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cutting friends?!?
ok sry this is so long....i have like 9 rele rele rele good friends and their all like my sisters....the other day i found out one of them was cutting herself and i was afraid that would scare other people and make them come out and say they did too. i know thats normal in teenagers but it hurts sooo bad knowing that one of my best friends cut themselves...last nite me and one of my other best friends got into a fight and i knew it was gonna b bad but not this bad...she came out and told everyone she cut herself last nite....but it seems to be for a different reason. sometimes this person does things for attention like making her own problems. she was showing everyone today at school and some people think its just for attention. so today at school i was talkin to another one of my best friends and she said she did too. but she did it last year. we told someone at school about the first two so they are getting help but what do i do to make them feel better? do i treat them the same? please help i dont no wat to do
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It does seem like they are doing it for attention because of the fact they're showing their scars off, whenever cutters tend to hide them instead. But even if they are doing it just for attention.. there might also be a problem behind it too. Nobody should result to cutting JUST because they want some more attention. I would treat them the same ; don't treat them any different. Let them know that your always there for them wheneevr they need someone to talk to and make them feel like whenever they want your attention ; they've got it. You should have a serious talk with your friends ( one at a time though ). Just soemday pull tehm over and ask them why they are doing that to themselves, and that they need to stop. There's so many better ways to take anger out. Hit a pillow, talk to a friend or adult, listen to music that fits your mood, just beat a stuffed animal up, something. Anything. Tell them that what they're doing isn't solving anything adn really in teh end it's only causing further problems for themselves and that you're really worried for them and want them to stop. Make them promise they'll stop. And then everyday after that, check their wrists for scars and such to see if they went behind your back. Hoepfully whenever they decide to pick up a razor, they'll think of you and the promise they made you.. and put it away. If the cutting continues I would tell an adult because they seriously need help before it gets worse. I hope I helped.
Love,
MELii
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treat them like you always did. but be there for them if they wanna talk. It is a weird thing to do but girls often do it for some reason. I had a friend who did it in high school she stopped she just wanted someone to listen to her
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this is a sticky situation in which i know many personal people who have been treated for this. First of all the worse thing you can do is treat them differently even if they do it for attention theres always more behind that as well. be careful and be sure to get them help. sometimes even you helping them is better than professionals
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