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Member Since: June 24, 2020
Answers: 3
Last Update: June 24, 2020
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So I have been seeing my girlfriend for almost 1 and half years now. I was a single parent when i met her and we are what we think an amazing couple. Very alike yet still different in the right ways. Talk out almost any and all issues. She came into my life embracing my daughter and even planning days to spend and bond with her. Well covid 19 happened as we all know and my daughter for 2 months was stuck at her mothers since I was still working and going into work. Well over that time of quarantine my girlfriend moved in. All was really good but then my daughter was able to re enter living with us on shared time. Well my girlfriend over these past month and a half has been distant at times. We talked about it and me hoping they would still build on there strong bond but she says she has a sense of jealous towards my daughter. She feels almost out of place at times and i try hard to integrate but sometimes it comes down to "youre her dad so you do that or take care of this." She also tells me how lucky I have 2 sources of love with her and my daughter. I just feel blind sided and beside myself over it all. How do I work this out? im a male of age 30 (link)
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Hi. As a parent, your child should come first above anyone. Your significant other should always know her place and understand that a sense of jealousy isn't always right in this type of situation. Your child should always feel safe and secure with whomever your s/o might be.
You should talk to your girlfriend and let her know that now that she lives with both you and your daughter, some things might change a little. You should sit down and have a talk on how you both feel, as well as set some priorities and clear certain things.
You should also let her know that she can't keep acting this way because it can lead to a lot of problems and changes which can also unfortunately involve a breakup. Keep in mind that she might also be feeling distant because it's a change and it can take her a while to get used to.
Remember that it's not your fault and some things can be difficult and confusing to deal with, but you'll get through them. Stay safe, and I am here whenever you need someone to talk about something. I hope this helped :)
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Im a trans-male and i am straight. But i am not attracted to straight girls and i like the personality of bi girls. I do not want to fetish Bisexual women but i just would like to only date bisexual girls. Straight women for me "act different" and i am not attracted to that. Im sorry if I am being rude to bisexual women but i just need to know if its okay to only be attracted to bisexual girls. Thank you (link)
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Hey! To start off, I want to let you know that there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being YOU.
Your gender doesn't have to fit a specific norm. Just because you are a trans-male doesn't necessarily mean you only have to be attractive to straight women.
Whomever it is you feel a better connection with is really who you should be going for. Don't ever think that something isn't okay just because it isn't as common.
It is perfectly fine being attracted to a bisexual woman rather than straight one. Don't ever feel less or weird because of your preferences.
Remember that no one is allowed to judge you for who you are or what you like. Keep on doing you and stay safe. I hope this helped :)
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A few weeks ago my boyfriend and I got into a fight about me going back to work, because he's worried about the risk from COVID-19 and I work in a hospital. We eventually reached an agreement and I promised him I'd stay safe, let him know about my shifts, immediately stop working if my hospital admitted a case, and immediately stop working if the virus spread rates started getting too high. The cases are "too high" now, and he wants me to stop working and hold to my promise, but if I do it now, then I'll lose my job because prior to all this, I hadn't worked in 3 months due to the lockdown and wanting to keep my parents safe. He says he can't trust me anymore because I can't keep my promise, and I said I never should have had to promise to begin with, that he should have just trusted me to handle my own terms of employment. I told him it feels like he's being controlling over this whole thing and he got upset with me because he says he'd never try to control me.
I know his concern and actions are just from a place of care and that he just wanted me to be safe, but I can't help but feel a bit trapped. I don't want to break my promise and I feel awful that I put myself in a position where I wouldn't be able to follow through on a promise - I realize now that I never should have made it, because I didn't take into account that I might have to quit so soon... That's on me and I realize that, and I don't want to lose his trust, but I also feel like he's being a bit unfair to me here. I don't really know what to do (link)
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I think that once again, you should try talking to him. Explain him how you feel but also make it clear that this job is one that you love and can't just let it go. Especially during a pandemic like this. Although his health concerns are fully valid, as a boyfriend, he should be supportive as long as of course, you are staying safe. Keeping promises isn't always easy, but I'm proud of you for handling it well. Once again, if you do feel he is being controlling and unfair as well as makes you feel trapped, it might not be a good sign. Take some time for yourself whenever it is possible and sort things through so you no longer feel this way. Don't be afraid to make bold moves. Keep in mind that change can also be beneficial at times. Remember, it's never your fault so don't ever feel that way. Everything has a solution and I really hope you find yours. I'm here if you ever need me. Stay safe and I hope this helped.
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