me bad again, because hes just that type of person but i still want to go out with him. i'm just an idiot. i already know.

You already know the answer, hun.
Dont go out with him. He's obviously playing you, and the only person it's hurting it you!

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hi.. does anyone know of ways to please my boyfriend? i want to blow his mind tonight.

Sexual ways?
Check google (;

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Hiii, I was just wondering what you thought of my voice, ha I personally think I'm okay, but yeah tell me what you think [: .. Oh by the way, I messed up a couple of times, sorry, and I look bad in this video, just letting you know.

http://video.tinypic.com/player.php?v=5x4xufr

I think you're pretty good. But it kind of seems like your whispering in high notes. Go all out. Avril Lavigne and Pink do a good job of just letting go and singing/screaming the lyrics beautifully. If you do that, I think you're singing will definately improve.

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ok well i'm gonna try to help my guy friend get some girls...first i want him to watch some of the vh1 pickup artist shows...then at a football game try to approach a girl and get her # or whatever...what else can i do to help him out?

Tell him to attend parties. There are always varieties of girls there (;

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I'm getting a small tattoo in about 5 months on my leg. (Right below the bend of my knee). it won't be bigger than an inch, and i'm using the color black red and green.

How bad will it hurt?

Ususually a tattoo's pain will differ in where you are getting it done. The leg is known to be quite painful, but definately a bearable process. Since its smaller, it won't take too long so you wont have to undergo the needle for very long.

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I just go into a fight with my friend thanks to her ex boyfriend to make long story short I start highschool tomarrow and well I really don't want to deal with her drama I'm scared about starting highschool because there's drama all around and there is a lot of people I don't get along with and whom ill be facing tomarrow what do I do??? I'm so nervous I really don't know what to do I've tried everything I just don't know anymore.

There are always going to be people whom you aren't going to get a long with, its just life. But you have to realize that just because you guys aren't friends, doesnt mean you cant make other ones. Plus, i'm sure you and your friend will makeup. All friends fight, its reality (: Just go to highschool, positive, smiling, and trying to make things better with people. There is really your chance to start over. Just look at it that way. If other people cant forgive and forget, then just forget them! You dont need their negative attitude bringing down you! You'll be fine, trust me.

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17/m


Ok, so i have a problem with girls when it comes to hooking up. Sure i can talk to girl all night, say at a party. I have no problem with talking and flirting, but i can never seem to take the next step and hook up. what do i do

I agree with the answer down there, but sometimes girls are just as hesitant as guys are about hooking up. So dont always wait for them, because it might not happen. I dont know if you are scared or just a little shy. Either way, you need to just realize that hook ups arent that big of a deal depending on which hoop up you are talking about. If its just making out or sumthing, dont even worry. Just lead her onto the couch and do it. People have a lot of will power when they want to, use yours!

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Ok,
So theres this girl and I really really like her, we're good friends and she tells me everything, and we're always having a laugh, I just don't know weather she likes me and if she doesn't I don't want to ruin my friendship with her.
How do I find out weather she likes me too?
And if I do find out she has feelings for me
How do I ask her out?

Thanks In Advance =]

Well since you definately dont want to ruin a perfectly good frindship, have a friend ask her if she digs you (: It'll seem just a simple question then if you asked didnt ask it. If she likes you, she'll stare at you, always try to talk to you, tell you everything, flirt with you, and hug you! Dont ask her out immediately either if it turns out she does like you. Make sure, you give her a few more signs that you like her and then ask her(: Trust me, it'll work.

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My computer screen is really blurry. Is there anyway I can fix this? It's a "Envision" monitor if that helps? Thanks.

Usually blurry screens means that it was damaged or that something in your computer isnt running properly so the images wont show up!

The only option that will work is buying a new one! Dell flat screens are very nice (:

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Okay, so I bet you've heard the "So, I like this guy" story a lot... I am just so confused right now that I need your advice.

Okay, so there's a guy that I really like; he's really nice, sweet, funny, and we share a lot of the same interests. We flirt with each other sometimes, but that's only in school, and school doesn't start for about a week or so.

Well, anyways, he's one of my friends on MySpace, and he took some of these quizzes about me on my profile to see how much he knew about me, and he only got 30% and 20%, and I took his quiz and I gotta 60%!

Anyways, I commented on his profile, "Hey, what's up? How's summer treating you? Or, in this case, what's left of it... :S c/b"

And he responds to mostly everyone else's comments, except for mine. :(

What should I do? Does he even like me, or am I just wasting my time? :S

Thanks

Well, to be totally honest, I dont think he likes you. But still, he might! Dont rely on a myspace comment back thing for answers because thats just silly! You havent even saw him yet. Plus you said that in school, he flirts with you. So wait this one out until you see him @ school. If he flirts with you, see if he likes you. If he doesnt communicate with you, you'll know that he doesnt have any feelings which is fine. There are others (:

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me and my friend talk on msn everyday since we barely ever get to see eachother. and well, I used to always start the conversations when he would log on (i'm a girl). but now, i've grown more shy of him...and I never say hi first. I wait for him to do so. For a month I did this, and usually he would go "What? I don't deserve a hi? you don't like me anymore?" and even though he said that, I still kept on "ignoring" him. It got to the point where, like today...he won't say anything at all when I log in and neither do i. and he just leaves. Is it because he's waiting on me to say hi first or because he doesn't care anymore?

=/ Thanks..

He probably thinks that you don't even care enough to say hi to him anymore, so he doesnt wanna waste your time or make you feel like you have to talk to him. If i were you, I'd leave a little apology mssg so he doesnt get the wrong idea about why you weren't saying hello! If you dont want to talk to him anymore, then just dont!

(:

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ok so i have a pic of zac efron and vanessa hudgens and i wanna like put my friends head where zacks is, but i wanna make it blend in so it looks natural and not like i put it there. how do i do that, is there a program i need to download? cause i really i dont have anythingg on my comp for pictures. pleaseeee help

It's called photoshopping someone/something.
You do need a program, but you could probably download a free trial or something.


http://www.adobe.com/products/photoshop/index.html

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ive want to get hair extentions for about 3 years now but i never have the money to go get it done so i want to just buy hair and glue it in. my friend has done it herself but she doesnt live here anymore to do it. does anyone have advice in doing it?

You can purchase clip-in ones for your hair. They work just as good and look just as natural (:

I wouldnt do it yourself because salons know all of the secrets of doing it haha. You might ruin your hair! So buy the clipin ones. They have a lot of colors.

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Am 15&female and real mature 4 my age I have a bf and me and hem been togethere for 9mons s0 for and me and hem been thorugh s0 much but the problem is that I now this boy and I chilled with all last summer and he likes me and before I went out with the boy I go with now, & he want to be with me and I did t0 I just didn't know if he was gonna be fathful but I talked 2 hem yesterday and now I no hem more then before and he's more mature then my bf& I feel like he can b fathful but the thing is I d0nt know if I should leave my bf 4 hem cause my bf really loves me a lot ,( Wat should I do ) ??

This is a very hard question because if you decided to leave your bf now, who knows what kind of regret you could feel! Take a while, and just think about who makes you happier and who has proved that he loves you. Your bf now seems like a very good one. He obviously loves you a lot if he has stuck by your side for 9 months! The other guy might look fantastic now, but do you know him as well as you think? So give it some time, think about who you love more, and just wait a little longer before you make any decisions!

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does anyone have or know where to get ryan shecklers fanmail address? thanks!

Fan Mail Address :
Ryan Sheckler Inc.
208 Avenida Fabricante
San Clemente, CA 92672


My friends sent him some mail (:
They say it's not some made up crap.



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