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I'm a seventeen year old girl and two years ago I began to develop feelings for my step-brother (though in hindsight there were signs before hand). He is nearly nineteen and we used to see each other every weekend (I'll elaborate on that more in a moment). We have known each other for roughly ten years and we've always had a sort of love/hate relationship. We would annoy the hell out of each other and he would insult me/hurt my feelings, but when we hit the eight year mark and my other siblings (the ones I am related to by blood) stopped visiting my dad on weekends, things began to change. Before we would wrestle and be determined to win/injure the other, we wouldn't talk a lot unless we were insulting each other or disagreeing on one thing or another, but then things changed. Things became more, playful. We would still physically fight but there was no intent to hurt the other. We'd straddle each other a lot more often than before and just sit in that position and talk/have banter. Or when we got tired I'd lie on his chest and he'd wrap his arms around me, and we'd just stay that way for ages. We would still insult each other but it was not as intense as when we were younger. When I was fifteen, he got a girlfriend. His first serious girlfriend. That hurt a lot, but it was okay because I knew things would never work out between us anyway. In February 2012 during one of our more serious conversations, I confessed to my step-brother that I had feelings for him. Feelings that were not necessarily sisterly. He took it well and assured me that he would 'still do anything for me', 'nothing would change' and 'he didn't hate me'. And he was right, until my best friend stuck her big nose in and called his girlfriend a 'dog', and warned him that if he didn't leave her he would catch 'rabies'. After this my step-brother and I didn't talk a lot. In fact it wasn't until January 2013 that we really caught up again, and even then it was only a brief conversation at work but it was nice to see him. By this point I had moved on and any romantic feelings I'd previously had for him were long gone, however I did still miss the closeness and companionship we once shared. In February 2013 he and his girlfriend got engaged, but the engagement was incredibly short as they broke up two weeks later. One week after dumping his girlfriend of 18 months, my step-brother and I reconnected via Facebook chat, only things were somewhat different. Whilst the insults and banter were still there, he often commented about how I 'wanted' him, and argued that if he were to kiss me, that I would kiss back. I thought nothing of it and laughed it off. That is until I saw him whilst visiting my Dad on 3/3/13. The two of us soon found our common ground wrestling and hugging in his room like we used to. It was fun and exciting, and made me realise exactly how much I had missed the boy. Things slowed down and flipped between us hugging whilst I played with his hair and he listened to my heartbeat, or the two of us occasionally slapping the other. Whilst sitting in a half hug we somehow ended up back at our previous argument from Facebook about how I 'wanted him'. I went off on a rant about how I clearly didn't want him, and then he kissed me, mid-sentence. It was my first kissed so I was pretty stunned, but I kissed back nonetheless. Then we kissed a lot more after that until it was time for me to leave. My step-brother later told me that he only kissed me to 'prove a point' (that I wanted him) and it was only a one time thing. Worst of all is that he was acting totally weird with me over Facebook two days after we kissed. So now I'm confused, and hoping that someone on this site could offer me some much needed advice since I have no idea what to make of this situation, how to react and what to do. Thanks for reading this incredibly long question by the way... :) (link)
I agree with the point that it is "sincerely frowned upon. HOWEVER!
I don't see any issue with it, to be honest. Incest is wrong simply because on a biological level it cannot procreate a healthy, genetically diverse human being. But as far as marriage bonds go, I think they're all irrelevant and have no bearings on love.

So two kids parents fall in love, there's nothing wrong or weird about if they have completely non genetically related children whom fall in love as well. Love finds love regardless of age, race, religion, or bonds. Do I think having children with your blood relative is wrong? Yes, because I feel bad for the child. But as far as genetics go, if you're not related by blood, you'll create a normal human being in the eyes of the universe.

Think of it like what if two junior high kids were dating and their parents decided to get together and pop the question in the midst of their relationship. They would be considered step-siblings, but it would be more "socially acceptable" than the former.




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