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New Medication With Sexual Side Effects.
I recently started a new medication which is said to have "normal" sexual side-effects with reaching climax. I haven't had partner sex since COVID and have resulted to masturbation like a lot of people. I'm always relaxed and usually have the same bed time routine etc.
However, the last few times I did there wasn't ejaculation and it took awhile longer to feel anything rather than usual quickness. In fact, my hand cramped up and that was the end of that. I'm just a tad freaked out that when I have intercourse again that there will be an issue.
I'm not looking for tips but rather how to talk to my doctor (a female whom I trust) about it. Self-pleasure is taboo and awkward to talk with female. I'm hipocritical as I always tell people on here how natural it is to do and you're normal but have this hang up telling a doctor about masturbation and sex. What do you think is best thing to do?
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You've lined out already why you feel weird about talking to a female doctor, the fact that Dr. is opposite sex from you (guessing since you post Dr is female you trust) and the fact you believe self pleasure is taboo. Drs see and hear all sorts of stuff you'd think they never do, so a conversation about this is not going to shock them. I don't suppose knowing that helps. If you truly feel it is normal, then you can't also believe that it is wrong. Wrong to do but normal to do is a mindset you have and you are the only one who can change that by your thinking. People want to do what God wants. People want to do right and do what the church says. However, often enough, I've seen that what the church says and God wants are two very different things. I am not anti God or church, but a very Spiritual person who has a relationship with Jesus. I used to blindly believe what told that self pleasure is taboo as my church taught that too. I was married to someone who was not in love with me and restricted sex to only the few times they wanted it. So I masturbated. I prayed a lot about it and what I heard from GOD, led me to believe it was actually okay and a misinterpretation of church scholars. Nothing is going to change your view on this so you're more comfortable over night. This is a process for your mind. Your subconscious mind needs to get in on this and help. So speak to yourself and you'll be speaking to your subconscious. It is a habit for you to feel strange about speaking about sex and masturbation. I used to be like that in my 20s and 30s. I didn't even like saying the word 'sex' out loud with my partner. So if you don't want to wait a couple decades til you naturally grow out of it, you may want to tell your sub mind that you are choosing to see the DR and want your uncomfortable feelings to go away but those thoughts will come back sometimes as soon as a couple minutes. This is the retraining process and it gets better so that you have to remind the sub mind less often as days go by. In a few days, it should be better and you able to go.
Lastly, there is always that idea of just doing it and taking that leap of faith. However since hearing lyrics in a song about taking a leap of fear, I understand the situation better. God used it as a training for me. I learned that it is better called a leap of fear because the fear is there when you are doing the so called leap of faith. It is only really fear, something humans battle alot in many situations, fear that holds us back. So what really produces the needed faith? Its experience, the way of going through the uncomfortable scary thing to realize it wasn't as bad as you thought. It is that experience afterward that gives you or strengthens your faith. So that Nike motto, 'Just do it!' comes in handy and has less to do with shoes as I see it but everything to do with making your move while riddled with fear and uncomfortable feelings.
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