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17/f
my question: Do I have anxiety? Should I seek help from a doctor or is it normal to feel this way?
I am just going to explain all of my feelings...
First off I am insecure about my body. Im only 5 ft tall so i dont think my legs are attractive, i Know im not fat im only 130 lbs, but I have..padding ha.. i have a happy trail, but butt could be more round and firm, my chest could be bigger, my hair needs to be thicker and my nose is big and my lips are thin. And I have moderate acne and I get it in bad spots like around my lips. I know every girl has something she wants to change about her body but I just want to feel beautiful, no one except my boyfriend, tells me how pretty I am or how good I look.
Second, I am a senior in high school and this has been the worst year of my life. I have half days but during the time im acctually at school, I don't really talk to anyone, not in class, in the halls, and I walk to class by myself. I see groups of kids come into my work and I envy them even if theyre not kids Id wanna hang out with. All because they have friends. My best friend just got married and moved to florida and I have two other good friends but we dont really even see eachother anymore. I never feel accepted by other people and I always feel like I am not good enough for anyone. I don't plan on going to prom, or having an open house grad party, because I dont even have anyone to go with or invite...
aside from my appearance, and socially, I am mentally stressed out all of the time. I worry about money(I am completely financially independant from my mother) I worry about school,( because I pay for everything, I work about 30 hrs per week) and I often just feel overwhelmed by everything in my life. the one thing that makes me happiest is shopping for new clothes or other stuff for my first apartment (I still live at home, for now)but then I spend all my money and am upset again because I don't have money for gas. and finally, I sometimes will be completely fine one second, but one little stupid thing will upset me and I blow up, crying, hysterically, and I flat out get really upset over something that would just annoy someone else. my boyfriend tells me I need anxiety meds. I try telling my mother and she thinks I am being over dramatic.
I am sorry this is alot to read, but please tell me how to help myself fix my insecurities and relieve my stress, or how to convince my mother to understand that just because she doesn't see my needs, does not mean that they arent there.
thanks ahead of time (link)
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It seems to me that there isnt anything wrong with you mentally or physically. Everybody feels like therre is something wrong with them physically, your not alone in that. But you should know that you are not ugly and there is nothing wrong with how you look. the type of beauty that is portrayed in tv and magazines isnt at all typical, although it may seem like it. Its really easy to see yourself in a negative light but its important to remember that everyone is beautiful in their own way. my mom always says that you wouldnt care what people thought of you if you realized how little they did.
in order to releive anxiety, you should take 30 minutes out of your day to do whatever you want. Try not to worry about your job or school, just sit down and read a book or take a nap, this way your mind has a chance to rest and after your thirty minutes is up, take a deep breath and work on whatever it is you need to do with a positive frame of mind. When it comes to your social life, you should make the first move and talk to someone who looks as though they dont have anyone to talk to. in your head it might seem as though they wont want to talk to you, but if your nice then they will appreciate your company. i can speak from experience because i met my best freind for eight years now in the corner of the cafeteria, where i was hiding from everyone because i was worried people didnt like me, and i'll always be grateful that she came to talk to me. Last thing, in order for your mom to understand your needs, you should try to have a heart to heart with her, but ask her to explain her feelings first and listen carefully, so that when it is your turn to talk, then she will hopefully feel obligated to listen to you and give serious thought to what you have to say. The goal is not to be completely right, but to find a common ground that you two can agree on, that way both of you are willing to comply.
i really hope this helps
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