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Dad stole, lied and keeps doing it.
Posted Thursday April 9 2015, 5:44 pm
14/f Hi :) Basicall, a few weeks before I was supposed to go on holiday, I checked my shared bank account to take out the money I had saved to pay for my share of the holiday. Dad sometimes puts bits in and says its to pay for things that I need. Keywords: Things I need. I checked it and it said I had 43 cents. I thought it was odd and got my mom to check what had happened on this booklet thing (mom's a bit old fashioned). What had happened was that someone had taken out little bits through out the course of two years to pay for odd stuff. I'm not allowed to go in it by myself so I have to have mom or dad around when I check it.
Big chunks came out around Valentines Day and around the time he got married to his new gf (or sho...
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Why is my girlfriend's relationship with my little sister suffering?
Posted Tuesday April 7 2015, 11:14 pm
Since my girlfriend was introduced to my younger sister, they've always had a real sisterly relationship (even though they're not related).
But over the past year and a half, it's been getting worse and worse.
Only a few noticeable things have happened during this time. My sister has lost A LOT of weight and she has become her high school's best track runner (she used to be overweight). My GF and I, on the other hand, have both put on a bit of weight (about 40 lbs in the past year and a half).
So, my sister has started wearing a lot of flashy, eye-catching clothes (makes sense) and my girlfriend has started wearing yoga pants and slippers (and I'm wearing sweats a lot too now).
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My brother's awful girlfriend
Posted Sunday April 5 2015, 9:35 pm
My brother is 35 years-old, and for a VERY long time, has fallen into the pattern of dating girls who are superficial and manipulative. He also has a problem where he gets serious VERY quickly and basically allows who he dates to take advantage of him. The excitement of being in a relationship blinds him to the red flags that I see all to clearly. That said, he has been dating a girl for about 2.5 months, she is 26, already divorced, and has already brought some of her things to his apartment and had my brother pay $400 to have someone organize his entire place (not to mention she put up decorations, etc)... obviously it seems a plot to infiltrate his life. When we went out a couple times, her behavior struck me as bizarre- overly high ener...
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Finding Out That Your Sister in Law's Due Date is Your Daughter's Birthday
Posted Saturday April 4 2015, 9:04 pm
How do you respond to something like that when, although you're cool with it, you know that your wife DOES NOT want your daughter to share a birthday with a cousin? She does not want her child to have to share a birthday with another one of her parents' grandchildren. She doesn't want her to have to share her spotlight on her special day.
To be honest, I feel a little sorry for the little squirt (sister in law's baby) because he'll be the son of your father in law's least favorite daughter. His universe already revolves around his oldest daughter and the grandchildren he got from her, so he's probably gonna try to push the new kid out of the spotlight too.
Mother in law's different, but big deal. This new kid i...
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My parents treat me like a child
Posted Friday April 3 2015, 3:03 pm
I am a 21 year old female university student and my parents really just won't leave me alone! I have a curfew of 12 o clock according to them, but if I ever go out they send me messages and call constantly asking when I'll be back, well before 12. I suppose the motivation behind this question goes back to an hour ago, I asked permission to go to the mall with my friends and my father said no that its too dangerous. I've spoken to them many times about this and at the time they agree that I would have some space but they never follow through. This is making me really miserable, and I just want them to understand that I'm an adult and want to have my own life. What could I do to make them let go?
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confliction in typical conservative Indian family
Posted Tuesday March 31 2015, 7:01 am
Hello there I am Samayra n I belong to a typical conservative Indian family.my mom is very honest n genuinely good person.she has done nothing worng in her life.she used to play sitar n had a dance school n she was at the peak of her career before she got married.my dad n his family promised her that she can pursue her job n sitar after marriage but day by day they gave immense responsibilities n household workload on her shoulder.she couldn't speak out n take stand for herself as to maintain the pride n respect of her parents.n tolerated all the torture.my dad enjoyed his life wid his frnz n sister in laws.now my dad is posted somewhere else n he stays over there.mom n my maternal grandma stay at our home.due to some property issue my mate...
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My cousin is super attached to his mom
Posted Sunday March 15 2015, 11:54 pm
Ok so everyone is attached to their parents when we're little but for me and him our moms were always taking the easy way out and would take off and leave when ever they wanted luckily for me I had my dad but he never met his dad . I was always super attached to my mom but then something had clicked in my head that she wasn't the person I thought she was that was at around 11 and I am now 14 but hes about to be 13 and is too attached to his mom because he doesn't want her to leave and he's really obsessive with her whenever out aunt takes us out to get our minds off of stuff all he wants to do is call his mom and when she doesn't answer he just keeps on calling and literally bugs her until the point where she turns off her phone and says it...
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In Mississippi wanting to move
Posted Saturday March 14 2015, 4:32 pm
My parents give me no freedom whatsoever and it drives me crazy. My friends are allowed to do whatever they want, even the ones with overly strict parents get more freedom than I do. I know right now, there is nothing I can do about it, but when I turn 18 I want nothing more than to move out of my parents house. The problem is I doubt ill have enough money, im trying to get into a very expensive college my parents were planning to help pay for, I don't have a car yet, and I live in Mississippi so the legal age is 21. Can anyone help me with these issues? I read online that there was a way to move out at 18 even if your from one of the states that say to be 21. Would the police make me return home? I know this is many questions, but I'm very desperate
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Why Am I the Jerk For Not Liking My Granddad?
Posted Monday March 9 2015, 11:02 pm
I want to apologize in advance for the length of this. I know it's not good to dislike a relative and I feel bad about it, but he's not a very good person. This might not make sense, but I love him, I just don't like him at all.
Here's the thing, he's not a good father and he treats my mother like dirt on the bottom of his shoe. Ever since my grandma died, my mom's had to take over taking care of him and I know it's hard. She has to cook, clean, wash dishes and clothes, run errands, go grocery shopping, and take him to the doctor among other things. He refuses to live with my parents and although I can't say I blame him, it means she basically has to keep two houses running. She sacrifices a LOT and doesn't get to go out or ...
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Does This Make Me a Bad Person?
Posted Monday March 9 2015, 12:26 pm
I am nearly 24 years old, and I have an almost 30 year old sister who makes really stupid choices.
For the past six years, she has been dating a man who my family and I strongly disapprove of. This man is a thirty-five (almost thirty-six) high school drop-out who doesn’t work, can’t keep a job, and lives off of her support. Not only that, but he is a recovering alcoholic and has been physically abusive towards her in the past. Yet, she insists that she’s going to marry him.
Although I see no attempts on his part, I think that at their ages if they were going to get married, he would have worked at maintaining a job. They would have already tied the knot years ago. Instead I think that she’s going to wake up in a few ...
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Hospital visitation rights? Will I be able to visit?
Posted Thursday March 5 2015, 3:10 am
I am 32 years old, and a female. My younger brother has been troubled most of his adult life and a few days ago he was found having had a heroin overdose. He is now in the hospital unconscious and unable to make decisions for himself. We are not on good terms with his wife, but so far she has not stopped my mom or other brothers from seeing him. I am on good terms with his ex(who is 2 kids from him) and his wife knows this and pretty much hates both of us. I live in another part of the country and I can not get there for a few more days. Tensions are rising between her and the family and I am concerned she may keep me from seeing my brother. What can I do if she does this? I know as his wife she is automatically granted power of attorney. I...
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How to tell my parents im Bi-sexual
Posted Tuesday March 3 2015, 11:12 pm
I want to know how to tell my parents that i am bi. All my Friends know But no one in my family does so how do i break the news to them?
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don't know how much more I can take
Posted Tuesday March 3 2015, 10:29 am
I am 24/f. I recently moved out of my house and moved to graduate housing at my university. before i begin, i just want to give a brief description of my family. they are extremely controlling. my mother is absolutely nuts. she is a narcissist and i can tell you that she has ruined my life. both my parents are the most irresponsible people i have ever met in my life and how someone gave them a child is beyond me. i was adopted at birth. all of the paperwork and everything was set up before i was even born. she confessed to me that the reason the adoption finally went through is because she called continuously and harassed them until they gave her the child. i would like to meet the social worker who ruined my life. at this point in my life...
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my father has a wife and a kid in another country that he hasn't told me about.
Posted Sunday March 1 2015, 6:30 am
My father has another wife and a kid in another country. He and my mom are not married but he comes over everyday for dinner when he's in the country which is most times and takes us out for dinner/vacations/everything a father does. He didn't tell me about this other wife and my sister. I found out on my own. I don't know what to do with it though. He's a great father. And I can't wrap my head around this. My mother knows but when she had me she didn't. He promised he'd marry her. But he didn't yet he still is around with her. He doesn't give her much money only when she really really needs it and even then its a loan. So she's not here for the money. Every weekend we go to his house and they don't sleep together they actually talk. Somet...
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My cousin is destroying my life and family relationships
Posted Saturday February 28 2015, 8:52 pm
Me and my cousin used to be friends. Real close. That all changed when my family became homeless and I had to spend time with her more often. I felt very uncomfortable around her. The reason is because she has a hoarding problem just like her mom. She also has an issue with personal hygiene. She doesn't shower or cleans her clothes properly. Her mom is a pet and toy hoarder that lives in the basement of my grandma's house. I can't even enter the basement because it's so full of toys, clothes, cages, and pets (dead and alive). I couldn't stand being in that house because I felt so filthy just standing there by the front door. My cousin has not only no sense of personal hygiene, but no acknowledgment of personal space or boundaries. She has a...
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My mother expects me to pay her bills because she raised me?
Posted Thursday February 26 2015, 2:10 pm
So I was adopted by my grandma. My mom was in my life, though. Basically my mom and my grandma both raised me. Anyway, I'm 24 and I'm living in my own townhouse with my boyfriend in a completely different county. When I lived at home, I paid the bills and helped any way I could, because I lived in the house. However, now I have my own bills I need to pay. My grandma called me constantly asking for money to pay her such-in-such bill because she couldn't afford to pay it. I refused her once, and she would always bring up the fact she adopted me and that she raised me and that I owed her for it. Then, I end up having to go to court FOR her because the old landlord sued her and she refused to go. I'm now having to pay this debt to him because I...
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How to stop fighting w/ my dad?
Posted Wednesday February 25 2015, 10:11 pm
I've never been close with my dad, ever. We've always argued. It's probably because we're so similar. I got my anxiety and depression from him, so I guess that's probably because I take my anger out on him aswell.
We argue literally every day. 98% of the time is something negative. I do admit that I call him stupid, annoying, etc. out of anger (I have anger issues). He'll always say that I'm rude, annoying, even sometimes say I'm a bitch (Or that I'm acting like one). It doesn't get physical obviously. Usually I just get mad, go to my room, and slam my door. I am in my room 99.8% of the time. He just makes me so mad. He has a short fuse too. Even asking him a question will make him burst into flames. It's ridiculous. If I ev...
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Parents...divorce?
Posted Tuesday February 24 2015, 11:46 pm
Ever since I was little(I'm 17 now), my parents haven't gotten along. I don't know why they haven't gotten a divorce. They can never get along. We can't spend one day or ever go out as a family without them getting into an argument. They had a fight a few days ago and I feel like they're gonna have another one soon. And even if they do start talking to each other again (which is almost never), they just end up fighting again. They don't even talk to each other like normal parents, my dad never wants to talk about me or my brother or my sister(who has a disability). He never wants to talk to my mom about our family. He comes come, cooks for himself, showers, watches tv, and goes to sleep. He doesn't care if any of us have eaten but he always...
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Concerned about lonely teenage sister?
Posted Sunday February 22 2015, 2:15 pm
Me and my twin are very different.
We both go to different Uni's in different cities in Britain.
While I am getting on fine and have friends and a life outside work etc I am very concerned about my sister.
She lives in a flat with just three other boys. Two are Chinese and happily go about there business and are NEVER seen in the flat. And the other male flat mate is also never around as he has moved out to live with his girlfriend.
I stayed at her flat and it was very quiet. She is very shy and quite awkward in terms of making friends. She has very few and also she is on a course where most people are adult learners. She's 19.
I want to help her because I feel she's missing...
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What do men think about conversations?
Posted Wednesday February 18 2015, 2:02 pm
Hi men,
I would like to improve my relationship with my brother and father, so i want to understand them. My questions are for all men older than 20:
1. What do you think about having conversations with your mom, sister, daughter, or girlfriend/wife?
2. Can conversation help in solving problems in relationships or not?
3. If yes, how should a woman approach her male family member if they have a problem, or if he did something wrong?
4. How can he know what's wrong and how to solve it if she doesn't tell him how it affected her?
Thanks in advance.
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