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Should I ask my new BF to let me measure his manhood?
There is a thing in my friend group right now where the girls are comparing their boyfriend’s size like a dare where everyone is supposed to personally measure it while their guy is having an erection. They have gotten very detailed with the rules on this. I am not even sure what the prize it. Probably nothing. There is no way to know if the person is telling the truth on their own guy. Only two of the boyfriends have cooperated so far. I know this is a stupid peer pressure thing, but I am thinking about asking my boyfriend. We have only been dating 4 weeks but he said he has been crushing on me for years so he might actually be willing to do it if I ask. He admitted he is eager to get physical but is naturally shy (which is why it took him so long to ask me out) and I told him I want to go slow on intimacy. Asking to see his boner so I can measure it is definitely not slow. Do you think he will understand it is a girl dare contest and not read into it that I want to have sex when I still want to wait on that? Should I just make up a number that is impressive or maybe average? Would he get his feelings hurt if he finds out about this later and I never asked to see and measure him? Do boys like getting measured or will he be nervous how he compares? I wonder how many girls are just going to lie. I thought about saying something stupid like my ruler was not long enough so I gave up and just blow it off like a joke. Or just ask him and trust what he tells me on his size? All this talk about how big the boys are down there does have me curious but I also understand that this is immature. He is one year younger than most of the guys but he is just as tall and has definitely gone through puberty. While I am only guessing from seeing him in some wet cotton shorts when he went swimming without a swimsuit, I think he might be decently sized but I have no idea really. I am embarrassed to post this but since it is secret identity just going to do it.
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No need to be embarrassed, this is a valid question although not as common a one to be asked.
When contemplating whether it is okay to do a certain thing and then asking someone older hopefully, outside of your friend group, you are doing the right thing, bouncing your idea off a sounding board before doing, just in case you didn't think of something.
So I am happy to be the one you bounce this idea off of. First I have to ask if you have considered how this will affect him? Its easy to have the answer because we will reverse the situation. Let say the guys all want to know what the length of a females vagina is once aroused and he would insert a dildo, mark how far it went in, pull it out and measure and tell the boys.
It is far more likely, that in reverse, a guy would be bragging about his girls boobs. Woman tend to worry if their weight and boobs will be attractive to a guy. So even though a person call tell a lot by looking at a womans top and how she fills it, it is awkward feeling to have a bunch of guys speaking out about and discussing your breasts. I guarantee that being human, the males feel the same way about a bunch of woman discussing and frowning or laughing at his size, its not just awkward but humiliating, embarrassing.
I discovered a site on the net, meant to train people that breast and nipple size and shapes differ greatly (same as penis's) and there is no such thing as a bad or wrong size, just a lot of different ones. The size, the shape and the nipples can all vary, and then how it hangs on a female can differ. That leads to a lot of possible shapes and sizes. Women on this breast site have taken pics of boobs only and told their story, which says her bf loves her almost non existent breasts, her differently sized ones. There are men who love the really big ones that will rest in her lap one day, never to return upwards, men who love their ladys really big nipples and so on. You get the picture. So in the end, all sizes are natural, no fillers or boob jobs, just what the natural sizes are and thats quite a range, more differences even than in penis shapes and sizes according to what I have seen. If your guy is much like you, you can probably tell how he would like this idea. To me, its not important information. Why know the size of other penis's if the one that is for you, is good enough for you. Thats like me knowing how often all men shave, before I consider whom I will marry, based on how often he has to shave? How fast whiskers grow will also vary. How important is that really when what is really important is how the man treats his lady and how she treats him. Telling personal stuff on him, even if he agreed is not going to show you that you have a guy worth being with long term. It is a silly dare by people who may not be able to look down the road to possible consequences to their actions, or importance to anything they do.
Now you also say he's a bf of 4 weeks. I guess you feel that may mean something. 4 weeks is nothing in the end compared to relationships lasting 5 yrs, 10, or a life time. I am glad I married the 2nd time around to man who wouldn't kiss and tell about it. Many people, men especially have been portrayed as good guys when they say they don't kiss and tell, meaning they won't share any details on their genitalia, or hers, or how its like to kiss or how sex is. See, depending on who your partner is, sex is likely to differ some, not in the mechanics of position, in and out, kissing and when o ne kisses, that is all mechanics so everyone has a chance to impress someone. Its when the connection is so perfect, the chemistry is real strong, then what another man did and got no orgasm out of their lady, doesn't affect the perfect chemistry where the same stuff seems to be over the top wonderful. So it really is a useless thing to partake in and teaches you nothing useful as it is a situation in which there are so many variables all the way around that doing what your friends have planned, is totally useless. If you want, just smile and say, "I don't kiss and tell." I hope in the future you also find some friends who are more intellectual but still fun.
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