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Getting to my calling college
My Dad has been driving me up the wall, and it's getting to where I just want to just cry myself to sleep. He is a very racist and has gossiped about literally everyone I have ever known. Now unless you are christian, you may not be able to help with my problem because of what I'm about to say, but I have been christian all my life, and my dad used to be. To be honest, he says he is, but I hardly ever see him in church, I havnt seen him pray in years, and he talks about everyone he meets. when I was 12, he literally led me to depression. I'm gonna be serious here, I can't even talk to him, because literally anything I say he will either cry about and call me a bad person, making me feel worthless, or he will go red hot mad and trap me in the house (not kidding about that) and say all I can do is eat, do school work, and sleep. I don't like the person he is, and frankly, he kinda scares me. I try to avoid him the best I can but it isn't easy. Last year, God gave me a calling. Something I dodnt even want to do. He told me clear as day to go to a Bible college. My dad says I have to get an associates degree and he is the parent and I have to listen to him, but God is so much more important to me than him. God never told me to go to that college, he said to go to a Bible college. The college in wanting to go to is in another state and crazy expensive, so I'm worried he might actually get me going to the other college. Going to that college is more important to me than life itself. Please help! The college is in Indiana. I don't think I will be able to afford to move there before my dad sends me to the other college, because i start college at 17, not 18, and I'm worried I won't have the money. Are there cheap places in Indiana to stay? Like with a minimum wage job? I'm really desperate right now. Please! How do I get out before I turn 18, and be on my own? How can I afford a place? How can I afford to go to that college? If anyone knows of sites I could go to that would also help. I know I'm asking a lot, but Please! If as many people could respond as possible, I would be deeply appreciative 🙏🙏🙏
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I understand wanting to make a life choice based on what one hears God telling them. I have done the same.
Other than your Dad needing some professional intervention, and yes there are Christian counselors or he could see a non Christian, you have two problems:
One being that you start college at 17 and are not an adult of 18 yet. This means that intul you turn 18, parents still have the legal right to decide what is best for you. You never mentioned a Mom. hopefully there is one or an aunt or Grandma who can talk to him if not. At 18, you can do as you wish. the exception is a college age child still living under the parents roof, and they still get a say as the the rules of the house, anything that happens under their roof you must comply, but they still have no right to tell you where to go to schooll, where its ok to work and who to date, all adult decisions you would be making on your own.
Second problem is cost. It's even trickier if the parents are paying for your college. Many a kid has complained of parents threatening to not pay college if they don't chose the school the parents want or stop dating a person they don't like. It's sad that parents will do this, but it is not disrepectful to say, I will pay for the college of my choice on my own. Since the one you wnat is away from home, you'd have to pretty much be able to do it all, pay for school and carry a job and pay for a place to live, etc. You say its expensive. And you say God said go to bible college, not that He gave you only one that you must go to. That I beleive is where you might do more research and see if you can find one that will be less expensive, especially if you're putting yourself through school. Where ever you finally end up going, the thing to do is get on the bulliten boards of the college and advertise you are looking for roommates to share a place with and that will lower your houseing cost.
You could take the zip code of the school and do online searches for apartments in that same zip area or the same for looking up how many companies that might hire part time help are close by. Thats all I can think of dear. God Bless.
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