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I have been married for almost 20 years,I have 3 kids with my wife.Recently my wife has had a relationship with a younger guy who live just down the road from our home.She prommised that she would not see him again,but I have seen tem together recently-she is still seeing him.
She met him at our local Bar where we socialize most weekends.
The humiliation has been unbearable as everybody in our village knows about this affair,I was the last person to find out.
My question is this :
What should I do, I know this is a strange question,I'm unable to make a decision as my head is in such a mess.
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You really need to do what's best for you. You can't be in a healthy marriage if you two aren't connecting and sooner or later, your children will see that.
You deserve to be happy, and cheating is a horrible/selfish thing to do to you, and not to mention your entire family.
You know what's going on, and you should sit your wife down and tell her that she can't have it both ways. Actually, you shouldn't even have to sit her down. I mean, you said that she said that she wouldn't see this man again correct?
She went back on what she said, and that's not cool. You really, really should do what is in your best interest and get out of that unhealthy situation that you happen to be in.
I hope this helped, and I do wish you all the best in the final decision that you make.
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I just got out of a realllllly bad relationship with this guy that betrayed me so badly, after being with him for years.. he started being close to all these girls and totally forgot i even existed, anyway so theres this guy in my school i talked to twice, my best friend hates his guts cause when they were younger he used to pick on her, im not sure if he still does pick on her or not but honestly i think that she needs to let it go since they were young, and they both dont like eachother but i dont honestly think i have anything to do with it, hes been kind of showing me that hes intrested in some ways,im not sure, but i dont want anything serious at all, i dont really want anything at all, i just want a friend because i didnt really have any because my ex was so controlling.. so basically i just want to feel desirable again, but nothing more than friends, my best friend told me shed think i was a horrible best friend if i were ever friends with this guy cause it would be betraying her and making her look bad, but i dont think so , what do you think? do you think she needs to grow up a little and let me be free? or do you think im a bad friend? honest answers please. thank you. (link)
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I really think that you should take your best friend's feelings into account for sure. I have been in similar situations and a guy really is not worth losing someone as special as your best friend over, you know? Who have to think long term in some situations. Like, who will most likely be there longer and really care for you.
As for the dude who seems to be interested in you, you say you just want to be good friends with him, but do you really think it's OK to be leading him on the way you are? I mean, if you really, desperately need this guy in your life then I think it'd be wise to sit him down and tell him what you are looking for, not a boyfriend, but a friend. And it'd also be respectful to him as a person and his feelings, along with yours too.
I hope this helped you, and I wish you the best in your situation. But really think about the whole best friend issue first off before going and doing anything with this guy.
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