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Flirting advice
So there is this girl I like but she is a junior and I am a sophomore and I really want to walk up and talk to her but she always walking with people or sometimes tbh I’m just nervous. Plus I have overbite and my teeth are kinda crooked and I have been rejected before because of this reason. She talks to a lot of guys and I don’t know if I can stand out, I’m not shy in fact I’m like the polar opposite. I don’t even have a phone so I wouldn’t be able to text her outside of school. Any advice?
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While it is important to be attracted to a persons looks and you have concern here, that isn't the only thing that can win a persons interest in you. There's an anonymous quote that starts with "Touch a womans mind and you get her interest..." I believe that is a good way to go. When someone asks you, What are your interests? it is pretty easy to answer, right, your hobbies, collections you have, favorite sport, your hopes, dreams, whether you like any kind of animals, and so on. All these things are not going to be of interest as well to another person, especially a female. But friendship is the best place to start. If a female is going to be turned off by your looks, then either you try and try til you find one to whom it doesn't matter or start with building a friendship and once you are close friends with a female, if there have been romantic feelings for her, you ask "Since we're doing so well as friends, it makes me wonder how well we'd do as more than friends, what do you think?" That line gives her a chance to confirm she'd like to try, if she already has feelings without having to feel embarassed to admit it or she would say, no it wouldn't work, I don't have those kinds of feelings for you. You know she is comfortable talking to guys. So listen in to what she is talking about with others and if you have anything to say to add to the convo, politely say, I couldn't help but here what you were saying, and launch into what was being talked about. This advice is for grown men in a you tube video I watched. It is on how to approach and start a conversation or enter the conversation. Even if its a group of females only and they are discussing the latest chick flick. If you have read previews, had a sister or Mon who saw it and their comments to share about it, then this is your chance to join a conversation.
Trying to win over a girl in HS is kinda hard to begin with and relationships don't always last long. A matter of months or only for a year. In comparison to your lifetime, trying to win the one you like doesn't mean you necessarily are going to be the one who she is attracted to, at least deeper than skin level.
I know this may sound corny but if HS males were to study how to be attractive personality wise, no matter their looks, then by just demonstrating this, they will attract females who like their actions and don't mind the looks.
Let me tell you that as a female who married at 20 and the man was verbally abusive until I left 30 yrs later, I know what it feels like to not be appreciated by a man. I had the good looking man but not good character or personality. So I wanted to find a new husband with what I wanted most, to be treated like a Queen, cherished and seeing in his eyes and his actions that I am the one who rocks his world, only me, no one else. And guess what, I found it. He looks good enough to me but I can tell you right now that many women would not even look at him twice because he is a bit overweight and very hairy all over his body. Some women hate tons of body hair. I don't mind, my Dad was hairy so its normal to see a man like that. He did have long hair which I like. He wrote me in a dating site and was truthful, saying he wasn't really tall, but not short either, overweight and hairy 'so you may not be interested' but I wrote him back and we met and found we had so much in common but what won me over is his being consistant in his behaviors. A guy can be extra nice, courteous, polite at first and as soon as he thinks he'ss got her interest, he stops and goes back to who he truly is. So a girl sees sweet behavior followed by him acting impatient with her and finally yelling. My second husband and I have been together 9 1/2 years and in that time, he has never yelled at me, cut me down, spoke condenscendingly to me in public, humiliated me on purpose, and so on. He is the kind of man that if he looked like a male model, he'd have females flocking to him for the rest of his life. I know all you want is to talk to her. But I am trying to impress on you that at your age, now is the time to start learning what will attract females besides looks. Looking at most facebook pages, most females of all ages seem to post what interests them and that seems to be videos of recipes and how to make, cute baby stuff, cute anilmals and stuff about pets, any video of special things someone did for another, whether to surprise them on a special occasion or a free service they do to help other people. This is what catches females interest. In HS this may not work yet but by college and older, women seem to like anything that is touchy- feely, meaning its cute, sweet, wonderful and touches their heart. So if a guy. Since I don't know the girl, I can't tell you what to try to talk about with her, not having any idea what her interests are. She may be a nice girl but she may also by snobbish below the surface and brush you off no matter how hard you try and it doesn't look good if a male is always trying to hang around a girl who will never like him but may use him to get something she wants and act sweet as if she is now interested in you just to get the answers to test questions. Don't fall for that. If trying to talk and start a friendship with her, I know you will be disappointed but there are plenty of fish in the sea, so to speak, which means you will have a chance to meet a girl you really like on the inside and outside. So what do you do in the meanwhile? Read books on the subject, watch videos on how to win over women. Women love a guy who knows how to cook something other than cheese and macaroni, I am talking more complicated stuff like a Thai food, or making enchilada's. So there's always the chance to study recipes, watch cooking shows, or even take a class. It won't help you now but after HS, you will be happy you can impress women with making a meal for them. They also are impressed with a guy who dresses clean, not wearing ragged or stained or baggy clothes, I don't care if the trend is still to wear pants around their mid thigh with boxers showing, women are visually stimulated too and I have heard adult women talk about the newest male employee as having a cute butt that fill his jeans well. They want to see a guys physique. They love romantic gestures so if she is into nature, gardening, she most likely will want a live plant compared to cut roses that are going to whither and die soon. It can help to know the names of the most common flowers and be able to converse about that. They like having a man use manners, like opening a door for them, offer to help carry something, pulling out a chair for them etc. So taking a class on learning proper manners is helpful to impress later. Knowing some basic ballroom dancing is also romantic. I took only a little bit of classes. Hubby wouldn't dance much so I got a dance partner for classes. I found a friend of ours liked to dance. He'd taken tons of dance lessons. What I discovered in dancing with him is that it feels special to be held by guy in dancing. YOu don't get that in dancing the modern separate way. I have seen couples do a variation of ballroom couple dancing to rock and roll songs. As soon as the guy like the one I knew was extremely good at leading, all I had to do was be able to follow his lead, not knowing any of a particular dance, and he was able to make me look good and it was lots of fun. A girl who absolutely won't dance of course won't be thrilled or impressed by you dancing with her like that but the majority will be. This is the kind of stuff I have heard adult women say they wished their boyfriend or husband was like when another shared about their guy being like this, romantic, organized, takes pride in his appearance, the part you can work with, your hair, your smile and what you wear, able to cook and not afraid of cleaning up. So if at a party with family friends for example, you go ask the hostess if you can help her gather dishes to take to the kitchen, maybe even insist on helping dry dishes if she washes. and she has a son or daughter in school with you, she will be saying something to her child about how sweet and wonderful you are. The word of this will be shared at school. IF a boy, the guys will be snickering and teasing and think of you as a nerd. Any girls whose interest is attracting by overhearing and asking who will be certain to be keeping an eye on you. If a girl, again, she may or may not get it but she will certainly be sharing it with her girlfriends and word will get out. My husband is always looking to how he can help a female in need although I am top on the list and he will always be helping me first. If you can learn to be like this, women fall over their feet to be near a guy like this. As I said, he isn't male model material and we are older but he still gets women staring and observing him because of how polite he is, he uses Ma'm and My lady to address females, my self included when we met, now I am honey or sweetheart. LOL. The widow next door whom we were visiting on her deck, had a clothes line that had come down and was just laying there. He promised to come back later and put it up for her and he did. SHe didn't ask. He is always on the looking how he can be kind and helpful like letting the female in line behind us go first if she has less than us, even commenting on her necklace or earrings if he senses she is a female who has been unloved all her life and doesn't recieve compliments. I am usually with him and women seem to be able to tell he's not hitting on them and I remember one saying her daughter gave her that necklace for her birthday and I mentioned that she had a very special daughter to get her something so pretty. The woman was beaming with happiness, same as when my husband compliment any jewelry even art work on her nail. that is safer than complimenting her hair, makeup, or her outfit as those seem to click with women as a man having ogled her. I hope this long explanation gives you something you want to work towards and it doesnt't take long to pay off. Study, watch other couples too, even older couples, if the man is saying or doing something that makes an older adlut woman giggle like a school girl, then it's something to take note of.
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