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selfish spouse
Posted Thursday January 1 2015, 4:25 pm
My husband and I have been married for over a year now. He is a spender and I am a penny pincher. However, when it comes to the holidays I like to spend freely. For Christmas he was against having a budget planned so we didn’t know how much we spent on each other. I spent probably over $200 on him. Luckily he left all the price tags on my presents and it amounted to about $80. Perhaps I’m the Grinch but what really bothers me is he spends so much on himself outside of the holidays.
He spends over $200 a month eating out, over the past few months he bought himself a new computer for about $2,000 for his computer games, then another $300 on his other toys per a month. For Christmas I felt he spent more time, money and effort...
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Dad and I have started talking again but now I feel like I've made amistake
Posted Thursday January 1 2015, 1:34 am
So recently I got in touch with my father and we didn't talk much because I'm really shy and when I meet new people and it takes awhile for me to get used to them. For christmas he gave me a really expensive gift that I was not expecting and because of it I shielded away even more because it felt kind of like he was trying to buy his way into my life and I have now not talked to him for a couple of weeks not even daring to go on facebook because of him. Today I did dare and I shared a few things and kept the tab open while I went to do other stuff. When I looked back I saw I had a message from him and it said "What, you can't talk to me now?" and now I feel horrible but I also feel he is being rather rude about it and I don't know...
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Left home, family is still controlling me
Posted Wednesday December 31 2014, 12:47 pm
I'm 24/f. I recently moved out of my house and I am working on my combined masters and doctoral program. I am really trying to gain independence from them because they are controlling, in an extremely unhealthy way. Let me just give you an idea of how unhealthy they are. When my mom gets her nails done with me, and she doesn't like the color that i've picked, she will tell the nail technician to change my color and will make a big stink about it. I have class and work 3 times a week. The other days, I need to study. I have a lot of work.
At home, there is no privacy. I do not even have my own room, which was one of the reasons I decided to go to this university. I needed a place to study. I did not want to go to where I did my underg...
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I want my brother to go away
Posted Tuesday December 30 2014, 4:05 pm
I'm feeling terrible. I can't stand my brother any longer. Actually, he lives in another city, and is spending his vacation time at home. Thing is that he won't do anything at home, he doesn't help us with anything and sleeps the whole day! I hate him! How can I cope with this situation? It's aweful, since I don't want to confront him either; I just want him to go away!
Thanks in advance!
(p.s please, I don't want ''adviceman 49'' to reply to this message, I mean it. Thanks again!)
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Cousin and Family have stopped talking
Posted Tuesday December 30 2014, 1:30 pm
My cousin and her family have stopped talking to me and my family. We were very close and used to see each other every weekend. We have approached them and asked them whats the matter. And even offered to apologize if we have done anything wrong, but they do not want to discuss nothing and have just scrapped us out of their lives. Not sure on how to handle this situation???
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Are my parents going to flip out?
Posted Saturday December 27 2014, 6:14 am
I think I want to be a storm chaser, but are my parents going to flip out when I tell them. I know it's my decision, but I don't want to cause them a lot of stress and anxiety. I want to help protect people from bad weather, particularly tornadoes as much as possible. I think I'd be good at it. How would you feel if your kid told you that they wanted to be a storm chaser?
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why are my parents so mean to me?
Posted Friday December 26 2014, 6:17 pm
Okay so i don't know why people are so mean to me.. Like my parents too. I'm nice and sweet and I give my everything, but I guess that's not enough. I'm a female I'm 15 years old. Everyone says that I can't do anything and that I'm useless. I try not to care but its my parents telling me I don't even get told that at school like wtf. But I wanted to know why are my parents so mean to me?
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Is this okay?
Posted Friday December 26 2014, 1:42 am
So recently my cousin came to stay with us for a while and we weren't as close at first but we became like best friends now he is 26 and I am 14(girl) a couple weeks ago he kissed me on the lips. I didn't think anything of it because I thought it was an accident. But now he started rubbing my thighs and back really slowly and kind of sexually then he wanted to kiss me but this time longer. I kissed him anyway because I didn't know what to do. I feel really guilty and dirty afterwards but he seems to be his normal self. Is this ok? Or should I tell someone ?
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My younger sister hates me so much that she bullies me!!
Posted Monday December 22 2014, 3:27 pm
I don't understand my sister at all. I try my best to be polite to her and she snaps at me. It's become a habit of my mom to ask her if it's that time of the month for her and it isn't. My sister had told me numerous times that I have no friends and nobody likes me and that I should kill myself. She has a sense of humor that I don't appreciate and have had to ask her multiple times to stop, but she just tells me to quit being a stupid bitch and suck it up. I recall one event similar to this where she said something that offended me and I asked her not to say that to me again. She yelled at me saying "freedom of speech, you stupid fuck!" She also encourages her friends to talk shit about me. I don't understand why she behaves this way towards me. Why does she hate me so much?
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My dad
Posted Monday December 22 2014, 1:21 pm
Wht doesn't my dad care about me anymore
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Pregnancy - Breaking the News to Old-Fashioned Relatives
Posted Thursday December 18 2014, 8:11 pm
Currently I am paranoid that I am pregnant. I have not had a regular period since late October. Recently I experienced something that was like a period, but because it was so light I am convinced that it was just spotting. I read somewhere that sometimes a woman will have a light period when she first gets pregnant.
I don't know if this is in my head, but I am experiencing back pain, nausea after meals, headaches, constipation, which I have googled are some of the symptoms.
My boyfriend and I have plans to see each other, where I will take a pregnancy test at his house. Since the two of us are both in college we still live at home, so I would be taking this test in his mother's apartment. If it does test posi...
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biomom makes me feel powerless
Posted Wednesday December 17 2014, 1:40 am
Been with my fiance 3 years now his daughter just turned 4. We are very happy and his ex simply can't have that. A few months ago she decided I can't be along around her daughter because she simply cannot trust me. I wasn't aloud to help my fiance with things only parents should do IE, making his daughter dinner, helping with baths, putting her to bed. Even though she let her boyfriend do these things I was simply not allowed to. She even went as far as taking his daughter on our week and not telling us where she was when I refused to be her best friend.
I tried explaining to her that being best friends was simply too complicated given the situation but all she heard was "NO" which sparked many issues.
I giv...
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My mom won't get my granddad tested for dementia
Posted Monday December 15 2014, 10:00 pm
I think my granddad has dementia, but my mom is denial about it and won't get him tested. What can I do?
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my cousin is always putting me down
Posted Monday December 15 2014, 6:17 pm
I am a 25 year old female and I visit my aunt every weekend but my cousin who is a 19 year old male just recently moved in with my aunt and he is constanty making rude remarks about me and putting me down verbally . I will explain how he does this .I got on tgr scale one day because I have been trying to lose weight for some time now . I am proud to say that I was 202 pounds in may of last year and yesterday I got on the scale and now I am 172 pounds so i lost 30 pounds since may of last year but my cousin was standing over me and said that there is know way that you could have lost all that weight that fast as much as you eat the scale has to be way off. He tagged me in a post on fb of a picture of a huge sandwich and it said who could ea...
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Can a person adopt their own grandsons?
Posted Monday December 15 2014, 12:07 am
Could a person legally adopt two orphaned grandsons? If they did, would it make it harder for their other grandparents to fight for custody? What would the grandparent be seen as by others, a grandparent or parent? How would you explain your relationship to the grandchildren if their principal, for example, wanted to know why you're listed as their mother, but they call you grandma?
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Should I tell my grandfather about some bad stuff I heard?
Posted Thursday December 11 2014, 1:42 pm
Hello advicenators,
My uncle said some nasty stuff about my grandfather, what filters should I pass this stuff before I tell my grandfather about it. I have heard about 3 filters ,is it truthful ,is it good, is it useful? I dont know if its truthful, good or bad dont know either, useful, probably?
Should i tell my family and my grandfather about what my uncle said?
Thanks
Kind Regards
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Would You Pay For This?
Posted Sunday December 7 2014, 11:52 pm
Imagine that you went to your daughter and son in law's new house for Thanksgiving ten days ago. There were some other relatives there, so there weren't enough bedrooms for everyone and your youngest daughter had to sleep on a matress in what they call the media room.
Saturday night, you and your daughters stayed up late in the media room talking. Your oldest was sitting on the far side of the couch drinking wine and somewhat intoxicated.
Sunday morning, you and your family were preparing to make the long, painful, nine hour drive home. Then you and your oldest daughter discover this series of stains on the wall of the media room above the matress that your youngest daughter slept on.
You both a...
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my husband wans to file a divorce, how do I save my marriage?
Posted Sunday December 7 2014, 8:04 am
I am having alot of heartache n this alot on my matrenal family... What should I do?
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Moving to Virginia , Parents don't really get it
Posted Friday December 5 2014, 8:51 am
19/f
I should start by saying that my parents are in their late 40s and 50 years, as well as the fact that they were raised in Colombia.
I'm the first born generation in the US and am college student majoring in art education.
I'm starting in a community college and transferring to a 4 year university. After much research I decided on going to the Virginia Commonwealth university. Thier program is rated one of the highest best for art education.
There's just one problem.
I made a good friend via internet who lives in Virginia. He is 24/m I met him when he was 22. I have met him in person several times now over the past year and have met his family over Skype. He is literarily the most a...
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Career or family...or am I being selfish?
Posted Monday December 1 2014, 12:43 pm
My husband and I have been married for 13. He is an amazing man who has always put family before everything (we have two young sons, 4 and 6 years old).
We live nearly 4 hours from my parents (and my side of the family, including my brother and several cousins, aunts, and uncles--grandparents are deceased) and almost 5 hours from his parents (the rest of his family is spread throughout the US and other countries). He and I both grew up very close to family, only minutes away from relatives, and have tons of fond memories of family gatherings, surprise visits, stories, sleepovers, and more...and all I've ever wanted was for my own kids to have the same memories and experiences.
We've been living this distance fr...
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