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How do Christians deal with what they consider inappropriate sexual urges? I am a teenage girl and I have desires that I know are wrong to fulfill until I am married, and because I am Christian and believe the word of God.
For example:
Desires for a person that a Christian is not married to.
Desires for a person who is not Christian.
Desires for a person who is of the same gender.
I understand that I cannot make the sexual urges suddenly go away since they have to do with hormones and maturing, but how can I keep them under control as a Christian? I love God and I do not want to disrespect Him or my body by giving into sexual desires in this inappropriate time.
I want to be the best Christian I can be and I know that means controlling myself when it comes to sexual activity. Are there ways to limit these desires to very infrequent times or are they something I cannot lessen no matter what?
I am also considering speaking to my pastor about this problem but I would like to know if that is appropriate to do in the first place.
Any advice is appreciated! (link)
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Answer to question 1:
As a single Christian, I personally don't think anything is wrong with dating, but if you are to date then you have to ensure the other person is equally in strong faith as you or more so. It won't do well for you to date someone who struggles with the same problems you do and is weaker in faith than you because bad things can and will happen. I speak from my own experiences.
Answer to question 2:
Well I've been studying the bible and I personally believe that you shouldn't date someone who is not a Christian, regardless of how strong you think your faith is. It is something I've come to realize myself. Although people of this world, and note I said Of this WORLD will say that it's discriminatory, but it is instructed in the Bible countless times. God told Israel not to affiliate with the people who were outside of their race, the people of the land. We see how Solomon took for himself many wives and turned away from God. This is what God is trying to prevent. Also, in 2nd Corinthians 6:14 it is explicitly said not to be "yoked" with unbelievers, that is not to date or be married to them. Im sorry I don have scripture ref for the other examples.
Answer to question 3:
I don't really have much of an answer for this, but I know it is a difficult struggle. Try to avoid the temptations as much as possible and pray to God for the rest.
All in all, it's good that so many people have answered this question for you and I hope that you have spoken to your pastor about it and that he has given you, with reference to the bible, the answers you seek. I am also looking for answers to similar questions :). As for most of the answers, I noticed no one gave scripture references so you could seek answers in the Bible where the truth is. I suggest that you do that. The Solomon ref is in 2Kings, but I dont recall where exactly. Also, I personally believe masturbation is a sin bcuz of its addictive qualities and how it can cause you to think and act. I pray for wisdom for both of us on this journey and I hope you have gotten your answers within the time you wrote this 3 years ago and the time I have answered. God bless! :)
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