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I am a senior in college, and at this point I feel as though I have hit rock bottom. I have done everything imaginable to be successful, and yet I cannot manage to accomplish anything I want to. Some times I get so depressed that I am just going to end up doing nothing.
I hate to say this, because it would kill so many people I know, but sometimes it makes me consider suicide. My sister is not making really good choices right now, and my parents are so proud of me, because I will be the first one in my family to graduate. My death would also crush my boyfriend.
For the third time I was denied for an internship that I really wanted. After interviewing last week they told me at this point they have chosen to go into another direction. I am sick tired of these rejections. Not that I really believe in God, but I have been so desperate that I even prayed that I would not get another denial for an internship. All I wanted this summer was to intern in the city that way I could gain experience, while living with my boyfriend of four years.
The funny thing is that I know that I am more qualified than my peers for these positions. I have succeeded in college, earning a 3.96 GPA, succeeding in all relevant courses. My best attempt is to make sure that I understand the company inside and out, and what they represent. I review the job description, and try to prepare as much as possible.
My boyfriend told me that maybe I should be more involved, the funny thing is that I have been. This might sound like a crutch, one of the reasons why I have not been as actively involved in extracurricular activities related to my major is because I do not drive, and it is hard for me to get anywhere. At the same time I worked as a peer mentor, volunteered at the local hospital, am a member of the Honors Advisory Board, was the president of the History club at my last school, and will be the president of the Management Information Systems/Management Information Technology club. As you can tell, I have not really been a slouch.
Of course my resume looks like I have not really worked for a year. That is a downfall for me. I decided not to look for a job until this summer, because I did not think it would be practical to work. I commute to school every day by cab, train, and bus, so, although I only go to school in the next county it takes a while for me to get there. I am unsure if that’s done anything.
So, what do I do if this summer works out like I think that it’s going to? Without me working at an internship? I understand that I should try to get any job that I can right now. But where do I go after graduation? Even the entry-level positions that I have looked at that do not require much experience prefer internship experience. I have heard that I cannot even get into any of the MBA programs that I want unless I gain three to four years of professional experience.
The last time I tried to get any feedback from an employer, the person who gave me his business card never got back to me.
My cousin whose four years older than me, went for the same thing as me (a B.S. in Finance) and graduated right after the financial recession of ’08, and is now working as a Financial Analyst. Of course she interned for a semester, and is more outgoing than I am, so that likely helped her along.
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Not getting an internship isn't the end of the world, and definitely not worth killing yourself.
I have a question, why don't you drive? You must be about 21 correct? Do potential employers know you do not drive? This is a really big turn off to employers, and may be a reason why you are not getting hired.
You should practice what to say in an interview, and work on your resume. I think you should focus on being friendly and connecting with them in some way.
I have plenty of friends who did not get internships, and still found jobs right away.
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My best friend from college recently introduced me to a guy who she thought I would really like. Him and me are in a wonderful relationship now and I truly love him. She has known him since they were kids and nothing ever happened between them. But,recently she broke up with her long term boyfriend and is quite in the dump. My boyfriend and I are her best friends and we're doing our best to console her. And here is where the problem lies: I am jealous. And I feel really guilty because of it. Firstly,because I know he is a great guy and he loves me dearly,he has never given me the slightest reason to be jealous. And secondly,she is my best friend and she was the one who brought us together. I have a few very bad experiences,and as a consequence I find it very difficult to fully trust him,despite the fact that he's proven he loves me so many times. And I know how slimy some girls can be after a break-up,to even go as far as stealing someone else's boyfriend. I am very troubled by my jealousy since I feel I don't have a valid reason. I don't know what to do. I don't want to get in the way of their friendship,but I feel hurt when they text. I have already talked to my boyfriend,he says they are just friends and that he never even thought of her as a girlfriend. My friend says they are just good friends and that he's not even her type. I don't think they are really lying,I'm just afraid and paranoid. (link)
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The problem is not them. You don't trust your boyfriend or your best friend. You mentioned how "some girls can be so slimy after a break up" you really think your best friend would do that to you? These are the two people that you are supposed to trust the most outside of your family.
You need to realize that your best friend would never do that to you. She set you up with him, obviously she has no desire to ever be with him then. Girls like to keep guys to themselves, but if they pass them off to someone else.. it means they were never interested in them. Also, anyone my friend has ever dated, I have never felt attraction for. I know that he is with someone else, and it is my friend. The idea never even enters my head.
Also, if you really love your boyfriend, you wouldn't worry about it. It's ok to get jealous sometimes. I would be mad if it was a random girl. But, he is talking to your best friend, who he was friends with before you got together also.
You need to relax, and not ever bring this up to them again. Your best friend would be really mad at you, and may even act out of spite.
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