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Hey! My name is Stephanie. I love to dance. I have a lot of friends. I love to go to the movies, go ShOpPiNg, and just be myself. Don't be scared to ask me a question because I'm probably going through the same thing. I hope I can help =]

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I go away to school and I have a little sister who I dont get a chance to see a lot. This past weekend, I came home but I didnt spend as much time with her as I should have. We got into a little fight and when I left, I didnt even say goodbye to her. Do you think she can forgive me?

Yeah! Just spend the next entire weekend with her and she will be fine. Take her where ever she wants. I'm sure she'll forgive you by then!

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Hey. Alright, this guy really likes me and no one has ever liked me like that before..people keep telling me to go out with him because he likes me and even if i dont like him, i should just "settle." Well, yea, um, i don't think thats right and im curious what your opinions are on that. Plus i really like this other guy but it would never work out for different reasons, and the guy thats likes me is sort of experienced and im..not..i want to save all my firsts for someone i really like. Should i just settle for the guy who likes me? Is it stupid to wait for someone i really like?

Don't go for a guy that you don't like. That's just not right. Wait until the perfect guy comes along and then go out with him. But if you spend more time with the guy who likes you then maybe you might end up liking him back. Just start out being friends and take it from there. I hope I helped =]

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There is this guy i have liked for awhile. Im pretty good friends with him. And everytime i see him i just want to run up and tell him how i feel. And i just want to be with him every second of the day because he is such a great guy! He is single too!!! I don't know what to do. Im way to shy to just come out and say it to him...but i just wish he would know. How do i go about doing this besides being straight forward about it?

Well ask a friend that knows him to tell him. Then soon I bet you anything that he will come up to you and say hi. He might even ask you out knowing that he likes you.

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is it ok to wear abecrombie aeropostale'and old navy together if it matches my friends say no but i was wonderin
HELP,
~FaShIoN CrIsIs~:>

Haha yes you can. Does it really matter anyways. No one is going to check to see if your pants are from the same place as your shirt. Just tell your friend that you can wear whatever you want without her telling you what to do.

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I have some friends that I used to know really well that I would talk to all the time, and we could talk about almost anything with each other; well not so anymore. And it seemed like all of a sudden we didnt talk. What happened and why? Is there anything I can do to reverse this?

Omg this same thing happened to me...
You can't really make them talk to you, but you can try to talk to them. Invite some of them over your sure to become great friends again.

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i really liked this guy and he like me. we met a couple months ago and the minute i met him, i like him. well my friend told me she liked him too and i never said anything about me liking him. now he told us both that he likes both of us and he needs to choose. well being the person that i am, i decided that i would rather be friends wit her then have a relationship wit him. but now i always see them together and its really hard for me. yesterday, after a compatition, she left to go to a party and me and him were just talking and he hugged me for like 10 min and a lot of feeling have been coming back. i dont know what to do. i dont know if i should tell my friend i still like him or what. please help me!

You should defenently tell her that you still like him. Your friend is probably someone who will listen to you. She couldn't get mad at you because she can't control your feelings. So just sit her down one night and tell her what's going on, and how you feel about it. I'm sure you can work it out amungst yourselfs. I hope I helped =]

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I think I'm fat and every1 makes fun of my behind my back. I just know it... what can I do to make it stop.

Signed,
Fattie

Okay:
#1 Size doesn't matter
#2 If your a girl... you probably aren't fat, we just tend to think we are.
You can talk to the people you think are talking behind your back and ask them to please stop. They will think your brave enough to come up to them and they will defentently stop. I hope I helped =]

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ok well i am the person that asked u before about the 2 groups of friends. well ya see they arent mad because i have other friends. its perfectly fine with them. its just sometimes they said that they feel like "back-up friends" and i dont do it on purpose.. idk.. its just hard.
i need help!

Okay well talk to them and tell them that they aren't your backup friends, if they are your true friends they would understand.

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i love you steffy ure the love of my life~

Hehe heyyy alicia. Nice question lol. Yes, I love you =)!

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so im going out with i guess u would call him a bad boy. every1 is telling me that he is bad and that i shouldnt go out with him, but i really REALLY like him! he is very sweet and all and not to mention cute but he has a bad rep. i know i still want to go out with him bc i cant picture myself with ne one else but how do i tell my friends to lay off?!? bc i love both my friends and him

Just tell your friends that he is sweet to you and that's all that matters. They shouldn't be getting into your "love life" anyways. Tell your friends that sometimes I wanna be with him and sometimes I wanna be with ya'll and if they are your true friends they should understand that. I hope I helped! =]

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well okay this is pretty confusing but listen close..lol well i have two groups of friends. one of the groups is a lil more popular than the other one. well the one that is less popular are some of my great friends i have had forever.. its just sometimes its hard to just b with them yano.. i dont kno what to do.. they are getting mad at me because they claim when i am with them i only talk about my "otehr friends" or my bf who is in that other lil groupie if u will... well this is really hard and i dont wanna choose between the two of them.. i just wanna find away to make everyone hapy.. please help!

~confuesd~

Okay.. wow this one is hard. If you brought the two groups together then you could have one big group of friends and ya'll can all be happy with each other. If you don't think that would work then just try to talk to your friends and tell them you have more friends then just that group. If they are your true friends they should understand. I hope I helped!

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hey i have a question no dur but here it is:

Well my best friend (that i've known for like a long time) and i are kind of like separating... we both hang out with different people at school. Yet we do an outside activity "together" we are both participating. I don't know what to do, we get a long outside of school most the time. Except at school, she is annoying. What do I do?

Well tell her that you would like to spend more time with her at school. If she says no then she's not your true friend, and start hanging out with other people. I hope I helped. =)

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do you heart me?

Well it depends on who it is! lol

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hey i am soooo confused because i like this guy but he is goin out with one of my best friends! this makes me a little bit mad! And also there is this guy that is super hot ! and he is now single but i don't think i would ever have a chance with him! should i aks him out or tell him that i like him???? Wat should i do?

Well if he's going out with someone else you have to get his attention and talk to him a lot more. Then he might notice that he likes you better than her. But if it's one of your best friends then just feel happy for her. =) Don't ever think that you won't have a chance with a guy. Just be yourself and I'm sure he will start to like you. I would suggest you tell him that you like him because he might like you back ;)

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theres this guy at my school that i really really really really ect. like a lot! hes really nice funny cute and perfect for me! he even flirts with me... and we have like 4 classes together...he even almost asked me out! but then he chickened out and asked this other girl out who he knew would say yes! and of course she did! it makes me sad..and kinda depressed. plus i really really really like this guy. what should i do?

Well you can just start talking to him more and soon he will get the impression that you like him. If he likes you better than he will break up with the girl he is going out with and ask you out. But if he turns out he really likes this other girl then I'm sorry but you can't really do anything about it. You could also tell you that you like him. It's better to tell the person you like that you like them because they might like you back. Well I hope that helps. Good luck!

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Last year at camp, there was this guy who's a little over a year younger than me that really really liked me and I guess I gave him the impression that I liked him as a friend. See, I was like the only one that was actually nice to him, and most people think he is reallyreally annoying, and so do I, but I didn't say it to his face. He was like in love with me or something and it drove me crazy how he was always following me around and stuff. Stupidly, before I knew he liked me, when he was collecting screen names, I gave him mine. When I found out he liked me, I figured he'd get over it during the school year and I wouldn't have to worry about it. I was really annoyed by his having to always hang around me, but turns out he was depressed and on meds and I didn't wanna ruin his life by telling him he drove me crazy. So when he brought up the topic of us going out, I told him I only liked him as a friend. He said that was better than nothing, and with the impression that I wanted to be his friend, (I suppose that impression was my fault) kept latching onto me and following me. The rest of that week at camp basically sucked but I figured he'd get over me. When I got back home, he of course kept IMing me. I figured he'd stop in a couple months. I didn't want to tell him I didn't really want to have anything to do with him, again, because of the depression thing. So I talked to him, and I really did give him a chance then, and I also did at first at camp, and I then knew for sure, for a fact, that I'd never like him and I really didn't want to talk to him. Howeverhe insisted I meet him at the mall on his birthday. I said I would, and decided after that, I would act like everything was alright, and we were friends, and then block him and claim that I lost IM in the middle of November if I saw him at camp. I've now followed through with the blocking him. But there is a very good chance that we will end up at the same camp session next year, and even though I no longer have to talk to him during the year, at camp he's going to assume we're best friends again. I don't want to hang with him AT ALL it's one of the few things I will not do to myself. But I can't really tell him that either because he's depressed and who knows what would happen. And I really have given him a chance, he's just not my type, and I feel bad for him because he's not ANYONES type. So I'd feel really guilty even if he WASN'T depressed. Please please reply. I have no clue what to do. I have asked so many people for advice, including a camp counselor whos a psychology major and always has a solution, and even she was stumped. If you can come up with anything please let me know. I also cannot just skip camp because it is the one part of the year I really look forward to and it's the best part of my life, but with him stalking me, it's not.

Okay wow.... this is a tough one. But I would have to say to just either ignore him at camp, or tell him that you don't want to be around him as much. I can tell that you can't tell him he is annoying because of the depression but you could tell him to leave you alone for and while and only talk to you once and a while. It's better than nothing. By next camp session he might be over his depression, and you'll just have to not feel guilty. He would eventually get over that and you'll just have to deal with it. I hope I helped and good luck at camp!

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I have this friend and shes really rude to other people, but nice to me. I don't want to be friends with someone like that but I'm afraid if I ignore her she will do something really mean to me. I don't know what to tell her

PlEaSe HeLp

p.s. your awesome =)

You have to tell her that you don't like her being mean to other people. If she was your real friend she would understand that! But don't ignore her that would end up as a big mess. Thanks for the question

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