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All I want is to love and have a good relationship with my family...
Posted Sunday January 11 2009, 11:37 am
22/f So i've had alot of battles between my mother and I. It started when I first got a boyfriend. She liked him until she heard he was my bf. Since then, nothing has been the same. We hadn't spoken for a few months when I first moved out and that was because I left on horrible terms. I did admit to my parents that I have done many wrongs to them, but my mom has never apologized for what she said to me. When I was 19,I found out that my mom was previously married @18 and had two sons who she had to give up for adoption because her ex forced her to.My parents kept it from us all our lives. At first I was angry,but then I felt sympathetic for her being she hasn’t seen her sons in years.The only reason why I found out about it, was because I...
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My so-called relationship with my parents seems fake and unfair!
Posted Saturday January 10 2009, 9:46 pm
I am a 22 year old Korean/Guamanian woman who has a mom that just doesn't get me...EVER! I constantly get disrespected from my sister, the one person who I thought I can depend on in my life. Since we were little, my YOUNGER sister has always tried to step over me and at first, I was a very passive person, but as I got older, I knew I wasn't going to tolerate it. The most recent incident was when I asked (NOW I MEAN ASKED) my sister to have a little more consideration for my parents when they drive 3 1/2 hours to pick her up from college and take her and her friend home (She asked my parents to take her friend along in front of her friend, so it made my mom feel obligated). I didn't try to be rude, I was being assertive about it and there m...
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His nutz
Posted Saturday January 10 2009, 3:49 am
Okay right now Im stressed REALLY! My mothers husband has given me this ultimatum which was I either follow hs rules or leave the house. because I stormed out of the lving room because he was basically insulting my character, criticizing me and putting me down like I was a nobody. And as always she fed right into it. It's like I've lst everyone important in my life and it hurts. I dont know what to do. I've said I'll straighten up, even though there's nothing to straighten up about, he's just made that I focus all my attention on my school work, instead of things he wants me to do. Im really sick of him, and to be honest, this whole ultimatum will turn on my mother, and she'll have to decide wether its me or him. I'm thinking of going throu...
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I hate my moms bf
Posted Friday January 9 2009, 12:18 am
im 16 and my moms boyfriend is an ass.
he talks constantly and gives 2 hour lectures about random stuff and gets pissed if i try to walk away (he lives in the house). Recently Ive been getting into a couple fights with him and I told my mom next time i'm going to go on the run. She said she loves me and doesnt want me gone but she still refuses to get rid of him. so basicly, I go on the run and go to jail (im on probation) or i live through this hell for 2 more years.
Its getting pretty bad, every day it gets worse and sooner or later im going to snap and punch him in the face if one of us dont get out.
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family issues....all my life
Posted Thursday January 8 2009, 6:25 pm
well to start out my mom is an alcoholic...she benge drinks..meaning she'll go on a month spurt of where all she does is lay in bed and drink. this has hasppened for my whole life..i can't remember a time when it wasnt going on. She is also bipolar..drinking is a symptom of this disease but they diagnosed her seperatly. well my whole also she has kind of isolated me from the world..wanting me to spend all my time with her. I didnt all the time but she made me spend mosto f my childhood with her. i am now 16. she still does this. we have been fighting so hard and i cant even tell her when i have a bf. no matter anyway if i did because she wouldnt let me see him. I have no life partly because of her. We have sat down and had numerous talks an...
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providing elder care to my mom
Posted Thursday January 8 2009, 3:11 pm
I am a 55 year old female; very interested in the healthcare field, studied for 8 years, am certified massage therapist, have experience in studying energy medicine. Now my 80 year old mother is living home but is missing some of her capacities. My dad died about 3 years ago, my brother lives with her and has a full time job so he's home only at night.
Because of my experience, I felt like the right person to provide her with some help. She has piles of magazines & catalogues all over the house but doesn't want them moved so it's difficult to clean. When I gave her a massage she ended up telling me what to do and when I try to help her make healthy choices in her food, she complained about all my cooking and I found stashes...
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Preagnat 15 year old sister and mom that frustrates me....
Posted Thursday January 8 2009, 12:37 am
ok so... i'm not like a perfect kid or anything but I'm not a bad one either. I'm 18 years old and I don't drink, do drugs, have sex, nothing. I never have and I don't plan on it. My 15 year old sister on the other hand has been mixed up in just about everything. She even got a tattoo and tried hiding it forever. My mom used to get on her so hard when she knew she was getting high and stuff. It took a huge turn at some point and I just don't know where. She keeps everything about my sister from my dad and it makes me so frustrated. My sister has this 19 year old boyfriend we'll call Dustin. Dustin in 19 years old and a loser. He doesn't have a job or anything. My sister would say she was staying and then go to his house instead.. at first m...
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Baby Daddy Drama
Posted Wednesday January 7 2009, 11:59 pm
I am 17, My son's bio father is 18 (John), My fiance is 19 (Nate) and my son is 2.
I am going to first list the reasons why my son's bio father isn't allowed to see him.
*When my son was a baby baby he never woke up with him in the middle of the night he just ignored him.
*I have a police report filled against my sons fathers father for saying he was going to preform a sexual act on my son.
*My sons father made the same comment and called him a BAS****
*We had an agreement of him seeing the baby every other weekend and him helping pay for diapers and milk, etc. and two months came around he never helped at all i was providing food and milk for my son.
*He brought him to my house after the we...
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he hates me.
Posted Tuesday January 6 2009, 5:20 pm
i cant do anything right with my dad. he acts fine around my mom and when im with my sister but when im alone with him, whatever i do he gets mad at me and blows up and screams and yells. when i call my mom at work to ask her for a phone number or to ask where something is he screams at me, then when i try to tell my mom she says no he would never do that...lalala. i dont know what to do anymore. it really upsets me because i just want his approval but im afraid to tell him to stop. hes thrown things before, not at me, but like thrown a lamp and a carton of clementines. i dont want him to do it again. what should i do to get him to approve of me?
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little sister vs boyfriend
Posted Monday January 5 2009, 2:26 pm
ok. i'm a 17 year old girl and have been dating my current boyfriend for 14 months. My 13 year little sister doesn't like him,.....at all. as in can't stand him! Every time I hang out with him or he comes over, she feels like I'm ignoring her feelings and picking HIM over her and my family. Here's the thing, my sister is the only one in my family (which includes her and 2 little brothers, and my parents) who doesn't like him.....I've tried to split my time between the 2 of them, but she still acts almost jealous anytime a spend time with or talk about my boyfriend...I'm a very family oriented person, so the fact that I can't invite my boyfriend to family parties because my sister dislikes him really hurts me. He's starting to get tired of i...
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Parental Overload
Posted Monday January 5 2009, 8:05 am
i am not really a social person.
and these holidays i haven't planned or want to plan any thing with friends.
My parents continue to pressure me too but i don't want to. i am going through a phase when i'm not sure who my real friends are.
I don't want to tell them and if i don't organize i have to clean up our house.
Can you give me some advice on how to tell who my real friends are and how to want to be socialable with my friends.
:)
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Life.
Posted Sunday January 4 2009, 2:22 pm
First Question: I am moving in with my fiance soon (we are sending our check in on the 23rd of this month) I am excited but a little nervous, any tips?
Second Question: I live at home with my father and my son right now. He is driving me crazy. I keep everything inside. When i try and talk he acts like he is 12. He acts like a child. I am always cleaning up after him, them he screams i dont do anything. My fiance and I have one car, I drive him too work at 9:45 am. i pick him up at 2. I go to work usally 4 (sometimes 2 when he needs to find a ride home) i take him back to work on my lunch break at 8. and pick him back up at 1 am. i am always cleaning and taking care of my child and all he does is complain and yell ( we just...
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I think my father is homeless but I am afraid to ask him!
Posted Friday January 2 2009, 12:44 am
Long story short..my dad is 53 years old,he is a very smart man but I am afraid that he is homeless.I live in another state,and up until a few months ago we hadn't spoken in a number of years due to a nasty family fued.
My father was spoiled and coddled all of his life by my grandparents,who also raised me,he always has had a good job but his parents took care of everything for him so anything he earned he kept for himself.They have both passed away and now due to some family infighting over my grandparents estate between my father and his siblings, the family home was sold and what little money my father received from that is long gone.
I feel that he is homeless,but I am afraid to ask him,I don't know if I ...
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I'm so sick of life
Posted Thursday January 1 2009, 9:32 pm
i'm so sick of being invincible by my parents...
I get straight A's....right? and still yet i gain as much stress and shit from my parents as if i'm recieving straight F's. I asked my mom if my boyrfriend could come over tom. and she said yes and i'm sick so i decided to take a nap but before i headed towards my nap i made sure with my mom that it was okay... and she said of course!
then i get up a few hours later and she makes me fold the clothes it takes me an hour and then i asked her for some dinner and she said alright i'll give you some soup. So i sat at the computer and just checkd email and facebook and she started yelling at me at how i didn't study at all and such. i figured that it was going to take my mom ...
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a national guilt trip: family and college
Posted Thursday January 1 2009, 6:15 pm
so, i, like many people my age, must get out of my hometown for college. i've lived here all of my life and it is a lovely place, really, but quite frankly i'm getting restless and a little claustrophobic in a city that is literally half my cousins and that anything exciting rarely happens in. not that big of a problem, if one at all. this has been a dream all my life. i live in the southwest and i'm dying to go to the East coast, particularly NYC or Boston. i know it will be difficult and expensive, but this is what i've always wanted to do.
well, lately, my family (again, half the city) has taken it upon themselves to outline everything wrong with my dreams. EVERYTHING. starting with the fact that i am much too soft and no...
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How can I convince my mom to let me go with my bfs church group to a trip?
Posted Tuesday December 30 2008, 6:47 pm
Im 17 female i really want to go to a trip that my bf is going to with his church group. I´ve been locked up all christmas vacation and i havent seen him in ages. My mom really doesnt like him at all in fact she even asked me to dump him. I really want to go...its a church thing and there´s obviously going to be adult supervision and its free...for me at least. She might say that all of this religious thing is bolony but my bf is really religious he always tells me to pray to god for things to get better and says a lot of things that my religious granpa says. Trust issues are not going that well but its all her assumptions. I really want to go....Im very responsible i work and give her almost all of my money, i get awesome grades, and Im ...
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My brother is a loser and I need advice!
Posted Tuesday December 30 2008, 4:42 pm
I'm a single mother of two kids, working full-time and going to college part-time. Through the years since I've been divorced, my little brother moved in with me to help me out. My parents bought a house and rent it to us. We split the rent and all bills evenly.
In September of this year, my brother lost his job. Since the economy is so bad, he's had a really hard time finding work, and takes whatever job he can to make extra cash, but can't seem to find a full-time job. So, for the past 4 months, I've been paying all of his bills, except for rent. He's racked up about $800 that he owes me. And I'll probably never see a dime of that.
He helps out sometimes, by watching my kids for me while I run to the...
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friends zone
Posted Tuesday December 30 2008, 2:26 pm
kayy i really like this guy but he sees me as a friend so how do i get out of the friends zone?
thanks
loveboys
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new years eve
Posted Tuesday December 30 2008, 1:39 pm
hey i need advice on where i should spend my new years eve.. my boyfriend that i have been going out with for 3 years wants me to spend it with him. And im 16 years old .. my dad aprroved of it and so did my mom .. but ill feel awkward around his family and not being with mine will upset me. i dont want to say no to him because ill feel really bad i kept saying wait till i get older for ever and now that we have a chance im thinking more about it and i need your advice.. ill miss my mom and i dont know will i regret not spending this new year with her? =[ i dont know anything. where should i spend the new years eve? my boyfriend wants to spend it with me at least till 12 im not sure what to do so ppppppppplease helppppp .
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should mother offer financial help to adult son
Posted Tuesday December 30 2008, 2:13 am
i am a 37 year old male and in financial dire straits. not enough space here to go into details. shame and depression have caused both spouses to lose jobs and any quality of life. we have become reclusive and no longer take phone calls or visits from anyone. mother has known of our difficulties for 1+ yr from other sources, since im too ashamed to speak to her. she hasn't attempted to call in 6+ months. i never thought she had finances to help, but today i learned thru a bank error that she has $62k in savings. should i be upset that she has not offered help?
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