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Okay, so friend and I were friends with a now former friend for about three years almost. It would have been four if she did not blow her chances. A few months ago, she lost her temper with the both of us. My friend send her a package for her birthday in the Summer of last year. So this former friend got mad over that she had to sign it, but so what big deal? If you have to sign it, then sign it. Don't make a huge fuss about it, well apparently she did and she called us names for no reason as we didn't do anything wrong. Shes told us to stop writing to her(we were penpals before she did this) and said she would throw everything away if we sent her anything, etc. We have not send her well at least I have not send her a letter, etc since this happened. This really hurts. I mean, she never really got to know us over the three years we have been friends with her. We were trying to be good friend to her and all, but she blew it several times. She never got to know us or about us. When we were friends with this former friend of ours because all she cared about was herself and her constant rants about her past with her former boyfriend or her former friend(let's call her "Kate" to protect her real name) which she has done this for years, its like "move on already" She usually just bashes Kate and it's like "what kind of friend is this if she is going to just bash people and all and not get to know you"
She has constantly bashed us on various websites for no reason and most recently on another site we are all on. Again we aren't doing anything wrong to her as we are just going on with our daily lives and all. We have asked her to stop the bashing and all and she would for about a day or so and then she will go right back at it again and yeah we have given her plenty of chances to prove she can be a friend and all. She just doesn't and she just doesn't care. She goes on apologizing though but her sorry's don't mean anything because the minute she says "Im sorry" she is back at bashing us, etc again. If she really means she's sorry, then she wouldn't keep on bashing us and all. Everytime she says sorry though, she goes right back to bashing us again for no reason and yeah she even admitted she doesn't know how to be a friend. I mean, shes in her 20s and doesn't know how? Wow. That says alot. In an Instant message, she says she uses people to spy for her to see what we are saying about her and all and nope. None of our blogs and all say anything much about her at all. Also she likes sending people used stuff as she calls them care packages. Care packages are usually for people overseas and from what she sends, It's usually used stuff no one wants. She wastes her money on people, stuff no one wants when she should be paying off her debt an yeah she said she says she is in debt. Also most recently she does not reply to the blog topic because that is where we blog most, etc because everytime I post one or a friend posts one, she usually doesn't post to what the bog is about. It's usually about her or having us to ask her former friend Kate to talk to her and all and Kate bought this up. Kate, another good friend of mine and I don't blame her for not wanting to talk to this former friend because she bashes her too for no reason. This former friend says Kate should get beat up and get hit by her former boyfriend and yeah Kate is getting married sometime this year maybe to her current boyfriend. so yeah I don't blame her for not wanting to talk to her former friend and all. We have told this former friend to stop all this but she doesn't listen. Also we have told her many times to just move on from her past. Nope. doesn't listen. she doesn't like listening to the truth as she doesn't like the truth. She also makes up lies about us and it hurts and what's worse is the name calling and all. for no reason. And Oh yeah, since my friend and I have been sick she has been claiming to be sick too which everytime we are both sick, she says she is sick, so I think she's just copying us what we say and all for attention, etc. But what hurts is the name calling and the lies. We have not done anything wrong to her to deserve this as we all have lives. My friends both work, etc and I'm trying at least find a better job myself. People have told us and stated what this former friend is doing is wrong and we have been told to get an authority figure involved. I have her address but not sure how much anyone would help and all. So I dont think it's an option. So I would love some advice on this.
So any advice on this on what to do? Thanks (link)
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Is what she doing called "Cyber bullying?" as well? Im trying to figure this all. Thanks. :)
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