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I'm making the right decision, Right??
My boyfriend and I have been together since we were 15 I am now 23 and we found out I was pregnant 9 months ago, we talked through it and since abortion was off the table we have decided to place our baby boy up for adoption, it is going to be the hardest thing we will ever go through because I have waited for this day my entire life and people look at my age and automatically think I'm being selfish for doing this but no one knows our life better then us and honestly we would be selfish to keep him, granted he would be loved more then anything but sometimes that's just not enough...... I am a Cna and take care of people all day long when in reality I can't even take care of my self, I don't go out clubbing, I don't drink or do drugs and neither does He so we didn't base our decision on what we would have to give up because for my baby boy I'd give up the world and that's what I intend to do... the problem is my bf moved here from Canada when he was 9 and he can't work until he becomes a citizen which we are trying to deal with right now, we live with my family and still end up struggling, my mom was a single mom and did an amazing job at raising me and my brother, we were never your typical teenagers and I applaud single parents so much but if only you could step in our shoes for one day you'd realize that making my baby endure what I have to on a daily basis that's when you'd finally understand..... my mom knows I put my heart into everything I do and that's why she is with me 110% but some people like my dad and step mom think I'm being selfish for wanting a better life then I had which is why we're not on speaking terms, they just don't get it, for one my dad left us when I was two amd my brother was born he lived 5 mins down the street and I never saw barely ever got a happy birthday from him till I was 13 he would only come around when it was convenient for him and still does and my step mom raised three boys on her own since there dad was in prison, and they are a mess into nothing but drugs and being losers so she should not have a right to tell me I'm being selfish, I know I will regret this decision my entire life and it will be the hardest thing on me and my bf but sometimes putting our children first is what a real parent does
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I think only you know if you are making the right decision but I will try to help you.
Think long and hard.... clear your mind, do not think about how life will be with your baby.. now here is my question...
Do you want to parent your child?
if the answer is yes in my opinion you should keep your child.
If you told me that you had a disability that would not allow you to properly care for your child i could understand that.
If you told me that having this child and keeping it would put your family or baby in danger of surviving than yes.
The things you mention in my opinion are enough in my opinion.
The fact you can already say that you know you will regret this decision also tells me this is not what you truly want.
I understand you want the best for your child but one thing that i know that is best for most children is being with their mom.
The best thing is your love! Thats all your child will know .
If you feel like you truly want and already love this child everything will fall into place. Having a child is not going to ruin your life. People rise and continue on. It makes things harder but you can do it!
Ok so i have given you some things to think about but i still encourage you to make your own decision. I am just trying to point out whats important.
If this is not something that you want then continue with the adoption. Maybe this is what you are really feeling but dont want to admit it to yourself or anyone else and if thats the case its ok because if you do not want your baby as horrible as it sounds, giving him or her to a family who will want him is best.
Seek your own truth and thats how you will be able to live with either decision.
Good luck and sending you lots of love! xx
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We are all faced with hard choices. I had my first daughter at the age of 17. I was a senior in highschool. I would have to say that having her and keeping her was the best decision for me. I didn't have the strength to allow another family to raise her. It seems to me that you have that strength. If this is what you think is right then it is. You love your child and want him to have a fair chance in life. That is understandable. However, if it's about not having enough money there are programs that can help you. I would suggest possibly considering open adoption. This will allow you to be in your child's life but not as his sole provider. Again, you have choice and if you feel this is the one for you who are we to judge? Do what you feel is right. Again, there are programs that help financially if money is the main issue.
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