Member Since: July 16, 2008
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Last Update: July 16, 2008
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I'm 16/f and I guess I'm just kind of confused about love. I learned in my psychology class that the psychological definition of love is passion+intimacy+commitment (passion meaning sexual attraction and romantic feelings, intimacy meaning being close and feeling close to someone, and commitment meaning wanting to be there forever and making that clear to the other person).
All of that said, I have a boyfriend who I have been with for two years. We've talked about love and about what we feel for each other. Neither one of us are completely in love with each other (because no matter how close we get, I'm still insecure and I still don't feel close and no matter how much he cares about me and wants to stay with me, he finds it hard to believe that we will last forever since we are only sixteen). Both of us want to be in love, but we just aren't. It's highly frustrating for me, because it always feels just out of my reach.
As for why I don't feel close, I think it's because I have been in love before - full, complete love. His name was Eric and he was my best friend. He didn't see me in a romantic way, though. So, I had to settle with hanging out with him alone all day, talking to him on the phone with him all night, and never actually dating him. This also was annoying - until he stopped being my best friend to go do drugs. Then what we had before started to seem like a dream come true. I now long for the days when I had someone who I truly felt close to.
I want that again, but I don't know how to go about feeling closer to my boyfriend. Also, I don't know how to make him feel committed when he thinks we are too young.
Thanks. =)
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Well, first off, be realistic. Your boyfriends probably right, it may not last. The fact that he doesn't think you will last just proves you probably won't. Don't worry though, whatever happens, will happen. At 16, everyone is confused about love, trust me.
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