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Last Labor Day, we allowed our 11-year-old son “Brian” to spend the long weekend at the fishing cabin of his best friend Logan; we had our doubts about this, since Logan's mom was alwys kind of a flakey neighbor, but Logan’s family was then moving out-of-state, so this was the last chance the boys would have to spend time together. Brian had a wonderful time. Flash forward six months: I receive a belated holiday letter from Logan’s mom, explaining that she was finally getting organized after their move, and was enclosing a disc of photos taken during Brian’s weekend at the cabin. Most of the pictures are innocuous: the kids climbing trees, toasting marshmallows around the campfire, etc. But there are also a dozen photos of Brian and Logan completely naked, playing in the river and on the beach. These pictures leave nothing to the imagination--you can tell who is circumcised and who is not in every shot. Logan’s younger sister is in a couple of the photos as well.
When we asked Brian, he acknowledged that the kids went skinny dipping whenever they went to the river, and said that Logan’s mother had an album which had lots of naked photos of Logan, and so it all seemed okay at the time. We had no idea when we allowed Brian to go that Logan’s mother would be photographing him in the buff. I am furious with this woman, and I want these pictures deleted before they wind up on the internet, but I don’t know what to do. Our lawyer says that in our state such photos are not illegal if they are not sexual in nature, and the best she could do is write to Logan‘s mother and ask her to erase any photos of Brian. My husband says we shouldn't antoganize her, since there is no way we could know if she actually erased the pictures, and we should just chalk it up to experience. We also don’t know what to do with the disc: Brian wants it himself, and says the disc was of his trip, and was sent to him (the envelope was addressed to me). I’m afraid if he keeps it, his sister may get hold of it and show the pictures at school, as she has been teasing him she will do. Any ideas on what to do?
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Thanks for your thoughts, folks! Younggrandma, limiting the teasing is what I am TRYING to do! Brian has taken more than his share of ribbing already--it has played out is as embarassing a fashion as possible for him. I wouldn't have brought his sister into the discussion, but she saw the pictures before I did. Liz was home when the letter arrived, and Brian wasn't. (She also knows Logan well. She's only 14 months older than Brian, and Logan is exactly-to the day-in between them, age-wise, and she and Logan were on the same soccer team for years). So when the letter came, I opened it and read the holiday form letter out loud to her, and she asked if she could put the disc on. Unfortunately, her cousin was visiting and was with her when she opened the pictures, and when my sister went to see what the girls were giggling about, she found the pictures and called me in to come take a look. So before Brian had even come home, poor guy, four females in his family had already seen and been talking about the pictures.
I did make a disc for Brian minus the naked photos, but no good, he wants the original one. I'm really not a prude about him going swimming naked, and I've told Brian that I didn't think he did anything wrong. I just can't help wonder who Logan's mother shows her photos to--if she doesn't mind sending me photos in which her OWN son is naked, why would she mind showing off photos of my son to others?
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